Miss S H Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 Hi everyone I have currently been dumped by my ex of 7 ish months... The best time of my life, and probably for me the longest relationship i've ever had. I'm a 28 year old female and I am confident and attractive, I work in public relations so have no issues socialising and interacting with all kind of people and have a ridiculously large group of varied friends. I come from a relatively loving but traditional and conservative family .. whom although having never encouraged me to date/be in a relationship, have not discouraged it either. Basically... I am sick of hearing people tell me that they don't get why I am never with anyone, why I have such little faith and that "a girl like me would never have a problem, guys love you!" People either think I'm happy being single or who knows. I have however, never had a ridiculously seriously relationship. I also have always been dumped, and often for not legitimate tangible reason. I see people jump from relationship to relationship with great guys/girls all the time whom they connect with easily and BAM relationship ... I have only met 2 or 3 guys my whole life I would even consider dating.... and i feel like I know just about everyone in my city (I live in australia) I really thought for the first time in my life that this one, was going to work out. He pursued me and made me feel as though I finally had everything which was always just a dream to me. He made me for the first time in my life, feel like a real girl, as opposed to the "fake" persona every looks/views me by. I am struggling to come to terms with the break up and want him back more than anything and I pray and wish daily for a new fresh chance (my story is in the second chance forum) But in light of this beautiful person and experience being taken away from me for whatever the reason, I wonder.... Am I meant to be alone? If I have and do/tick all the boxes we are universally told by society and "experts" in terms of meeting and connecting with someone and I consistently fail (not that i ever meet a man I want to be with, I average about 1 a year if I'm lucky and I go out nearly EVERY night of the week as an open, engaging bubbly and fun person, and I think I have tried every bar/club/sports centre in the city) . Thus Ive made a load of great friends. Are some people just not meant to be with someone? I feel like my hopes were raised by the universe and then cruelly and unecassarily snatched from me, albeit prematurely also... Why can't i get the chance to grow in love when thats all my heart desires? ive been patient, I've given people I normally wouldn't a chance and when I meet someone I truly feel something for and develop strong feelings, genuinely care for them and feel on top of the world that I have been blessed to have them in my life- THEY ARE TAKEN From me. I am starting to wonder, if I'm just meant to be alone forever?! Am I unloveable? I'm sorry my ranting vent, but I didn't knwo where else to say this! Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 28, 2011 Share Posted October 28, 2011 I have only met 2 or 3 guys my whole life I would even consider dating... There's the problem... For most at this point, it is because they simply don't meet enough people. For you, the problem is deep within you. At any rate, you might even solve that problem by meeting a lot more people!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Eliana Posted October 28, 2011 Share Posted October 28, 2011 You won't be forever alone, I can guarantee you that. We all go through phases of loneliness and relationshipness throughout the years, whether you like it or not. The fact that you've only met 2 or 3 guys that you considered dating tells me that you have high standards, or you've met someone so fabulous a long time ago that you are finding hard to replace. That's not a bad thing per se, but it does mean you have to dig deeper than most ordinary people to find The One. It will all be worth it once it happens. Meanwhile you don't have to be depressed about being alone. It's a stage in your life you should be enjoying, because it will eventually end. It's a stage for you to be selfish and think about yourself, and take care about yourself. Use it, because you might miss it soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Trufita Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 I agree with SincereOnlineGuy and Eliana , Eliana I specially loved your answer, it has helped me too. Link to post Share on other sites
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