wonderingwhyohwhy Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 My husbands Ex girlfriend has been copying everything I do for years. At first I didn't say anything, thinking "it's in my head", then other people started noticing, even my husband and his family. Some things are very obvious. They have a child together, so the Ex has been a part of our life in that regard and knows things through the child or if we see eachother at his son's activities. She's mostly cordial, but I'm kind of creeped out by this. Everything from clothes, to shoes, to husband and I going somewhere, then next thing you know, she goes, to getting married on the same day we did (we did it first), me having a very unusual illness, next thing you know she's telling everyone she has the same thing, to painting her house when she found out I was painting mine, and same color mind you, etc and so on. Things other people bring to my attention. I'm wondering why someone would do this? She's also always "wondering" things about my job, my income, things I've done my best to keep her from knowing, but she'll ask the son and you know how kids are, it inevitably comes up while he stays with us "Mom was wondering.........." and I just gracefully drop the subject. So now I'm wondering, WHY? and is this normal for exes to do? His family tells me she's always been upset that he never married her and that the family never liked her much. I feel like she competes with me and I'm not sure why or if she even notices and is aware of what she does? I try my best to stay in the background and not say too much to her. Link to post Share on other sites
nikkilove Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 I've experienced this kind of thing too, but not sure why either. Anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Don't know why anyone would do that, but she's setting herself up for some good practical jokes. Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Is she jealous of you? Still in love with your husband? Want your life? Link to post Share on other sites
dreaming4ever Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Maybe she thinks if she does stuff like you and looks and acts like you than your husband will want HER instead of you...my ex boyfriend's current girlfriend does stuff like that with me. If I get a haircut, a day later she gets the same one...if I dye my hair then she does....she even told him she wanted to be a writer which is what i want to be....and lots of other stuff that is WAY TOO MUCH for it to be coincidental. Strange huh? Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Very low sense of security.. no personal identity of her own. imitation is the sincerest form of flattery ya know. even if it's from a psycho. Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 I think she has nothing better to do so she's trying to irritate you. If i were you, i'd not let it bother me. Leave the psycho alone. She'd realise how dumb she is one day that she can never be you because no matter how much she tries to be u, u r still unique. sometimes coincidences could be uncanny.... dont be surprised.... maybe your friends who keep telling you of coincidences have nothing better to do. Link to post Share on other sites
nikkilove Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Wanting someones' life, or at least, a life like that. Even if it doesn't have anything to do with the guy anymore (or maybe it does), there's always people that will want what you have, especially when they are not happy with their own situation. I agree about imitation and flattery. It can be annoying, but they want to be more like you, so you must be doing something right. But I'm not really sure why other than that either. I know from experience that it happens, and I also know people it's happened to. Always seemed to be someone who focused on what others had and would be jealous or wanted it for herself. But I never quite figured out if they realized they did it either. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Hopefully one day she will realize she's acting stupid and ridicuolous. I'd have someone tell her you tried bungee jumping and take taxidermy classes. Then buy myself a pea-green dress with pink pailettes elephants and orange pompons on it. But that's because I'ma bitch;), you sound a nice person so don't do anything like that because she's already feeling bad enough, and it would not solve your problems. Be patient.....hopefully she'll stop on her own. I hope that one day she'll get a grip on her life and realize that while she can't get your man back by imitating you(she is likely to piss even him off instead) she could meet the right man for her by being herself. Which I hope her friends and family are trying to tell her instead of helping her imitate you providing her with details about your life. Link to post Share on other sites
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