ami right? Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 I have a married lover also our is a strange story. we met years ago at a place he was working,I also started working there. we started a afair because sex was boring with his wife .he was for sure leading a double life. this relationship continued for seven yrs(seven yr itch w/ ow syndrome) lol. we broke up after his first wife left him about a 1 1/2yrs after,because I had alot of baggage. three yrs ago he started sending notes,cards in the mail until we got in contact on the phone which has contined till this day at least once a weekand we see each other when we can every few months while wife is out of town or he has a free night. I have loved him for several yrs and I wont move on with anyone else because of how much he is apart of my heart but I don't think he's apart of my heart because he married his wifes best friend and they have a child together now and she has a child from a previous relationship. they have been married 7 yrs now so hope 7 yr itch hits them. could it be love or does he see me as a easy target to continue to play games with me?please anyone out there has any advice I'd appreciate any advice.I know what I've got myself into and am willing to continue this relationship knowing it could be only about the sex maybe he'll see if he loves me. he told me when we got back together he'll never know if he made the right decision and he wants a chance to make things right. what do u's think??? Link to post Share on other sites
shellgranado Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 first of all your wrong in what your doing being the other woman thats just a thing that shouldnt happen he took a oath under god so he cheated on god himself get in a relationship where your the only one Link to post Share on other sites
Yadda39 Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Pretend like he is a building on fire and get the HE$$ out, Fast! How many wives is this man going to go through, before you realize you are probably not going to be one of them? If you're just in it for "sex" then fine... your getting it. (Although once every few months would not do it for me...) BUT if you are thinking this man is going to scoop you up and ride you off into the sunset....then you better think again. Good luck ..... Link to post Share on other sites
am I right. Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 well I'm not ready for a serious relationship right now so sex is fine for now .I just need to know after 14yrs he must care or see's me as the easy target he avoids his feelings. The other day he said whats right is wrong and he wants to be here and sometimes he thinks about it and other times he don't feels like a line . trust me I know what I'm getting myself into and the satistics - but the comment- he made a vow under god and that got me because we made a vow whatever happens -happens. Link to post Share on other sites
am i right Posted May 25, 2004 Share Posted May 25, 2004 well every one you were all wrong I left him alone since the posts and tonight he served her his divorce papers so you all had advice but I went with my heart and he said he loved me for all these years but was never sure if I honestly felt the same way about him. I admitted that tonight when we talked he had only had them for the past month and never said anything not to pressure me on this. so our 4 kids and us will soon be a family they say if you love something set it free if it's meant to be it will come back.I know he's direct and doesn't ever say what he don't mean so I knew he was trying to tell me something but was afraid to be direct. I 'm happy you all felt I was being used and it was meant for us to be together. men can't live w/o them can't live with them hope not the later on my part lol. thanks all for your input. wife soon to be ex said he never loved me so he needed to show her he did he also gave me a ring tonight so he'll never lose me agin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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