Space Ritual Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 I don't know why no-one else has commented on it yet, but getting to this stage of intoxication in the first place - especially around people you don't really know - is not normal behavior for healthy people. You seem to have a rather major drinking problem, and that's really the root cause of all your other problems here. I suggest you take steps to start to deal with your alcohol problem, or it's only going to cause issues for you again and again in the future. I see more an more young people these days in my AA/NA meetings than ever before. I have been in recovery for over 12 years and seriously this year alone I think I have seen membership in my local chapters of 18-24 year olds explode. Moreso than an alcohol problem, I tend to think people in that age group have more of a responsibility and respect problem than anything. Seems many in that age group never had to lift a finger for anything or do a decent day';s work. And some of em just need the **** kicked out of them..plain and simple...lol Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 amen on that space ritual.... Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 At least you have learnt that when you are in love, to NOW drink with other men! NOT when your guy is not with u. U did not MEAN to do anything, however; getting too drunk alone, with other men, means u are putting yourself in a position, where u can do things with other men that u DO NOT MEAN. Live and learn. Tell the guy that you have learnt that it is nto safe to get excessively drunk with other men; tell him u did not realize it could lead to you doing things u do not want to do. At least he will know that u made an error of judgment, and u can get closure, that he knows you simple did not judge the situation properly, and in turn, ended up doing somerthing u did not want to do. Life can be about making smart decisions; make the wrong decision, and u could put yourself in aposition that you do not want to be in. You will be utterly hreartbroken, no doubt, and will be always thinking about the guy u love with other girls. Sadly, the only thing u can do is live with your horrible feelings, until one daym, they pass. You will feel **** for a while, so her are a few suggestions: - join a gym if u can afford it or work out on your own. Start running with music it is fun:). Getting in great shape is a great activity to do: it releases natural hormones that will make u literally feel happy, albiet temporeraly. - try to meet new friends. expand your social circle ( and do not go on about your heartbreak! lol) - Try to better yourself and your life. You will be in pain no matter WHAT u do, so u may as well do things that will make your life BETTer, once the pain STOPS. Link to post Share on other sites
diskostu Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 I'm happy to report my boyfriend and I are back together and this blip has only made us stronger. I feel that it has deepened out relationship and if anything he trusts me more because I had the balls to say the truth right away and he was very understanding. We had the best weekend together, I don't really care what labels people wanna put on our relationship. He's the best thing that ever happened to me and he's living proof that forgiveness does exist he's looking out for me to be more careful in my choices. I'm ultimately in charge of my own choices, but having someone I'm accountable to is very comforting and good for me. Thank you for the helpful comments, everyone. The cold criticisms can go suck it, you're obviously some kind of superhuman that never makes mistakes. Ahahaha. One love! <3 holy **** your boyfriend is pathetic. btw, you will cheat again. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 so does this mean you are going to stop partying with other guys? I'm guessing the answer to my question will be a "no". Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 At least you have learnt that when you are in love, to NOW drink with other men! NOT when your guy is not with u. cheaters on this board have told this forum they will never cheat again and when posed with the idea they shouldn't be partying, more specifically surrounding themselves with the opposite sex and drinking, most of them will boo hoo and say something like, "Just because I messed up doesn't mean I can't party still" Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 I'm happy to report my boyfriend and I are back together and this blip has only made us stronger. I feel that it has deepened out relationship and if anything he trusts me more because I had the balls to say the truth right away and he was very understanding. We had the best weekend together, I don't really care what labels people wanna put on our relationship. He's the best thing that ever happened to me and he's living proof that forgiveness does exist he's looking out for me to be more careful in my choices. I'm ultimately in charge of my own choices, but having someone I'm accountable to is very comforting and good for me. Thank you for the helpful comments, everyone. The cold criticisms can go suck it, you're obviously some kind of superhuman that never makes mistakes. Ahahaha. One love! <3 Sad thing is, is that she didn't do her research and has no idea what the roller coaster of emotions is about. They're back together because he on top of a hill. Pretty soon, he'll be coming over the crest and going down. THEN, we may or may not see the OP posting that they fight all the time, he says hurtful things all the time, he doesn't say that he loves me anymore, and he can't even look at me. Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I didn't read many other posts by my take on your story here is that you are in no way ready for a relationship. You sound clingy, desperate, low self-esteem, and just don't have the maturity to not get yourself into trouble while hanging around a bunch of guys trying to get you drunk. What do you think happens when you start drinking with other guys? and why did you even have the desire to do this? You seem like the kind of girl that has some serious issues and If I were him I wouldn't want much to do with you either, you need to work on your own insecurities because you sound like the type of girl that falls in love with every other guy and each one could be "the one"...you probably consider yourself a romantic but hell I doubt it takes much romancing to gain the likes of you. Sorry but you pretty much radiate qualities that I find extremely unattractive in women. Link to post Share on other sites
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