MrDAS Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 My wife and I are in the military. We were both deploying to Afghanistan, but she left 5 months ahead of me. I thought we both really loved each other, it was the twilight of the realtionship we sent love notes back and forth there was a lot of passion. About a month after my wife got there she started inviting a guy back to her room and she gave him a blow job on three seperate occasions and he ate her out. I dont know what to has anything like this happened to anyone else. She is begging me not to leave her and that she will never do it again but I dont trust her we had just gotten married I told her not to go and hang out at the USO because thats where everyone goes to hook up she told me there was nothing to worry about, boy was I wrong. Part of me wants to cut it off ASAP we have no kids no property together. Part of me wants to see if we could fix this. I was curious if anyone has been thru this before and has any advice thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 . Part of me wants to cut it off ASAP we have no kids no property together. No kids + no property + Cheating sk*nk = Don't let the door hit you on the way out. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 No kids + no property + Cheating sk*nk = Don't let the door hit you on the way out. This. Cut your losses. Link to post Share on other sites
ffw Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 About a month after my wife got there she started inviting a guy back to her room and she gave him a blow job on three seperate occasions and he ate her out. How did you know about this in detail? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrDAS Posted October 23, 2011 Author Share Posted October 23, 2011 I sensed somthing was wrong and I told her I was bothered by somthing and I was having a hard time trustiing her. I found her flirting with guys thru facebook I thought thats what the uneasy feeling was. When I confronted her she told me about the other guy and the details. I dont know his name or anything about him, and I dont really want any of those pictures in my head. Link to post Share on other sites
NXS Posted October 23, 2011 Share Posted October 23, 2011 Get out now before you get entraphed with children and a mortgage. Don't even think about going any further with this woman. Don't second guess yourself, she's demonstrated what she is, leave now, get a divorce and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted October 23, 2011 Share Posted October 23, 2011 Don't walk away, RUN. Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted October 23, 2011 Share Posted October 23, 2011 I caught my wife kissing the OM on our six month anniversary, and even though she did apologize and begged for reconciliation I never once considered it. The trust was gone, and I did not see any chance of need to try and rebuild it. Link to post Share on other sites
joseph17 Posted October 23, 2011 Share Posted October 23, 2011 You really think that's all that happened? and even if it is she cheated on you and you just got married!! Get an annulment and bounce you don't need that. Plus you will never trust her again and she will do it again!! So my advice RUN!RUN!RUN! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrDAS Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 Good advice thanks everyone. It is so over. I dont think I could ever trust her again. Bad thing is I am stuck with her in Afghanistan for another couple of months talk about awkward:confused: Link to post Share on other sites
lostandconfused79 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 (edited) Once a cheat always a cheat, I found this out the hard way. My ex husband was in the military. I found out when he was deployed he was having sex with some girl who was also married. He tried to tell me nothing ever happened. After he got back I found evidence on accident. I was putting his things away, when I found a letter. I asked him about it, he came clean and told me it was just oral sex, just one time. I later found out that was a lie, it was also sex involved, multiple times. Here is the thing, if the person you are married to, so called loves you, they will not cheat on you. If you can't even trust the person your with for a few months, how are you supposed to trust her in the years to come? You have no kids together, nothing to bind you. Get out! Don't fall for the lies, we all heard the same story. I promise I won't do anything like that again. If she was really concerned for your marriage this would never have happened. I hate it when someone cheats and tried to play their partner for a fool. Don't let her make a fool of you! I did that in my marriage it was stupid of me. I ended up leaving him because the trust was gone! When I was cleaning out my things, I found the girl, he cheated on me with name tag, and condoms. At that point I no longer cared about him or what I have found. There is better people out there, who won't do this to you. Be free until the right girl comes along. Edited October 24, 2011 by lostandconfused79 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrDAS Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 lostandconfused79 Your so right it happened not even a month after we were apart, actually only a few weeks when she started flirting with this guy and googling him trying to find out about him. If she couldnt even wait that long I would hate to see what happens in the future if we ever had to spend more time apart or she gets upset with me. Thank you for sharing your story I hope you have found somone better. Link to post Share on other sites
EgoJoe Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I agree with the other posters and also express my condolences. Link to post Share on other sites
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