She's already in a relationship.

[beachwrangler]

So I know I'm gonna get ****. I broke NC saturday. She texted me saying she missed me like crazy. I responded with I miss you too. We had a good conversation and made plans to do dinner on sunday. I sent her a text that night and she never responded. So sunday comes and I'm not going to be the one chasing her so I waited for her to text me and of course I got nothing. She texted me this morning saying thanks for not hitting me up yesterday. I told her you never responded to my text so I figured you didn't want to see me. She responds with I was waiting for you. Your an idiot and you obviously don't care. I'm done trying don't want a guy that doesn't have the balls to hit me up. I said I do care you have no idea how much its just everytime I try I get shutdown. I'm guessing you don't want to make things work anymore. She says nope I'm done. So I said its best that we don't talk anymore bc I wanted to make things work while she didn't. Wished her the best and to take care. She didn't respond. Ugh I feel so stupid. Idk why I think things will ever be different with her.

[josem]

Maybe your not always telling her how much she mean to you, and your always busy, you didn't appreciate her or shes not attracted to you theirs so many question and absent that no body else can tell it was you, girl's was so sensitive you have to take it note, good for your next relationship!

[beachwrangler]

So

these past two days have been tough I miss her and I know I absolutely shouldn't after everything. Sometimes I can't help but feel like it's my fault she lied, cheated, played me and verbally abused me. I know it's not though I just enabled the behavior

so

I guess you could say I'

m

to blame as well. It just blows my mind she says I'

m

the one that doesn't care just because I don't hit her up this past sunday when she never responded to my text on Saturday night. She has a lot of nerve to make that statement after everything she has done. I know I deserve better. I'

m

only on Day 2 of

NC

and luckily haven't heard anything from her. I know with time things will get better just having one of those days. Better to post here then to contact her.

[beachwrangler]

So

update on my situation. There is none

I have been in

NC

for 5 days with the ex and not gonna lie it's been nice. I've realized that it is gonna get better I can just tell everyday that I will make it through this. I even met a girl last night

We've been talking today and I am going to take it very SLOW with her Bc I still do have strong feelings for the ex. But this new girl is awesome I can be myself around her and she loves it which is a breath of fresh air bc with the ex I felt I had to walk on eggshells not to set her off. Life is starting to turn around I am going out with friends more, picking up new hobbies such as golf, having the best work outs at the gym, meeting new people, and the BIG job promotion is all set in stone for January

50,000 for a 24 year

old

kid I'd say

Im

doing good for myself. It feels great to be getting my life back. Do I still think of the ex yes of course but not near as much and don't spend near as much time as I did asking who she is with, what she is doing, is she thinking about me? Honestly I will probably always love her but she's not right for me. Don't want to be with somebody who lied, cheated, played, and emotionally abused me without any remorse.

NC

is the only way to go in my opinion and now I see why

so

many people on this forum preach it. It's only been 5 days but my god crazy to think how good I will feel in a month. Very excited for the future

[TheFinalWord]

So

these past two days have been tough I miss her and I know I absolutely shouldn't after everything. Sometimes I can't help but feel like it's my fault she lied, cheated, played me and verbally abused me. I know it's not though I just enabled the behavior

so

I guess you could say I'

m

to blame as well. It just blows my mind she says I'

m

the one that doesn't care just because I don't hit her up this past sunday when she never responded to my text on Saturday night. She has a lot of nerve to make that statement after everything she has done. I know I deserve better. I'

m

only on Day 2 of

NC

and luckily haven't heard anything from her. I know with time things will get better just having one of those days. Better to post here then to contact her.

 

Bro, you are completely falling for her BS! You need to get rid of your phone immediately and change the number. This girl is abusive and you seem to like being abused.

 

She is USING you. There is no love in this equation. She doesn't even know what that word is. It is 100% abuse.

 

Whether you are religious or not, look at this definition of love in the bible (I Corinthians 13):

 

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails.

 

I am giving you a homework assignment. Please go here:

 

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+13&version=NIV

 

Find ONE characteristic of love this girl has and post it here. Name ONE thing she has sacrificed for you.

 

To me everything about her is the COMPLETE opposite of love. She is unfaithful, a liar, a cheater, a deceiver, a schemer, self-consumed, a complete SNAKE. Your family hates her for a reason.

 

Here is another part of this chapter:

 

"When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me."

 

It is time to become a man, and put away these childish games.

 

1000000% no contact.

Edited November 12, 2011 by TheFinalWord
type-o

[beachwrangler]

Finalword - Your are absolutely right and she seems to be the opposite that love is suppose to be makes it easier on me to move on

 

So it seems the ex has gotten desperate. I told her this past monday that it was best we didn't talk anymore. So she took off my younger brother and sister in law off her facebook after our BU. Well she requested them yesterday. My younger brother accepted her friend request and told me he wasn't going to talk to her or look at her page or post anything about me. As for my sister in law she sent her a message back saying hell no. I thought it was rather funny my sister in law has zero tolerance for bull**** She also sent my mom a long message yesterday saying she was sorry for everything that has happened and thanked my parents for everything they have done and said she loved her and my family very much and hoped to keep in touch. My mom responded with you were family to us so it was no problem I hope your taking care of yourself and I wish you and your family the best. I don't have a facebook got rid of mine after the BU. She also sent me a text today about the football game. I ignored it and what felt great is I didn't even have the urge to break NC.

