reimeivn Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 so the other night the ex of mine went to this party which is of my circle of friends. the friends i knew told me that he said it is my fault he broke up with me and that people sided with him and that the girls sided with him. i cried for a bit then i was fine. this morning i wanted to call the ex to say hey you dumped me, i let you go, i dont talk bad about you, why do you do that to me. and something like hey we are on good terms now and you dont have to do that because i think it is right you broke up with me too. i suffered enough. but then i couldnt call. then i just dont care. i talked to people a bit and i am just really bothered that it is the people from my home country and he is american why did he have to do that. but then i dont really care if he do that or not. it takes a long time to get to know people and I am hanging out with some of them. slowly. making friends. i talked about the ex yesterday like this, yeah he is such a great friend you must be fortunate to be friend with him. i just cannot and i really wish i could you know. so then instead of talking about him, the person i was talking to was like yeah but still he is really creepy though. so my advice is talk nice to people when you talk about your ex. reason? people like to provide info that you dont know. so if you say the ex is bad, then she will say but he is really nice to this other person, which you dont want to hear. so then you have to say he is so nice, so they can say no not really. and then you just kinda get really boring from there and so they ll stop talking about the ex. i talked nice about him and i was happy after the talk. you guys should try this. after a while, the real person will come out. the people who knows the true self of the ex will know when he keeps making friend choose side and talk bad about you. when you are the one who got dumped you didnt say a single bad words about them. vent with somebody who is truly yours. not the mutual people. not the people you friend with. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 you should not even talk about your ex at all, it may bother you but it shouldn't. honestly who cares if your ex that dumped you blamed you for the breakup. let them. it doesnt matter anymore. if people are going to judge you based off your ex's statements, find new people to hang out with. most mature people dont talk about their ex's at all nor if they are good friends with you wont ever bring it up. Trust me on this Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I know exactly how you feel, as everyone took my exes side aswell. I'm confused as to why they would rather be friends with such a horrible person, who lies.My ex also blamed the whole breakup on me. Why is your ex telling people about you? He is trying to get under your skin. Dont let him. Your ex is a worthless piece of dirt. Link to post Share on other sites
J0N Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I met this girl a couple weeks ago, I think she might actually kind of like me. So we became Facebook friends, she was playing with my iPad the other day and saw pictures of my ex on my fb and said "Aww, she is so cute." I just said thanks. Then she asked why we broke up, I usually tell the same story to people who didn't really know my ex. "We both got jobs in different cities that are very far apart 2,000+ miles. We mutually decided that it would be best if we peacefully parted ways." Then she asked if we still talked, I said "We dated very seriously for two years, the breakup was not easy on either of us, we decided... mutually that we should give each other space for a while, I haven't heard from her since." The story is almost entirely true, our breakup was very peaceful, with no groveling, and I really haven't heard from her since. I live in a new city, so I don't really feel my new friends need to know every detail, so I just sort of sugar coated the story. I don't really feel any kind of need to make my ex look like a bad person by telling the REAL story of how she was so cruel and cold towards me. I don't really have any anger towards my ex, I am just disappointed in her for being so immature and cruel towards me. Especially after everything we had together. It's been a year and a day since the breakup, for the most part I really don't care a whole lot anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author reimeivn Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 oh wilson i just talked to people not about the ex. they brought him up. Link to post Share on other sites
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