BlackBird911 Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Things were moving along well and now I am stuck. Short story, I met this girl I love 5 years ago, you can call it love a first sight. She was engaged and everything fell apart. I don't even know if I am to blame for it. But she wasn't in a happy relationship. She is a single mom at the age of 15 and the father isn't around. I believe people deserve a second chance in life. At first thing were moving too fast and I got scared and I missed my chance to go out with her. I figure I move on. But she was always there with me, we did a lot of crazy things together as friends, no sex involved. We are very close to each other. I let her go again. Her second relationship had ended because he didn't care for her child. She refused to sleep with him. So he cheated on her with other woman. To make things worst. All of this just came to light recently from another friend who worked with him, she told her this last week. She stopped talking to him since July. They say curiosity kills the cat. She when on to his facebook and read his messages. So she found out he cheated her with 3 other women, 1 being her friend. She is so depressed that she doesn't want another relationship. And I am kind of upset for the time I spent getting where I got to at the moment. I was so close to asking her if she wanted to start a relationship with me. Now I am confuse with the whole situation. We talk and flirt as friends. We even talked about our future together. She even said that if we was still single when she is 30(26 at the moment) she would marry me. We are pretty much best friends to each other. I wanted a relationship her so bad and at the same time. I feel so bad for her. I have plan to take her out again, but I want to talk to her and not put her on the spot. I really don't know what to say. I want to give her space and at the same time I don't want to lose her again. And I know you all will tell me I am crazy to be in this situation. My other friend told me to move on, but I love her dearly. Should I wait for her to come around. Or risk losing a relationship I have built with her and just be stuck in the friend zone. Link to post Share on other sites
LynnieBear Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Hard to say, I am in a similar situation, only I am the girl in the friendship. The friendzone sucks, and I am trying not to pressure him, but it's hard to do because he is a self labeled &$$hole. You know it's bad when the call themselves that. It's just up to you. If it gets to be too hard, cut contact. If you can handle it, then don't. Personally I think it's a really unfair relationship to be in for the both of you. (speaking from personal experience) right now I am trying to go "no contact" from my guy wish me luck heh and good luck with whatever you decide to do Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlackBird911 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 Thanks LB, Every time I leave her along, she always comes back. Me and her joked about being friends forever awhile back. I really don't know what to say or do. Maybe go with the flow and treat her as the greatest friend I ever had. I guess I can deal with companionship. Since both of us have very few friends to start with. The ultimate decision is up to me. Ill figure it out as I go along. Link to post Share on other sites
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