AHardDaysNight Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 I guess it's harder for guys who have never even felt the inside of a vagina. I try to keep the faith, but it's so hard when everyone else is having sex except you.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Dude unless you were born by C-section you felt it, you just don't remember because you were too young. You know what I mean. I've never had sex.
somedude81 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I know what you are saying somedude. Trust me I have gone extended periods of my life (re: years) without sex or a relationship and it nagged and nagged at me. All that inner nagging dwindled my own self confidence. I recently got dumped in the longest relationship I had ever had (6 months) and am seeing things much more clearly now. The relationship was never what I needed for validation, it was getting my own ass in gear and taking action in my own life. However it is a bit of a catch 22.. Had I not had the relationship and the experience of heart break and loss, I probably wouldn't have ruminated on it and come to the conclusion I am at now. It is kind of one of those things where you have to experience the highs and lows of it first hand in order to get to a point where you stop giving a crap. I have not been with a girl since she dumped me and it has been probably a little over 2 months since I got laid and I really could care less. I'm talking to other girls now and going out and having fun, but I'm no longer emotionally invested in the whole 'I must get laid tonight in order to validate my continued existence on this earth' game. If it happens, sweet, if not, nothing really changes and I'll continue going about my business and living life to my fullest capabilities. Thanks for going into more detail. The bold part is something I've been saying for a long time. People keep telling me that I need to be happy by myself. But it's really hard to do that when I've never experienced the highs. So it's the only thing I can think about and it's my life's mission. Once I actually get there, then I can be one of those people who say, "Sex, meh. It's not that big of a deal."
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 In reading some of these posts I want to point out something. Confidence doesn't mean getting all the girls or even not being shot down. I get shot down all the time, but I score a lot also. It really doesn't matter. Girls like it when a man isn't a punk.
somedude81 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence is knowing you can do something even if it takes you a few tries to do it. The problem that the unsuccessful guys have with women and about confidence, is that it's never worked out right. It's impossible to be confident about something you've never done successfully.
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence is knowing you can do something even if it takes you a few tries to do it. The problem that the unsuccessful guys have with women and about confidence, is that it's never worked out right. It's impossible to be confident about something you've never done successfully. Ya know, you got a good point. But they better get with it and start sometime. You have to walk before you run. Make your first dime before your first million, etc., etc. Everyman has been turned down, even Brad Pitt.
Art_Critic Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I've had sex with about 30 partners. Whenever a woman asks me how many, I say 7. What's your remedy for that, Inspector Gadget? ScienceGal, just hearing that someone sleeps around is a turn off? Do you just accept statements like that from anyone, or do you make sure they're credible before completely disregarding someone you don't know? You obviously believe it too... or you wouldn't lie about your number and cut 3/4 of them out
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 You obviously believe it too... or you wouldn't lie about your number and cut 3/4 of them out I find woman don't really care as long as they are treated good when you're around.
MaxNoob Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence is knowing you can do something even if it takes you a few tries to do it. The problem that the unsuccessful guys have with women and about confidence, is that it's never worked out right. It's impossible to be confident about something you've never done successfully. Confidence is not a requirement. I think being humble is the most underrated way to get girls. An attractive girl can often complain that it`s only the most arrogant jerks and players that have the courage to ask her out. If you approach her in a kind and humble manner, you`re completely different from all the rest, and you can get a ridiculously warm response. An example would be the way Thor was talking to Natalie Portman at the fireplace. Soothing, gentle tone of voice, being grateful, helping her, considering her task as very important instead of trivializing it - that`s being humble. Every time I have fallen in love or someone has fallen in love with me, it was because of kindness and humbleness. Confidence can enhance physical attraction, but that`s not what makes someone fall in love.
somedude81 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence is not a requirement. I think being humble is the most underrated way to get girls. An attractive girl can often complain that it`s only the most arrogant jerks and players that have the courage to ask her out. If you approach her in a kind and humble manner, you`re completely different from all the rest, and you can get a ridiculously warm response. And how do you think I've been doing it. An example would be the way Thor was talking to Natalie Portman at the fireplace. Soothing, gentle tone of voice, being grateful, helping her, considering her task as very important instead of trivializing it - that`s being humble. ROFL! Sorry, I don't look like this.
