East7 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 The following are a few examples that she did NOT got her stuff straight: 1. 'you can't imagine how is it to want someone so badly but not being able to have him', 2. 'you are my life (and she goes to bed with her H at night), 3. 'i will never be able to love anyone so much as you (and she goes to bed with her H at night), 4. 'i wish i met you earlier in my life' etc I have heard exactly the 4 of them. Amazing how they have the same hand-book ! Yes ! Whilever she goes to bed with her husband...You don't have a chance of anything. MW/MM really have no ****ing idea of what a single AP's existence is like. As far as they are concerned... we are there for whenever they have the time for us. They have no idea of how it feels to be alone. HE or SHE is in a maried relationship. We are there just for the times they can spare. They scatter crumbs for us and make promises. It's just to keep us hanging on the edge. Meanwhile, MM/MW carry on their real life quite happily. When you or I get too demanding, or things get a bit too threatening for them.... DUMP! I really believe the MP has no idea of how it feels to be living on the other end of the A. GG Oh dear... And the worst is that they tell you they are doing so much for you and their H is receiving crumbs...I meant, WTF she is sleeping with her H everynight..Who is receiving the crumbs ? She is preparing him dinner and eventually breakfast and he has the crumbs ? MW really live in a different planet. And when you dare to ask them for more, they look at you as if you are crazy. They go in vacations/weekends together and they tell you "We did it for the kids" and you are there alone hurting and hating them. Gosh, I don't want to be there again, just to think about it makes me sick, affairs are disgusting ! Link to post Share on other sites
Yianks Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 (edited) I have heard exactly the 4 of them. Amazing how they have the same hand-book ! Its a manual they download for free at the Internet, hence the worldwide coverage! And the worst is that they tell you they are doing so much for you and their H is receiving crumbs...I meant, WTF she is sleeping with her H everynight..Who is receiving the crumbs ? She is preparing him dinner and eventually breakfast and he has the crumbs ? MW really live in a different planet. And when you dare to ask them for more, they look at you as if you are crazy. They go in vacations/weekends together and they tell you "We did it for the kids" and you are there alone hurting and hating them. Gosh, I don't want to be there again, just to think about it makes me sick, affairs are disgusting ! My exMW doesnt even have kids but still went for vacations with her H! But we always hoped for the best, we always believed that she will come to her senses and realize that she can be happier with us. But it aint the case as MW behave irrational. However, when the A ends MW only have ONE way to go, back to their H. To the single OM the possibilities, after the pain fades, are endless. My point of view is that: As soon as the Affair ends, the MW/MM might be better off due to the safety net. But in the long-run, the OM/OW are in a much better position. Edited October 24, 2011 by Yianks Link to post Share on other sites
East7 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Its a manual they download for free at the Internet, hence the worldwide coverage! My point of view is that: As soon as the Affair ends, the MW/MM might be better off due to the safety net. But in the long-run, the OM/OW are in a much better position. No the OM is better off, going out and getting laid with other chicks When the A ended I was grieving and while walking one day I was thinking "what's wrong with me wanting that woman so bad..? Look how many amazing women are out there". I did love my xMW but I was crazy to think she would leave her H for me. I didn't have yet the concept of "out of limits woman". I had more chances to win lottery than to have her. I don't care if my xMW is better off, honestly I reached the point where I am completely indifferent of her current situation. Last time we were in contact her M was still crappy and she wasn't happy. She chose it, it is me who is better off and I'm fine, having fun with other women Link to post Share on other sites
Yianks Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I did love my xMW but I was crazy to think she would leave her H for me. I didn't have yet the concept of "out of limits woman". I had more chances to win lottery than to have her. Better word for 'out of limits woman' is 'no guts woman'. From what I understand quite a few of us OM here at LS really loved their xMW and offered them a chance for a better life. We took the HUGE responsibility of wanting to be with them knowing that we (to some extent) are the reason for leaving the H. It was also a risk as we couldnt possible know how is it to be with them 24/7. However, we had the guts and took the risks although the A was wrong to begin with. Some MW just dont have the guts and they stay in their M. However, they tasted intense feelings with their A that cant possibly exist in their M and now they have to spend their whole lives convincing themselves that they did the 'right' thing and didnt destroy their M. Unfortunately this will be a lifetime struggle. Link to post Share on other sites
Gentlegirl Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Better word for 'out of limits woman' is 'no guts woman'. From what I understand quite a few of us OM here at LS really loved their xMW and offered them a chance for a better life. We took the HUGE responsibility of wanting to be with them knowing that we (to some extent) are the reason for leaving the H. It was also a risk as we couldnt possible know how is it to be with them 24/7. However, we had the guts and took the risks although the A was wrong to begin with. Some MW just dont have the guts and they stay in their M. However, they tasted intense feelings with their A that cant possibly exist in their M and now they have to spend their whole lives convincing themselves that they did the 'right' thing and didnt destroy their M. Unfortunately this will be a lifetime struggle. I think you are right. I think xMM will also struggle with that. However.. their choices. GG Link to post Share on other sites
Yianks Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I think you are right. I think xMM will also struggle with that. However.. their choices. GG Correct. The anatomy of the A does not change whether is a MM or a MW involved. They behave in 'harmony', say and do similar things. Their indecisiveness is what is causing hurt to all involved in an A (including themselves). They are stuck between a rock and a hard place, dont do anything about it and leave things as they are hence most stay in a doomed M. Link to post Share on other sites
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