PeggyPup Posted October 19, 2011 Share Posted October 19, 2011 (edited) First I should mention: I'm not interested in a relationship right now. I hook up with friends sometimes, but the relationship is always platonic - if feelings start to develop we agree to stop and move on to other ventures. Anyone who knows me well knows this. Usually I'll only explore the possibility of hooking up with a guy if it's sort of a "Done deal" meaning he makes it pretty obvious that he's into me. I usually don't care for mind games. With that said.... I've been good friends with this guy for about a year. We're both college students. Nothing ever happened between us before(he had a girlfriend up until this past summer). He invited me to a party at his apartment a couple weeks ago, I had a bit too much to drink and we hooked up. Not sure if this is relevant or not, but he DOES NOT drink so he was completely sober. We both had a blast, it was a great night. The only thing was, after all was said and done and we were lying in bed, he thought I was asleep, and he was doing sweet things like rubbing my back and kissing my neck. Guys don't usually do that when we hook up... the next morning I left before he woke up. Here's the thing: I would definitely hook up with him again, it was awesome. But now I have no idea what's going on. We have classes together and for the first week we talked just like we always have, no biggie. The next weekend he's playing with his band at a concert. I go, and when he sees me, he compliments my boots and ends up sitting in the corner flirting with me for the last hour even though all our friends are in the front dancing(I had a headache so I was sitting out the last set). He arranges a study date for the next night for us for a test coming up, so I think maybe he wants to hook up again....then he invites our two other friends in our class. So I figure he actually wants to study! But THEN he texts me the next day and starts flirting with me again. He tells me I should stay late and help him study a little more. So I go, we all study, everyone else leaves. While he's up picking a movie, I move to the couch to get more comfortable...when he sits back down, he makes sure to sit RIGHT next to me so we're essentially cuddling...he also gave me his sweater to wear when I said I was cold. It's a long movie, I end up falling asleep huddled next to him with my head on his shoulder. When I wake up, we laugh, flirt a little bit, but then I just head home, no attempts were made to hook up. He's let me give him a backrub after class before but otherwise... I feel like I'm getting hot and cold signals from him. He'll flirt but then make no attempt to hook up? When we're just hanging out it's like it always was, we just talk like friends. But then we'll get into weird positions like that...I have no idea where he stands. If any guys can tell me if he's just messing with my head or something,, let me know! I'm intrigued for now, but my patience is growing thin. EDIT TO NOTE: I'm not sure he has feelings for me either, because we make no attempt to contact each other on days we don't see each other. He's not itching to spend lots of time with me. Edited October 19, 2011 by PeggyPup Link to post Share on other sites
shakez07 Posted October 20, 2011 Share Posted October 20, 2011 it seems like he likes you. Maybe he doesn't want to come off as a jackass and attempt to just hook up with you, instead marinate you with nice gestures to show that he's not aiming just to hook up with you. Link to post Share on other sites
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