Author mike588 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 i did the same thing. i never made any attempts to contact him. but i would spend the weekends in bed, crying and watching movies or sleeping. i rarely combed my hair and if i did venture out of the house i would wear a hat, an old coat, a dirty pair of pink fake fur boots and my pajama pants with cows printed on them. yeah - - it was a people of wal-mart moment. Ha Ha. I needed a laugh, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Oh God, I fought sooo hard to look happy when I went out in public that I'd usually fall out in bed when I got home, it was exhausting. My ex and his wife tried showing up every place where he knew I hung out. They wanted so badly to grind my face in their crap. So I'd take extra care with my hair, make up and outfits. Id smile, grin like the grinch that stole Christmas everywhere I went, took pictures with a whole lot of people and posted them on facebook, that was so hard, but it was worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucy2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Nope. I haven't texted/called or contacted him in any way since he dumped me exactly a week ago. Its been so, so, so hard, but I refuse to beg him to give things another go. Day 7 of No Contact and I miss him but I'm not going to contact him, he knows where I am. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Ha Ha. I needed a laugh, thanks. heheh. glad i could oblige i don't like getting dressed up in the first place. but back then it was even harder to pretend that i cared when i really didn't. i'm pretty much over him now. but the only difference in my appearance now is i'm back to combing my hair and i don't wear my pjs in public - - as much. hahahahah Link to post Share on other sites
lonelynyc Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 During and after my breakup, my behavior was equal parts desperate, pathetic, and embarrassing. While broken up I was at her beck and call, if she wanted sex, a sympathetic ear, someone to keep her company, I'd be there. I'm undecided as to which desperate, foolish act was worse: walking her dog for her (a la Walter Sobchak in The Big Lebowski) or comforting her when she called me because she was sad some new guy rejected her. Either way I invested way too much time and energy and sacrificed my dignity for someone who didn't give a **** about me. I have no desire to ever speak to her again. It's not NC anymore, it's just OVER. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 heheh. glad i could oblige i don't like getting dressed up in the first place. but back then it was even harder to pretend that i cared when i really didn't. i'm pretty much over him now. but the only difference in my appearance now is i'm back to combing my hair and i don't wear my pjs in public - - as much. hahahahah Haha. I didn't shower for days , or wash or brush my hair. I had to cut it short as it was just too knotty and gross.And to top it off , I caught head lice from the kids at the kindergarten I work at.Hot. Link to post Share on other sites
missed_theboat Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I've done it all. When I was younger, I'd do the whole calling 100 times thing, being a jerk, screaming, leaving angry messages. Now, it's a combination. Sometimes at the beginning, I would call for a couple days, or send texts--then stop. He always called after a week or even sometimes three days. Currently, I do not call or text. During this breakup, I have been more mature, because I have understood and I am still in contact with my ex--the lines are open. I am trying not to abuse that, so I do not call or text right now. I let him make those moves, since he is the one who broke it off. Link to post Share on other sites
thebig-guy Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I did alot to try and rescue the breakup while it was happening. She was telling me she doesnt know how she feels about us. So i sent a letter and flowers. These did F@ck all, she still had the same lack of feelings. Its now nearly a month from breakup, ive been calling her pretending to be over her and having a joke around. Totally not cool. Ive only recently stopped contact all together with her as still talking to her stops me from moving on. The only thing keeping me from contacting her is that i know she can contact me if she needs to. The strange thing is that she is back home in a week after working 8 months abroad. So im pretty sure once shes back down to earth the regret will kick in. At least i hope it does. Link to post Share on other sites
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