Ex contacted me by "accident" last night, twice.

[cocolove]

It's been ten months since my ex left me for another girl. I went no contact for two and a half months, broke it about a week and a half ago. I got no response from him when I reached out to be friends on facebook. Last night I was out with friends having a great time thinking to myself if he ever called I'd tell him to get lost. Not even two minutes after thinking that, my phone begins to ring I recognize the number I deleted earlier that day..I was seriously erasing him from my life, pictures, number, everything. It was him, I picked up and said hello three times, the music in the car was too loud and he hung up.

 

I texted him saying "why did you just call me? i'm done with you, goodbye." Fifty minutes later, he calls again and hangs up. So I text again, "why are you calling me????" He responds with a "don't flatter yourself over a mistake. f*ck off." I was puzzled... I then proceeded to rage at him saying " you made the mistake twice motherf*cker you f*ck off. I was nothing but good to you during our relationship. Do me a favor and delete my number so you don't make a mistake again. Thanks." I know that was super rude, but I was having fun and that just almost ruined my evening haha.

 

Still pissed 30 mins later, I wrote " You are a rude, selfish, self absorbed ignorant jerk who has no respect for anyone. Grow up Travis. I have, and I deserve so much better than you. Thank god i'm stronger and I wont put up with bull**** anymore. That's all I have to say, I'm done haha."

I honestly was over it, I said my peace and was done talking to him for good. I went to bed and woke up to two texts from him.

 

He wrote me at 6 am saying "Actually I do have respect for the people that deserve it. I'm glad you said your peace don't text me anymore and move on. bye."

 

Then he proceeded to write me AGAIN 25 minutes later saying "Btw if you're all grown up, you shouldnt be writing me on facebook and asking me to give you a few minutes when i don't care what goes on in your life. get it right."

 

I honestly don't understand why he'd come out of the woodworks after everything that was said and done. I thought it was weird he texted me at 6 in the morning, he's never up that early.. And I texted him my last text at 10ish... so maybe he was thinking about it for a while? I dunno..

 

I accepted the fact we'd probably never be friends again after five years of being together. I just wanna know why he'd get mad about me being completely honest about who I thought he'd become. I never lashed out at him like that before, I was just so mad he decided to show up the very day I decided I was done with him. Now i'm wondering in the back of my mind, did he really accidentally call? Why would he still have my number after telling me he never wanted to talk to me again over two and a half months ago. Why would someone who 'didn't care' take the time to respond and screw with my head. Anyway i'm gonna do exactly what I was doing and keep moving forward. Hopefully this is only a minor set back I cried, but I know i'm strong and I will survive it somehow.

[michelleishere]

It's been ten months since my ex left me for another girl. I went no contact for two and a half months, broke it about a week and a half ago. I got no response from him when I reached out to be friends on facebook. Last night I was out with friends having a great time thinking to myself if he ever called I'd tell him to get lost. Not even two minutes after thinking that, my phone begins to ring I recognize the number I deleted earlier that day..I was seriously erasing him from my life, pictures, number, everything. It was him, I picked up and said hello three times, the music in the car was too loud and he hung up.

 

I texted him saying "why did you just call me? i'm done with you, goodbye." Fifty minutes later, he calls again and hangs up. So I text again, "why are you calling me????" He responds with a "don't flatter yourself over a mistake. f*ck off." I was puzzled... I then proceeded to rage at him saying " you made the mistake twice motherf*cker you f*ck off. I was nothing but good to you during our relationship. Do me a favor and delete my number so you don't make a mistake again. Thanks." I know that was super rude, but I was having fun and that just almost ruined my evening haha.

 

Still pissed 30 mins later, I wrote " You are a rude, selfish, self absorbed ignorant jerk who has no respect for anyone. Grow up Travis. I have, and I deserve so much better than you. Thank god i'm stronger and I wont put up with bull**** anymore. That's all I have to say, I'm done haha."

I honestly was over it, I said my peace and was done talking to him for good. I went to bed and woke up to two texts from him.

 

He wrote me at 6 am saying "Actually I do have respect for the people that deserve it. I'm glad you said your peace don't text me anymore and move on. bye."

 

Then he proceeded to write me AGAIN 25 minutes later saying "Btw if you're all grown up, you shouldnt be writing me on facebook and asking me to give you a few minutes when i don't care what goes on in your life. get it right."

 

I honestly don't understand why he'd come out of the woodworks after everything that was said and done. I thought it was weird he texted me at 6 in the morning, he's never up that early.. And I texted him my last text at 10ish... so maybe he was thinking about it for a while? I dunno..

 

I accepted the fact we'd probably never be friends again after five years of being together. I just wanna know why he'd get mad about me being completely honest about who I thought he'd become. I never lashed out at him like that before, I was just so mad he decided to show up the very day I decided I was done with him. Now i'm wondering in the back of my mind, did he really accidentally call? Why would he still have my number after telling me he never wanted to talk to me again over two and a half months ago. Why would someone who 'didn't care' take the time to respond and screw with my head. Anyway i'm gonna do exactly what I was doing and keep moving forward. Hopefully this is only a minor set back I cried, but I know i'm strong and I will survive it somehow.

 

oMG, thank goodness you are not with him now

 

He sounds like a jerk

 

He did not text or call you by accident - he wanted to contact you

 

Also, he was probably angry because he did not get his own way (ie: you being all nice to him)

 

Wow!!! He is selfish

[karmaqueen]

Forget him and carry on being strong, especially as he was so rude to you. Sounds like he wanted to upset you so don't give him that satisfaction- easier said than done. It's a bit of a rollercoaster so just treat is as a blip and don't let it get to you.

[cocolove]

Yea i'm doing my best. It still hurts, I thought I was ok but now I just feel really horrible. I texted back saying 'I'm sick of fighting. I just want to be happy, and I want you to be happy too. I think i'm ready to open myself up to loving someone again. We've both changed and there's nothing wrong with it. I'd rather not leave things like this, so have a great life I wish nothing but the best for you. Goodbye."

 

Hopefully it gets easier from here. I guess i'm finally at the acceptance stage, never thought i'd get there but here I am. Took me long enough haha.

[TheJiltedGeneration]

isn't there a way of blocking a number from another phone from reaching you?. just thinking could be a good idea just so that "accidents" like this wont happen again.. not sure if thats too extreme but if he pull the same all S*** again I would definitely consider it..

[cocolove]

I keep over analyzing the entire situation. I don't know whether he accidentally called, or he made a mistake by calling me (purposely reached out hoping for something). I guess i'm not as over it all as I thought. Either way it's bad right? He could have been trying to reconcile, and I shut him down and he became a huge jerk. Doesn't someone who seems really angry, still have feelings. If they didn't have feelings they wouldn't make it a big deal right? Wouldn't a "That call was an accident" suffice?

 

I guess i'll never know. My entire day felt low, not my usual happy... Now I'm sitting here listening to sad songs ugh. Do you guys think I should go no contact again? I'm starting to want answers as to why he called, why he started being a jerk after I decided not to stroke his ego by being nice... I don't want to go back that downward spiral.. I hope to be friends with him in the future, I still care about him. I don't think I can block him yet I still have hope for communication, but if he does it again I probably will. Any advice would be helpful.