If you dated a man, and found out he decorated his computer desktops with sexy women

[AHardDaysNight]

Not at all. And I would hope it wouldn't bother my guy if I had a sexy man as my wallpaper. This is currently my wallpaper and has been for the last year and a half:

http://media.photobucket.com/image/joe%20manganiello%20/ckgraphics5/erwr.png

The last guy I dated got a kick out of it. He actually had to take it to a computer store and was a bit embarassed that that was my background, but he found the humor in it. Who cares. If people are going to get all bent out of shape over a sexy picture on a desktop, that's just sad. There are bigger problems in the world.

 

Nah, if a girl had a wallpaper like that, wouldn't matter to me in the least.

[OnyxSnowfall]

Thats quite a sweeping statement to make that because you have an image of a woman as your desktop wallpaper that you are 'immature' and 'inexperienced'. Its just an image on a computer. Thats a big shout to associate somebody's persona with such a trivial thing.

 

You don't have to like the truth.

 

But you're not going to change it by attempting to ridicule it either.

 

It will persist.

[JohnM]

What you said is not the truth. It's an opinion, just like mine is. Deal with it.

[OnyxSnowfall]

I'm sorry, but even if I was with a supermodel, I'd still be looking at other girls! Same as any other guy.

 

That's a misconception and it's something that men claim in order to validate themselves (through the poor behavior of others) - it is typical behavior but it isn't absolute, and the typical way of it does not make it "okay". Many "experienced" men that indulge in the lusting of multiple women also do so with tact and respect for the woman that they're with. Just saying.

[OnyxSnowfall]

What you said is not the truth. It's an opinion, just like mine is. Deal with it.

 

LoL - I'm not stating that it is true that someone is overall immature if they have something like that, I am stating that it is true that people will perceive that, and you're not going to alter that "perception" --- the perception can very well line up with truth, or it could be a false association (the odds are more favorable with the former, nonetheless).

[JohnM]

That's not how your post comes across to me. You say you don't have to like the truth. As if because I disagree with your point I disliked being told the truth you offered.

[OnyxSnowfall]

That's not how your post comes across to me. You say you don't have to like the truth. As if because I disagree with your point I disliked being told the truth you offered.

 

I noticed, and I hope I have clarified myself.

 

Truth is many things and comes in many forms, heh.

 

(And of course you're going to disagree, because you are indirectly being accused of being immature etc. But it is the way of it, whether you really are or not... for better or worse, the chances aren't really in your [nor the others concerned here] favor)

 

Belief is more powerful than "truth", but there's "truth" to belief ... the belief is "real" ---

 

People conform themselves all the time in order to acquire what they want in life --- one can reject the way things work, but they will be giving other things up in order to

 

The relevance to that in this thread is that such a thing probably will turn off several women. Now, one can say "F U" and wait for a woman who doesn't mind it --- but there's pros and cons to everything.

 

And the smaller one's potential pool is, the more "beggars can't be choosers" applies.

[AHardDaysNight]

Wait, your logic fails me, Onyx.

 

There is no universal truth. That is why there are many different Gods, many different religions, and many different wars over those religions. That's why republicans and liberals don't get along, or if they do, it's sparingly. That's why some people hear an album of music and go, "wow, this **** is awesome!", and some hear it and think it sucks. That's why some members of the opposite sex are attractive to specific people, and why nobody can agree on what "a hot woman is." That's why beer bellies can either make you grotesque, or a teddy bear, in the eyes of a woman. That's why there are so many bad boy and virgin threads on this forum, because nobody can agree on anything. That's why some people get banned, and some people stay, and why some people live and some die. There is no universal truth.

 

What I'm trying to say is that you might react negatively, and view it as immature, but to me it's not immature. Immature would be to hide it. Personally, it's a display of my sexuality. No, I don't always have it on my computer, but would you rather me hide it or actually have it out in the open, if you were dating me?

 

And frankly, I am not too bothered if I don't have to display it on my desktop. I probably still will save it, and jerk off to it, but it'll be in a porn folder instead of displayed for the world to see.

[OnyxSnowfall]

Wait, your logic fails me, Onyx.

 

There is no universal truth. That is why there are many different Gods, many different religions, and many different wars over those religions. That's why republicans and liberals don't get along, or if they do, it's sparingly. That's why some people hear an album of music and go, "wow, this **** is awesome!", and some hear it and think it sucks. That's why some members of the opposite sex are attractive to specific people, and why nobody can agree on what "a hot woman is." That's why beer bellies can either make you grotesque, or a teddy bear, in the eyes of a woman. That's why there are so many bad boy and virgin threads on this forum, because nobody can agree on anything. That's why some people get banned, and some people stay, and why some people live and some die. There is no universal truth.

