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Fear of closeness to other people


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I have a thread here describing my journey to overcoming fear, but I'm now facing a specific problem that is freaking me out and I could use a bit of advice or I guess just knowing that other people know how I feel.

 

I've spent the entire past year focusing on myself and learning how to become the sort of person that others would want to be friends with. By which I mean, I've been learning how to feel happier with life, developing interests, working on my social skills and just learning how to be myself.

 

I am now at the point where I have made some new friends. Not just individual friends but a group of people that I consider to be my friends. It's genuine; I can tell. I also feel like I've regained the ability to make friends; it's like I'd forgotten how to do it but now I remember.

 

I came to this realization last night and it freaked me out. Even today I am feeling anxious. I feel the urge to withdraw emotionally from the situation before I become any closer to these people. It has been such a long time since I"ve had a group to hang out with that I consider to be actual friends and not just aquaintences that the feelings are strong. I feel happy it's happening. I feel sad that I was lonely for as long as I was. I feel scared that something will happen to ruin it all.

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