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence doesn't mean cocky. It just means you know!!! Ladies, this is where you should respond to these posts and share why you go for these types of guys.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence doesn't mean cocky. It just means you know!!! Ladies, this is where you should respond to these posts and share why you go for these types of guys. My guess is that they go for those types of guys because they're confident and attractive.
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 My guess is that they go for those types of guys because they're confident and attractive. The confidence makes them attractive.
MaxNoob Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 ROFL! Sorry, I don't look like this. Studies have actually shown that falling in love is caused by kindness and intelligence, to which I would add humbleness. Not from being exceptionally attractive. If you are severely unattractive, as in you look like elephant man, then yes, it is more difficult for someone to fall in love with you.
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence doesn't mean cocky. It just means you know!!! Ladies, this is where you should respond to these posts and share why you go for these types of guys. I have to point this out once more.
carhill Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 OP, here's an anecdote to examine for traction regarding the confidence issue. How will this go? The rest of the thread will provide the background. My brief analysis is that the man in question appeared virtually confident in the months leading up to their meeting, then fell apart and now is acting in ways which, even if only erratic, would be seen by myself as examples of anything but confidence. Yet, the lady is not only still engaging but actively giving him the benefit of the doubt. Is this an LS anomaly? Is it reflective of reality, generally, or for that of some people? I see a lot of examples of these dynamics, dynamics so far removed from my life experience as to seem alien, nearly weekly on LS. There must be something to them. Think of confidence as a nicely sized, shaped and packaged penis at rest. It knows what it can do. Cocky, as the word perhaps implies, is that penis erect and waving about, saying 'look at me, look at me, ain't I big and beautiful. Yes I am' That's pretty much it, from my perspective.
Art_Critic Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Think of confidence as a nicely sized, shaped and packaged penis at rest. It knows what it can do. .... and if the beast is awakened nothing can stop it ....
FrustratedStandards Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 That's not necessarily true. I think the more a man has sex, or the more partners he has, the more confidence he builds, and thats makes him more attractive. Also, if he is very experienced, this also resonates somewhat, and that's attractive. But some men don't even learn anything, they just sleep around because they are hot and it's easy for them. These don't become more attractive.
TLCbear Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Speaking for myself, I'm more incline to sleep with a man who doesn't show that desperation for sex, someone who is pretty laid back and is able to enjoy whatever time is spent. Most women already know within minutes of meeting you whether they are going to sleep with you or not anyway, it's just all about the timing...and moreso, what you do or say to turn them off, lol. I definately wouldn't sleep with a man I knew slept with alot of women, even if I wanted to.
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 Speaking for myself, I'm more incline to sleep with a man who doesn't show that desperation for sex, someone who is pretty laid back and is able to enjoy whatever time is spent. Most women already know within minutes of meeting you whether they are going to sleep with you or not anyway, it's just all about the timing...and moreso, what you do or say to turn them off, lol. I definately wouldn't sleep with a man I knew slept with alot of women, even if I wanted to. Interesting. Except it seems that most women don't react to the sleeping around like you do.
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 That's not necessarily true. I think the more a man has sex, or the more partners he has, the more confidence he builds, and thats makes him more attractive. Also, if he is very experienced, this also resonates somewhat, and that's attractive. But some men don't even learn anything, they just sleep around because they are hot and it's easy for them. These don't become more attractive. I give your entire post +15. It makes tital logic.
sweetjasmine Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence doesn't mean cocky. It just means you know!!! Ladies, this is where you should respond to these posts and share why you go for these types of guys. When people say "be confident," they don't mean "be arrogant." In this context, "confidence" means "has a sense of self-worth and has his own steady personality because he doesn't rely on external validation to make him feel like a whole person." I'm attracted to men who show me who they are instead of trying to figure out what I want to see in them and stumbling to act that way to achieve a specific result.
TLCbear Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Interesting. Except it seems that most women don't react to the sleeping around like you do. Lets just say MOST women you know. And besides, that's the big difference between the more respectable women vs. the less respectable women.
Author singlelife Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 Women of all types like it. You can't judge a female because of her choices.
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