 

What I'm trying to say is that you might react negatively, and view it as immature, but to me it's not immature. Immature would be to hide it. Personally, it's a display of my sexuality. No, I don't always have it on my computer, but would you rather me hide it or actually have it out in the open, if you were dating me?

 

And frankly, I am not too bothered if I don't have to display it on my desktop. I probably still will save it, and jerk off to it, but it'll be in a porn folder instead of displayed for the world to see.

 

It's a universal truth that there's no universal truth?

[AHardDaysNight]

It's a universal truth that there's no universal truth?

 

I guess in the same way that I'm lying about lying.

[AHardDaysNight]

I guess in the same way that I'm lying about lying.

 

Of course that could be open to interpretation, because you could think that it was the truth that I was telling the truth.

 

EDIT: I'm being overly silly here.

[JohnM]

of course you're going to disagree, because you are indirectly being accused of being immature etc.

 

Belief is more powerful than "truth", but there's "truth" to belief ... the belief is "real" ---

 

People conform themselves all the time in order to acquire what they want in life --- one can reject the way things work, but they will be giving other things up in order to

 

The relevance to that in this thread is that such a thing probably will turn off several women. Now, one can say "F U" and wait for a woman who doesn't mind it --- but there's pros and cons to everything.

 

And the smaller one's potential pool is, the more "beggars can't be choosers" applies.

 

Seems you're just throwing more things into the mix just to convolute the point here, belief; truth, conforming. Are you just trying to make an attempt to lead off track as thats how it seems.

 

Bringing up the point that because I am a man I am obviously going to disagree with anything bad said against men? Please. I don't stand for every man, just as not every man stands for me, I disagree with statements made about men just as much as I do about those about women.

 

Its hardly a deal breaker if a woman was bothered by it or not. This, as has been said is not a major issue and shouldn't be made into one. Its an image as a background on a computer.

[OnyxSnowfall]

Bringing up the point that because I am a man I am obviously going to disagree with anything bad said against men? Please. I don't stand for every man, just as not every man stands for me, I disagree with statements made about men just as much as I do about those about women.

 

What? No, it has nothing to do with you being a man or whatever you're interpreting (I'm guessing what I was addressing to AHardDaysNight?)

 

I was referring to this:

 

. . . I have images of attractive women. They are the only things I really bother to want as my background. I don't see it as a problem to be honest. They are never topless or anything, usually just a nice shot or sexy portrait style shots.

 

Um... mmm. Hence the "indirect accusations" and your defensive stance, etc... etc...

Edited October 29, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall

[JohnM]

You quoted me and then responded to the points I had raised but now you're saying they were in fact in response to a post from aharddaysnight from two hours earlier which was before we started discussing points? Doesn't quite make sense.

[OnyxSnowfall]

You quoted me and then responded to the points I had raised but now you're saying they were in fact in response to a post from aharddaysnight from two hours earlier which was before we started discussing points? Doesn't quite make sense.

 

Oh God.

 

This has come to a sad sad little place, and it is partly my fault for not elaborating initially.

 

I only meant to inform you that your attempt to devalue the idea of people associating such backgrounds as immature is futile. Also, that you like having such backgrounds does not add to your case, but rather, it detracts from it (not that it needs that extra weight, it suffices without it).

 

I know I at least will continue to view it as such........... the probability of it being accurate is far more likely than it being inaccurate..........

[JohnM]

I know I'm not going to swing the view of the majority of society by defending my point of view. But I can still raise it nonetheless.

 

You seem to have a strange way of going about your posts. Even though you yourself are making your own point, if that is called into question you don't ask a question back of the response, but you instead try to undermine its value and then go on each time to re-assert your inability to see that you could possibly be wrong about. Its like you are trying to psycho-analyse a person.

'the probability of it being accurate is far more likely than it being inaccurate'

'your attempt to devalue the idea of people associating such backgrounds as immature is futile'

'the "indirect accusations" and your defensive stance, etc...'

'of course you're going to disagree, because you are indirectly being accused of being immature etc.'

 

This is not even on topic anymore so, maybe we should let others post back on topic.

[sassysf]

...would you be turned off, or feel insecure?

 

This is something that I like to do. I like to look at pretty women when browsing the net, so my wallpapers and the banners at the top of my Firefox are always of hot women.

 

I've never had anybody comment on it, but would this turn you off? Would you think that he was objectifying women?

 

My favorite ex did this, NEVER a problem. I had to laugh when I used his computers, lol, but it was fine with me. I think as long as it is random women, and not an ex or friend, it should be fine.