MaxNoob Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Confidence doesn't mean cocky. It just means you know!!! Ladies, this is where you should respond to these posts and share why you go for these types of guys. Being humble doesn't mean being insecure. On a scale of increasing confidence: Insecure Humble Confident Arrogant Yes, you can use confidence to get a girl, but it's not a requirement, and it has absolutely nothing to do with falling in love. If you don't have the confidence to be confident, you can be humble, which is a graceful and admirable quality. It's being an empty lake so that the water flows towards you. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I don't mind people who want to gain confidence with women. Who couldn't use a bit of a boost of that with the opposite sex? But that thinking is too small in my opinion. Why make the goal only women? What about life? Your goals? Dreams? The things that are infinitely larger than a woman? This is the confidence I seek; to conquer these things. The things that most people only dream of. Women are the easy part. But maybe my priorities are just different. Because for these men, women is the only thing lacking in their life. Link to post Share on other sites
TLCbear Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Women of all types like it. You can't judge a female because of her choices. You are right in that all types like it, but I almost guarantee a larger amount of respectable women would see this as a turn off than not. No one judging here, I have quite alot of male friends, so it is not that hard to see whose the "easy" than the "keeper" per say. Getting sex is sooo easy these days, that I really do not even know why men still feel the need to lie and pretend to be someone they are not. Link to post Share on other sites
TLCbear Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Because for these men, women is the only thing lacking in their life. Totally not true, lol...just as one poster said, women are the easy part in the sex department because it is sooo easy to get it now a days, but if you were referring to a geninue relationship, that's a different story. I know plenty of men who have nothing to offer but their privates, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Be honest with me my friend. Will a woman make your life complete? Of course it will. Totally not true, lol...just as one poster said, women are the easy part in the sex department because it is sooo easy to get it now a days, but if you were referring to a geninue relationship, that's a different story. I know plenty of men who have nothing to offer but their privates, lol. Yeah, if there were soooo easy to get, no man would go more than a couple of months without one. And yet there are countless men who are 30 year old virgins. How do you explain that? Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I have a date tonight and now all I can think about is sex! I'll be thinking, "does he seem confident?", "does he seem desperate?"... hmmmm. Link to post Share on other sites
ffw Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Of course it will. Not really. You are complete within yourself. You don't need a relationship to make you complete. Your happiness does not depend on another person. Yeah, if there were soooo easy to get, no man would go more than a couple of months without one. And yet there are countless men who are 30 year old virgins. How do you explain that? They are called "Losers". Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Is it the woman's fault? Or yours? Blaming women only begets more excuses for you not to do anything. Blaming yourself allows you to take stock of what's really going on internally, and ignite some action to change things. Actually the fault lies on many parties. Me Women God I try and try to make things work, but there is only so much I can do. Internally, is only a small part of what's going on. Link to post Share on other sites
TLCbear Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Of course it will. Yeah, if there were soooo easy to get, no man would go more than a couple of months without one. And yet there are countless men who are 30 year old virgins. How do you explain that? As one said, they are complete losers. Anyone can get sex, anyone can get a woman or a man, may not be the one you want, but hey, it can be done...now as I said before, if you are looking for something geninue, then that's another story. The world is full of women who are wanting to give themselves away, but for what I see alot of men want the women they know are NOT going to give up too soon, they just got to have that "challenge"...I mean what the hell is that all about, when you're looking for sex anyway...why not get someone on the same page. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 They are called "Losers". I've won in every aspect of my life except dating. I refuse to believe this. Just because girls don't like the real me doesn't make ME a loser, it makes THEM losers (they lost out on knowing a great person.) Link to post Share on other sites
ffw Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I've won in every aspect of my life except dating. I refuse to believe this. Just because girls don't like the real me doesn't make ME a loser, it makes THEM losers (they lost out on knowing a great person.) Do you know why? You should ask this question to yourself. If you are meeting someone with the expectation of finding "soulmate" or "the love of your life", then I am afraid that's not going to happen. Without taking any chances, you never know. Later, even if things didn't work out as you planned, you should reflect and learn from the past. Life is about learning & improving oneself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 As one said, they are complete losers. Anyone can get sex, anyone can get a woman or a man, may not be the one you want, but hey, it can be done...now as I said before, if you are looking for something geninue, then that's another story. The world is full of women who are wanting to give themselves away, but for what I see alot of men want the women they know are NOT going to give up too soon, they just got to have that "challenge"...I mean what the hell is that all about, when you're looking for sex anyway...why not get someone on the same page. A lot of these women are on the same page as the guy. I think the women shouldn't be devalued like that. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 The confidence makes them attractive. Or their attractiveness makes them confident...? Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 Or their attractiveness makes them confident...? No. Historically it's the confidence that makes the difference. