futuregopher Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 How do I get women to approach me? Obviously it's not that hard if you're a famous person or a professional athlete. For the guys out there, have girls ever approached you at bars or in public settings? If they have, what caused the attraction? Your good looks? Brand name clothing? Cologne? Peacocking? I will rate myself a 6.5/10 that dresses decently well when I go out but I am usually one to open sets with girls. It would just be nice to get opinions from guys if they've been approached by girls and girls if they approached the guy. Thank you for the help!! Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Women generally don't approach, even if you're good looking. However, being good looking helps. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Go to the gym. Wear clothes that are clean and fit. Shower regularly. Cut your hair. That should about cover it. Link to post Share on other sites
Alliecat Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 It typically depends on what bar/club you are going to that dictates what kind of women will approach you. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Generally women wont approach you. But they will hang around you to hint that you need to approach them. Ive had young girls go as far as to deliberately hang near me, then rub up against me as they went to stand next to me at the bar. So they made it painfully obvious that they wanted me to start talking to them. but most of the time women will NEVER initiate conversation, because they cant handle rejection. So your best bet is to start approaching them. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Women will give you signals, but they won't ask you out, unless they are desperate. That is the man's job. My advice is to stop worrying about this, start looking for those signals, and start approaching! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Ive had young girls go as far as to deliberately hang near me, then rub up against me as they went to stand next to me at the bar. So they made it painfully obvious that they wanted me to start talking to them. Fact. I experienced this a few times this past weekend when I visited my alma mater...this is why you should go to the gym...and wear clothes that fit...apparently girls like rubbing up on reasonably fit bodies...but unfortunately I'm retarded when it comes to women and just move my arm away as to not further encroach on their space... Link to post Share on other sites
Author futuregopher Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 Hahaha, I've seen the "women weirdly close by you so you can open them" thing and it's pretty interesting. I do workout but I am not very muscular. I am 5'11'' and more of the toned/athletic type. God bless you for serving our country but I will never have the physique of a marine in the next few months. To compensate for my lack of muscles, I wear a RL polo with abercrombie jeans and diesel athletic sneakers when I go out. I've gotten a few compliments on my polos but it's just been whatever. My roommate convinced me to get a Burberry polo because he says girls really find that attractive. My wardrobe was in dire need of an upgrade though. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 (edited) Axe body spray. Edited October 24, 2011 by ptp Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Wear this. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Wear this. I raise your t shirt and give you this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Generally women wont approach you. But they will hang around you to hint that you need to approach them. Ive had young girls go as far as to deliberately hang near me, then rub up against me as they went to stand next to me at the bar. So they made it painfully obvious that they wanted me to start talking to them. but most of the time women will NEVER initiate conversation, because they cant handle rejection. So your best bet is to start approaching them. Exactly. You see, OP, equality only matters to women when it benefits her and not the men, so that's why we're still stuck in the 1800s rule of dating out here because she's still spineless. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Exactly. You see, OP, equality only matters to women when it benefits her and not the men, so that's why we're still stuck in the 1800s rule of dating out here because she's still spineless. Equality? We're talking biology. Women don't like spineless wimps, and they like to feel feminine, not masculine. It is masculine to make the first move, and feminine to reciprocate. Which means that a woman would feel masculine if she were to make the first move and ask him out, and he would be de-masculinized. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 I raise your t shirt and give you this one. Perfect. Every man needs at least two shirts. Link to post Share on other sites
MaxNoob Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 You need the 3 wolf moon shirt. http://www.amazon.com/Mountain-Three-Wolf-Short-Sleeve/dp/B002HJ377A Just read the reviews. Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Equality? We're talking biology. Women don't like spineless wimps, and they like to feel feminine, not masculine. It is masculine to make the first move, and feminine to reciprocate. Which means that a woman would feel masculine if she were to make the first move and ask him out, and he would be de-masculinized. False! She won't approach or even drop hints because she's spineless! I'm not talking through a see-through cup here. It's the truth! She's been bitching for years about wanting to be equal to men on every single thing, except in the dating world. She wants no responsibility from that part whatsoever. She only wants equality when it benefits her. Just throw the dating liabilities on the man is how she comes across since she doesn't even act feminine any more, anyway; wanting to be a cop and a firefighter is far from the real role of a woman, bro. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 You need the 3 wolf moon shirt. http://www.amazon.com/Mountain-Three-Wolf-Short-Sleeve/dp/B002HJ377A Just read the reviews. That is hysterical! Thanks for the laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Hahaha, I've seen the "women weirdly close by you so you can open them" thing and it's pretty interesting. I do workout but I am not very muscular. I am 5'11'' and more of the toned/athletic type. God bless you for serving our country but I will never have the physique of a marine in the next few months. To compensate for my lack of muscles, I wear a RL polo with abercrombie jeans and diesel athletic sneakers when I go out. I've gotten a few compliments on my polos but it's just been whatever. My roommate convinced me to get a Burberry polo because he says girls really find that attractive. My wardrobe was in dire need of an upgrade though. Most women won't even know the difference in brands. The key is to find a brand that fits you right. An expensive branded article of clothing that doesn't fit is going to look much worse than a cheaper one that fits perfectly. For what it's worth, Burberry fits terribly on me, even though it's a decent, albeit overpriced brand...so I don't even consider it... Link to post Share on other sites
Cypress25 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Equality? We're talking biology. Women don't like spineless wimps, and they like to feel feminine, not masculine. It is masculine to make the first move, and feminine to reciprocate. Which means that a woman would feel masculine if she were to make the first move and ask him out, and he would be de-masculinized. This is the truth. Expecting a woman to approach but still be feminine is like asking her to be the man and the woman in this scenario. Besides, it's common knowledge that men tend to get lazy in relationships, after they've snagged the girl. It used to be that men were willing to approach and do all the pursuing initially, and then they would stop trying and it would be up to the woman to maintain the relationship. Now men aren't even willing to put in the initial effort, and it's not because they're planning to pick up the slack later. They just don't want to do any work, ever. They expect the woman to approach, pursue, and maintain the entire relationship. Sorry, guys, but that's not equality. Link to post Share on other sites
Cypress25 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Most women won't even know the difference in brands. The key is to find a brand that fits you right. An expensive branded article of clothing that doesn't fit is going to look much worse than a cheaper one that fits perfectly. For what it's worth, Burberry fits terribly on me, even though it's a decent, albeit overpriced brand...so I don't even consider it... Seriously, I didn't even know there was more than one brand of polo shirt. A polo is a polo, and they all say pretty much the same thing: "My mother dressed me until college and I never learned how to dress myself, so now I wear polos because they're supposed to be fancy." Personally, I'm much more attracted to a well-fitted T-shirt on a guy. Wear it with jeans and a belt, and you'll look casual but still put-together. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Personally, I'm much more attracted to a well-fitted T-shirt on a guy. Wear it with jeans and a belt, and you'll look casual but still put-together. ..... Link to post Share on other sites
Fondue Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 If you want to get approached, pull up to the bar/club/event in Bentley, walk out wearing a 3k+ custom tailored suit with the following accessories: Rolex, Dolce + Gabbana sunglasses, and optional: two smoking hot ladies by your arms. The amount of female attention you'll get will be overwhelming. If that isn't available to you, I suppose you could always bulk up, wear fitted clothing (preferably looking somewhat professional or stylish), and pretend to act confident. Typically though, you'll just get signals from women that might be interested in you. Most often what happens to me, and from what I perceive not to be a coincidence is when you're at the bar trying to fetch a drink, for whatever reason, a lady would stand right by you at the bar shoulder to shoulder, her's touching yours. She may even glance over a few times. This is usually you're queue to say something like: "Are you looking to buy me a drink, or something ?" Link to post Share on other sites
Jynxx Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 If you want to get approached, pull up to the bar/club/event in Bentley, walk out wearing a 3k+ custom tailored suit with the following accessories: Rolex, Dolce + Gabbana sunglasses, and optional: two smoking hot ladies by your arms. The amount of female attention you'll get will be overwhelming. Ironically, most people wouldn't recognize a real rolex from a 50$ imitation, a 100$ suit from a 3k suit, and a pair of cheap fancy looking sunglasses from expensive ones with an italian name on it. As for the Bentley, people inside a club won't be aware of what car you arrived in unless they can see through walls, so that's equally useless. Women being choosing money over personality is ridiculous and in my experience only used as an excuse by people without any money to justify their own faillure and incompetence. At best money acts as a tiebreaker. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Women generally don't know car brands, but they will recognize suit brands. Also, expensive pairs of shoes, since women seem to have a shoe fetish. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Women generally don't know car brands, but they will recognize suit brands. Also, expensive pairs of shoes, since women seem to have a shoe fetish. I'd say 99.9998% of men couldn't recognize a suit brand just from looking at the suit, and the same percentage of women probably wouldn't recognize the brand if you told them... But it's important to have clean shoes that aren't falling apart. Women definitely look at/for them. Link to post Share on other sites
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