missy268 Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 My OM has left his girlfriend now he is living on his own now but he wants nothing to do with me - and he wants to go and live a bachelor life style, and play the field so to speak i was like thanks for the honesty, and dont worry about thanking me for supporting you and waiting for you, hoping we were going to be a couple how stupid was i! Im heartbroken, i should of stayed NC with him! i've deleted his number yet again, i might see about blocking it, no more! im done! I need real help to move on from him i love him so much but i cant hurt myself anymore i longed for the day they seperated i sound so stupid , i feel stupid too xxx Link to post Share on other sites
Yianks Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 (edited) The reason he is doing all these to you is because......he can. He takes you for granted. Show him that you will not be there for him forever, that you are independent and that life can go on with or without him. I am not proposing games but to stand up for yourself so as YOU value yourself higher. Then he will start doing the same. Edited October 26, 2011 by Yianks Link to post Share on other sites
26pointblue Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 You can do better! Just keep moving on and put him in your past. You deserve so much more. Always remember that. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
that_gal Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 My OM has left his girlfriend now he is living on his own now but he wants nothing to do with me - and he wants to go and live a bachelor life style, and play the field so to speak i was like thanks for the honesty, and dont worry about thanking me for supporting you and waiting for you, hoping we were going to be a couple how stupid was i! Im heartbroken, i should of stayed NC with him! i've deleted his number yet again, i might see about blocking it, no more! im done! I need real help to move on from him i love him so much but i cant hurt myself anymore i longed for the day they seperated i sound so stupid , i feel stupid too xxx Oh, Missy! I'm with you! My MM left his wife, with no expectations from me. He told his wife of the affair, and moved out. In the mean time I got an email explaining how unhappy he was and that this was long over due....and that he needed to concentrate on getting his kids through this, and live on his own for awhile. He dropped subtle hints as in "slow down for awhile" and "right now" he couldn't offer more than his friendship. I'm not sure how to take those things, but I've decided not to take any of it. I'm just not sure if he left because he eventually wanted to persue something with me. Or he left because he wanted to be alone. So complicated. I wish you luck, I'd say to be strong, but I know the weakness we have for them....sigh Link to post Share on other sites
phillyfan Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 Dude hes a freakin azzhole n u can do much betta. I dont get why girls thnk that affair = anythin more than an affair. In fact a dude who is cheatin and datin 2 women is makin it pretty dam clear he aint into a 1 person comitment. I wish all the ladies on ths website wud realize tht, if thy did life wud play out betta 4 them, theyd dump the married azzholes n date a hot single dude like me Link to post Share on other sites
wannabdone Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 Missy... I'm SO SORRY!!!! I have been through heart break so many times. Its awful. Just know this.... you are getting there. As you are seeing what his true colors are and that you have played into his hand. Have you tried counseling? This might be the time to start.....just so you can concentrate on you and possibly get guidance as to what you need to do. Good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author missy268 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Share Posted October 28, 2011 Its really hard to let him go he's my best friend and our mutual friends dont understand why im not there for him during his break up, a friend of ours text me today to say that he needs his friensd and im like erm i wish i could tell you why we're not speaking but i can't its so so SO hard, ive always loved him and so this is why i thought we had our chance! xxx Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted October 28, 2011 Share Posted October 28, 2011 Why can't you tell your friend the reason you're "not there for him right now"? Link to post Share on other sites
1956peace Posted October 28, 2011 Share Posted October 28, 2011 learn your lesson, you deserve more than you are letting yourself have. Affairs are based on lies, you can't expect anything real, that is the other world, honest, committed relationships, that is what you should look for and not settle for anything less ever again. If he ever calls tell him you have moved past a deceitful life....... Find a man that does care about you....... Link to post Share on other sites
Author missy268 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Share Posted October 28, 2011 i know if i could see our future together - it wouldn't be rosey , i wouldnt trust him and i find it really sad that we have this bond - which isn't fake everbody can see it yet maybe we aren't right for each other and have completely ruined our friendship by having this fling i told him i wish him well and i hope he finds a way through it all - I may be cutting him too much slack, but you know i am a genuinely nice girl i just got caught up in a situation Link to post Share on other sites
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