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 It's amazing how much a man's confidence level at times can be directly attributed to how much acceptance or rejection he gets from women. Probably the most overlooked fact on this board. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 Confidence is not tied to a womans reactions. Just like in sales, a no is just like a yes because you know you will get a lot of sales. You get a lot of girls because the 1-6 that said no don't matter to you. It's the several that you know have and will say yes!!! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Confidence is not tied to a womans reactions. Just like in sales, a no is just like a yes because you know you will get a lot of sales. You get a lot of girls because the 1-6 that said no don't matter to you. It's the several that you know have and will say yes!!! This is true. The greatest athletes always say that they only remember their victories and successes. For example, Tiger Woods only remembers the putts he made to win championships and the great shots of his career. The ones he missed are erased from his memory, leaving only positive thoughts. In his mind, he makes 100% of his shots. Likewise, if you focus only on the positive, then every girl you have ever asked out has said yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 This is true. The greatest athletes always say that they only remember their victories and successes. For example, Tiger Woods only remembers the putts he made to win championships and the great shots of his career. The ones he missed are erased from his memory, leaving only positive thoughts. In his mind, he makes 100% of his shots. Likewise, if you focus only on the positive, then every girl you have ever asked out has said yes. That's the secret!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Confidence is not tied to a womans reactions. Just like in sales, a no is just like a yes because you know you will get a lot of sales. You get a lot of girls because the 1-6 that said no don't matter to you. It's the several that you know have and will say yes!!! Yes it IS tied to reactions. I work in sales, and most of us easily shrug off rejections every day because we have so much experience with success. Also, you MUST have confidence in what your selling. Even if you are confident in what your selling, but nobody seems to want to buy you will lose that confidence eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 Yes it IS tied to reactions. I work in sales, and most of us easily shrug off rejections every day because we have so much experience with success. Also, you MUST have confidence in what your selling. Even if you are confident in what your selling, but nobody seems to want to buy you will lose that confidence eventually. Your right. EVentually you have to close sales. Eventually you have to pick up girls. That's why these guys should concentrate on flirting with everyone. There will girls you don't really like that you bang. You can't just hold out for that one big sale or that one perfect girl. That's the point of the thread. Have fun flirting and getting laid and girls will come. If you have 4-5 booty calls and a girls isn't interested then it doesn't matter. You will undoubtedly get 6-10. It's up to the salesman not to let his confidence get low, just like it's up to the man in the same way. But one point I see you make that is in your underlying words, everybody isn't cut out to do sales, so everybody isn't cut out to get lots of women. It does take certain personalities. Link to post Share on other sites
in_absentia Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 I've had sex with about 30 partners. Whenever a woman asks me how many, I say 7. What's your remedy for that, Inspector Gadget? ScienceGal, just hearing that someone sleeps around is a turn off? Do you just accept statements like that from anyone, or do you make sure they're credible before completely disregarding someone you don't know? Why would you lie to somebody who you could prospectively grow to love and have a relationship with?! My boyfriend has slept with around 80 women before me (he's 26), I've been with 6 guys. While I appreciated his honesty and the fact he trusted me to take that number well, I'd have been ****ing furious to find out he'd lied to me about something I obviously wanted to know (or wouldn't have asked). It honestly doesn't bother me, he's the most committed, romantic, caring and amazing guy I've ever been out with and he's a dynamo in the sack Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 try it you'll likr\e it Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 Totally not true, lol...just as one poster said, women are the easy part in the sex department because it is sooo easy to get it now a days, but if you were referring to a geninue relationship, that's a different story. I know plenty of men who have nothing to offer but their privates, lol. It seems most women prefer that as that's all they are offering nowadays. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 Yes it IS tied to reactions. I work in sales, and most of us easily shrug off rejections every day because we have so much experience with success. Also, you MUST have confidence in what your selling. Even if you are confident in what your selling, but nobody seems to want to buy you will lose that confidence eventually. It's essentially the same thing. If you're fearless, you can get a lot more Yes's than No's. I've worked in sales before, and the way to sell something is to not take no for an answer, until the very last moment. I once had to sell boxes of Popsicles, and I would simply just say, "You know, it's a hot day out today...perfect for this." If they said no, say "But only today, you can get two boxes for the price of one!" If they still say no, just chalk it up to a loss, and move on to the next customer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 It's essentially the same thing. If you're fearless, you can get a lot more Yes's than No's. I've worked in sales before, and the way to sell something is to not take no for an answer, until the very last moment. I once had to sell boxes of Popsicles, and I would simply just say, "You know, it's a hot day out today...perfect for this." If they said no, say "But only today, you can get two boxes for the price of one!" If they still say no, just chalk it up to a loss, and move on to the next customer. That's how ya do that!!! 20 no's and 3 yes is still 3 new women. Link to post Share on other sites
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