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AHardDaysNight

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...would you be turned off, or feel insecure?

 

This is something that I like to do. I like to look at pretty women when browsing the net, so my wallpapers and the banners at the top of my Firefox are always of hot women.

 

I've never had anybody comment on it, but would this turn you off? Would you think that he was objectifying women?

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Art_Critic

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He isn't really objectifying women by having hot women on his desktop.. he is just being a frat like kid rather than a cool guy...IMO

 

Why not just change it to something normal when a girl is coming over ?

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AHardDaysNight

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Why not just change it to something normal when a girl is coming over ?

 

Good point. That's what I would do.

 

In fact, when I was briefly friends with this girl, who would come over to my apartment all the time, I was always deleting the porn links in my bookmarks before she'd show up. She used my computer a lot.

 

I know some women wouldn't care, but A.) I would be kind of embarrassed, and B.) I wouldn't have any explanation of "why", other than I found that girl attractive (and if she has body issues, she's bound to feel insecure!)

 

I dunno, I just find the female form beautiful to look at. If I ever had a girlfriend, I would barely be able to take my eyes off of her.

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We talking about classy pics or like the "trashy" kind? I mean there's artistic appreciation of the female form and then there's the more "recreational" kind if you know what I mean.

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There is no harm in it. You gotta do you and pictures of beautiful woman on your computer screen is not crime.

 

That being said, people are going to react to it in different ways so it is considerate to be respectful of your audience. If you are dating someone who doesn't care for it and uses your computer, the respectful thing to do is to change it to cats because in all likeliness - she probably likes cats.

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I don't think its offensive. I have had men I've fancied as my PC background. But I do think partners don't really need to see it. As much as I look at hot men and would have them as a background, I would feel insecure and upset to see my partner have his background as hot women (but I am quite insecure about things like that.) It really depends on what your partner/gf/date is like. She might not be fazed. But then no one really wants to see their date/partner checking out others, so I'd agree with the above poster who said to change it when she's round.

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I would be turned off, just because it's a teenage boy kind of thing to do and seems kind of lame, sorry. Just like if I dated women I'd be turned off by a girl who splashed lame shirtless Twilight dudes all over her screens.

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I would be turned off, just because it's a teenage boy kind of thing to do and seems kind of lame, sorry. Just like if I dated women I'd be turned off by a girl who splashed lame shirtless Twilight dudes all over her screens.

 

Agreed...

 

I'd personally be put off regardless of the gender.

 

I wouldn't want it "hidden" from me either though......

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I go between arty abstract design wallpapers and when I get bored of them I have images of attractive women. They are the only things I really bother to want as my background. I don't see it as a problem to be honest. They are never topless or anything, usually just a nice shot or sexy portrait style shots.

 

These are just the things that appeal visually to me and so are chosen, though I consider it odd that people would think so much of it. I have been weary lately of having women on my desktop though as my girlfriend is having off and on confidence issues with her looks so I have not being using them.

 

If my girlfriend had some wallpaper of a topless guy with some glossed up abs I wouldn't care because I am secure with my looks. If she gets insecure at me having images of women on my desktop then thats her problem of insecurity isn't it?

 

There are sexualised images everywhere through media adverts and websites; just because it is attached to a significant others viewpoint does not mean its wrong of them, its your problem if it makes you feel insecure and awkward in my opinion.

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AHardDaysNight

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I believe that this can vary, just as the responses from women in here have stated.

 

None of them, though, have said that they would break up over it. Just that they found it childish, which I suppose, on some sense, it is.

 

Right now, I have replaced the wallpapers and headers with artistic things, forests and oceans and stuff like that. I enjoy looking at that just as much, and if a potential girlfriend had an issue with me putting Avril Lavigne on my desktop, I'd remove the wallpaper.

 

That being said, I have no girlfriend in my life right now. I just was curious on how it would be taken, because I've never had any feedback that would help me make or break a choice. :)

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I agree with MB and OS. It wouldn't make me insecure, but I just associate it with an age group much younger than my own.

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Agree with the other female posters who have said that it's a turn-off, but not for reasons you might think.

 

I remember when I was a kid I had this weird step-cousin (my uncle re-married to a woman who had a teenage son from a previous relationship) who was always getting into trouble and was just generally a real jack-ass. When I was at my uncle's house I walked past this "cousin"s room and saw that he had all these sleazy posters of trashy half-naked women all over the wall.

