LynnieBear Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 when a girl is dating someone she describes as an ******* its usually because he is indifferent to her or not treating her very well, right? women a lot of the time dont do that to men because as a result of a patriarchal culture, women feel more pressure to be liked and it may hit their self esteem harder if people dont like them. and when youre mean to someone you think they arent going to like you, right? the cosmic joke is that people like mean people more because it makes them insecure to think someone doesnt like them. so women who are viewed as *******s it just means they have enough self esteem that they arent constantly pandering to people to get them to like them. and in relationships, that usually means that she isnt emotionally open and therefore is distant from the men trying to get close to her so I'm not trying to get anyone to like me... sue me? I'm just speaking my mind, being completely upfront and honest and I'm not trying to get anyone to like me. I'm the female equivalent of an @zz and I'm proud of it and that's why I like "bad boys". I need someone "bad" enough who can put up with me. I really don't think the guy that I like really "liked" the girls he "dated" either. He was with one in particular for 3 weeks and then dumped her over text and admitted reasons (one of them being that she was fat) and that she's an ex "for many reasons" and they were really shallow reasons. And he keeps exes around.. probably for a "booty call". I highly doubt he really "liked" this girl. He sounds dreamy. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 GET. OVER. IT. He doesn't want to date you. He has given you the ultimate rejection. And it is time to GET OVER IT. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 GET. OVER. IT. He doesn't want to date you. He has given you the ultimate rejection. And it is time to GET OVER IT. Move on. Guess I'm never gonna be with anyone then, because he is the male version of me and the only person I care to be with. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 You are so edgy. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 OP, please seek counseling. What you seek is not here. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 There are definitely some benefits from your future lack of procreation. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 What you think about things has nothing whatsoever to do with your poor victim (you seem like a stalker) and the girls he LIKES and IS INTERESTED IN. He does NOT like, and is NOT INTERESTED in you. What makes this impossible for you to grasp? Have you had problems with obsessions before in your life? Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 There are definitely some benefits from your future lack of procreation. In her words - "Facebook like this" Lynnie, I really do think you would benefit from some professional help. Link to post Share on other sites
WhiteChocolate Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 women who are viewed as *******s it just means they have enough self esteem that they arent constantly pandering to people to get them to like them. and in relationships, that usually means that she isnt emotionally open and therefore is distant from the men trying to get close to her There's a balance between low self-esteem and high self-esteem. And confidence isn't always high self-esteem. I personally think the most bad"@zz" person is humble, aka not arrogant, but isn't insecure. I'm just speaking my mind, being completely upfront and honest and I'm not trying to get anyone to like me. I'm the female equivalent of an @zz and I'm proud of it and that's why I like "bad boys". I need someone "bad" enough who can put up with me. ...Why would we care about liking you or not? The fact that you brought up that you aren't trying to get anyone to like you proves that you have been thinking about it. If you truly didn't care, you wouldn't have even thought about it, and thus brought it up. So you basically trapped yourself. Anyways, how is this relevant unless you are finding twisted ways in which you are an "@zz" just like the jerk who you have a crush on? I really don't think the guy that I like really "liked" the girls he "dated" either. He was with one in particular for 3 weeks and then dumped her over text and admitted reasons (one of them being that she was fat) and that she's an ex "for many reasons" and they were really shallow reasons. And he keeps exes around.. probably for a "booty call". I highly doubt he really "liked" this girl. This reeks of jealousy and judgement. LynnieBear, I don't understand why you claim to cling to Christian codes of conduct (<alliteration on purpose :lmao: wow I need to sleep more) when you are so willing to be hypocritical... He sounds dreamy. He sounds dreamy because he's not real. You have created an illusion in your head that he is "just like you," that he is your soul mate, your other half. Surprise! He is not into you. The funny thing is, I can sympathize with you. I had a male friend on whom I had a huge crush on for years. And it took years of rejection and tears for me to realize that obsessing is NOT healthy, being "just friends" doesn't work, and love means letting go. I realized how futile my pursuit was when I discovered this quote: "If you love someone, let them go. If they return, they are forever yours." So I let him go. He didn't come back. Maybe you should try the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Rabid Ferret Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 What ever happened to DreamerGirl? Because I don't think she went anywhere. I don't understand this obsession with jerks. They view you as a hole with a face attached to it. They don't value you. They will toss you aside. They will snap your heart in two if it means they can gain something. You are worthless to a "bad boy". They aren't an "untamed stallion waiting to be saddled". They aren't hiding some deep complex emotional labyrinth that you need to brave to find the golden adonis inside. Sometimes a piece of **** is a piece of ****. Sounds more like you aren't so much a female ***hole as that you have massive self esteem issues. Do you really think you deserve to be treated like refuse by somebody who would pitch you into the can the second somebody more appealing came along? Because I can promise you that bad boys do not change. All those little charming moments and sweet words are nothing but a well rehearsed script they play over and over again to get into a new set of panties every day. This is FACT. I keep seeing women assume their jerk is "different from the rest, he loves me!", and no amount of advice ever shakes them from that delusion. And it's really sad. Link to post Share on other sites
TrueColors Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 (edited) when a girl is dating someone she describes as an ******* its usually because he is indifferent to her or not treating her very well, right? women a lot of the time dont do that to men because as a result of a patriarchal culture, women feel more pressure to be liked and it may hit their self esteem harder if people dont like them. and when youre mean to someone you think they arent going to like you, right? the cosmic joke is that people like mean people more because it makes them insecure to think someone doesnt like them. so women who are viewed as *******s it just means they have enough self esteem that they arent constantly pandering to people to get them to like them. and in relationships, that usually means that she isnt emotionally open and therefore is distant from the men trying to get close to her so I'm not trying to get anyone to like me... sue me? I'm just speaking my mind, being completely upfront and honest and I'm not trying to get anyone to like me. I'm the female equivalent of an @zz and I'm proud of it and that's why I like "bad boys". I need someone "bad" enough who can put up with me. I really don't think the guy that I like really "liked" the girls he "dated" either. He was with one in particular for 3 weeks and then dumped her over text and admitted reasons (one of them being that she was fat) and that she's an ex "for many reasons" and they were really shallow reasons. And he keeps exes around.. probably for a "booty call". I highly doubt he really "liked" this girl. He sounds dreamy. This is what deluded looks like! Edited October 24, 2011 by TrueColors Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I've never got the impression that LB's stalking victim is even a jerk. He's probably just some average Joe who likes a few girls - none of which happen to be LB. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted November 4, 2011 Author Share Posted November 4, 2011 I've never got the impression that LB's stalking victim is even a jerk. He's probably just some average Joe who likes a few girls - none of which happen to be LB. He actually is a jerk, because of the way he's treated girls he has dated. He bad mouths them (to me) when he gets "bored" of them after 2 or 3 weeks, sleeps with them, and dumps them. He doesn't carry through with anything... he's kind of like... a commitment phobe? I don't even know the word for it... I was just talking to my mom today about it... he has a problem carrying through with things that are supposedly important to him. We tried to be a band for awhile, he didn't stick with it for longer than 2 practices and automatically assumed we didn't "gel". He does it with girls, too. He claims to find a girl he's "interested" in and doesn't stick with it for longer than a couple, (a few at the most), weeks. He doesn't stick with things very long. You can't get to know a person in 3 weeks. He gets "bored" of them and thinks he's figured "everything" out about them and they are all of a sudden "boring". He's a funny one... A lot of things he says doesn't make sense, and it could just be that he's young, but at 22 you'd think he'd be mature... I guess not, though. Guys don't mature until about the age of 40. If they even do then... Link to post Share on other sites
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