 

I will forever associate a guy who decorates anything, whether it be a wall or a computer desktop, with pictures of naked women, with that bratty, jackass teenage cousin of mine. :D

 

For clarification, I don't have a problem with porn and even view it myself from time to time. So the jealousy/insecurity thing isn't the issue. To me it's the "manboy" syndrome that's a turn-off.

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Meh, I know a few guys who do this. I personally definitely wouldn't be interested in them, though I don't think they're bad people or that they objectify women. Just not my type. Seems very immature.

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I would be turned off, just because it's a teenage boy kind of thing to do and seems kind of lame, sorry. Just like if I dated women I'd be turned off by a girl who splashed lame shirtless Twilight dudes all over her screens.

 

Agreed. If at an older age, he's still exhibiting teen like behavior about women, it would be a turn off. It tells me he's both inexperienced and immature.

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Agreed. If at an older age, he's still exhibiting teen like behavior about women, it would be a turn off. It tells me he's both inexperienced and immature.

 

I agree with this.

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Thats quite a sweeping statement to make that because you have an image of a woman as your desktop wallpaper that you are 'immature' and 'inexperienced'. Its just an image on a computer. Thats a big shout to associate somebody's persona with such a trivial thing.

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I'd definitely see it as a turnoff. I'd wonder why you didn't tidy up before I came over. ;)

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I'd definitely see it as a turnoff. I'd wonder why you didn't tidy up before I came over. ;)

 

Haha duly noted! ;)

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I dunno, I just find the female form beautiful to look at. If I ever had a girlfriend, I would barely be able to take my eyes off of her.

 

 

If you were gettin laid on the regular, and you couldnt keep your eyes off your gf, you wouldnt need the pictures or links all around your computer.

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Any woman that believes that SHE is the ONLY attractive woman on the planet....that your eyes will never stray, just because you two are dating....

 

That chick needs to get her head out of her a$$. Time for a reality check. There is no law or program in the universe that dictates attraction "shut-off" once you're in a relationship.

 

If it was me.....I'd be adding naked sexy chick pic's to your PC when you're not looking just to surprise you. :laugh:

 

But HEY, that's just me.

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I would think 'what a loser', lol.

 

I agree that it's tacky and immature and it would make me question if the guy's really that into me or if he just "settled" for me cos he can't get one of his hot chicks from his computer stash.

 

The common stereotype is that it's usually women who get insecure over it, but just as many men would question themselves if women horded pictures of (hot, muscular, rich, well-endowed) men to the extent men do it.

 

 

If it was me.....I'd be adding naked sexy chick pic's to your PC when you're not looking just to surprise you.

 

That's actually a good idea...lol, but instead of adding pics of naked sexy girls, I would turn it around into something funny and add some pics of she-males or so....nothing better than a nice prank when expecting and seeing a seemingly hot "chick" at first and then...surprise, surprise! lol.

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Oh, so now I'm a loser?

 

Negative Nancy...well, you have the right name at least! Every thread you come into, you bring the OP down. You are even worse than any troll I've ever seen on here.

 

And no, I wouldn't have a problem with her decorating her wallpaper with hot guys, just as long as she realized that I'd never have that body!

 

I accept that women are visual, just the same as men. The problem here is that some women seem to think that a guy can turn off his eyes just because he is with a girl. I'm sorry, but even if I was with a supermodel, I'd still be looking at other girls! Same as any other guy.

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...would you be turned off, or feel insecure?

 

This is something that I like to do. I like to look at pretty women when browsing the net, so my wallpapers and the banners at the top of my Firefox are always of hot women.

 

I've never had anybody comment on it, but would this turn you off? Would you think that he was objectifying women?

Not at all. And I would hope it wouldn't bother my guy if I had a sexy man as my wallpaper. This is currently my wallpaper and has been for the last year and a half:

http://media.photobucket.com/image/joe%20manganiello%20/ckgraphics5/erwr.png

The last guy I dated got a kick out of it. He actually had to take it to a computer store and was a bit embarassed that that was my background, but he found the humor in it. Who cares. If people are going to get all bent out of shape over a sexy picture on a desktop, that's just sad. There are bigger problems in the world.:rolleyes:

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