 

The thing is she isn't even crazy about my little brother or sister in law and that message to my mom everyone felt it was owed to her and my family weeks ago. Everyone I've talked is telling me this girl is just trying to find away into your life to keep tabs on you it's beyond obvious. Kind of ironic she starts doing this after you told her we should stop talking. It's almost pathetic to me. I can only laugh it off.

[TheFinalWord]

Finalword - Your are absolutely right and she seems to be the opposite that love is suppose to be makes it easier on me to move on

 

So it seems the ex has gotten desperate. I told her this past monday that it was best we didn't talk anymore. So she took off my younger brother and sister in law off her facebook after our BU. Well she requested them yesterday. My younger brother accepted her friend request and told me he wasn't going to talk to her or look at her page or post anything about me. As for my sister in law she sent her a message back saying hell no. I thought it was rather funny my sister in law has zero tolerance for bull**** She also sent my mom a long message yesterday saying she was sorry for everything that has happened and thanked my parents for everything they have done and said she loved her and my family very much and hoped to keep in touch. My mom responded with you were family to us so it was no problem I hope your taking care of yourself and I wish you and your family the best. I don't have a facebook got rid of mine after the BU. She also sent me a text today about the football game. I ignored it and what felt great is I didn't even have the urge to break NC.

 

The thing is she isn't even crazy about my little brother or sister in law and that message to my mom everyone felt it was owed to her and my family weeks ago. Everyone I've talked is telling me this girl is just trying to find away into your life to keep tabs on you it's beyond obvious. Kind of ironic she starts doing this after you told her we should stop talking. It's almost pathetic to me. I can only laugh it off.

 

Good job bro. Sorry to come off kind of harsh, but I can tell you're a good guy and you had to hear it straight.

 

She is acting in desperation. She will probably say and do anything at this point. Just remember nothing about her is going to change that fast. Don't empower her anymore. You deserve far better. Take care!

[beachwrangler]

I can't say that I am suprised.

So

now the ex is officially in a relationship with one of my

old

friends just two weeks after she just got out of the relationship with Tony. The reason I know is bc I heard it through the damn grapevine and yes it is most certainly true. She is such a ****ing whoreshe has been in two relationships in the two months we have been broken up. It is

so

obvious I didn't mean a ****ing thing to her. What really pisses me off is that sunday we were suppose to get dinner a couple weeks ago the night before is when her and her new

BF

Brandon starting hooking up.

So

now I know why she never responded back to me and then tried to make me look like the bad guy for not hitting her up on sunday when we were suppose to hang out. She is a ****ing snake, a ****ing whore, and a ****ing bitch. Sorry for all the anger but my god how could I have fallen for somebody like this. I loved her and would've have gone to hell and back for her and this is what I get in return. I've been sticking to

NC

and now have even more reason not to break it. And the message she sent my mom and trying to stay close with my family such bull****. She is beyond cruel and I hope nobody ever gets involved with somebody

so

cold hearted. This is her LOSS when this bitch comes crawling back and I do say when bc the same thing happened with the last guy

Im

not gonna listen to the I love you's the I miss you's the I want to make things work

im

not gonna respond to it

im

not even gonna look back just make sure she eats the dirt i pick up as I walk away with my head high. What goes around comes around and your ****ing time is coming.

Edited November 20, 2011 by beachwrangler

[DownNotOut]

It stings dude - I know - finding out that the person that claimed to love you and care about you - really couldn't care less as demonstrated by their actions. I'm going through the same thing now and it's sad - but we will get ours and they will get theirs in the end.

[wow123]

I can't believe how many people on here are in the same situation as me. Replaced within days by the ex. It's really incredible how many people can do that.

[Alabama277]

yep I'm with all of you on this one. I've been replaced in a week from a 4 year relationship. It hurts like hell, even still, but overall I think it's easier getting it all over with at once instead of dreading the day when they start dating again.

 

This girl sounds like crap.

[Mcnulty]

Jesus, just to chime in, it happened to me...it's not just women who do this I myust add, she is with my mate, 2 and a half weeks after we ended, didn't even tell me and made it public on a domain she reviled and looked down on...bloody facebook, what is it with people man????

 

Beach, i'm totally with you on the anger front...want nothing but pain for her and him...twats, hope the get their comeuppance as i do your ex....you're not alone mate, stay strong and bounce back with the best revenge...future happiness for you!!

[wow123]

It's crazy that we're all in the same boat. The soonest i moved on was about a month, but I was the dumpee and I certainly screwed up that relationship because I wasn't ready. Last time I did that. Not sure how people swing from one branch to the next within days.

[beachwrangler]

Yeah what is up with females these days lol. Thanks guys for the support. Just two relationships in two months my god. She just broke up with the guy she left me for now two weeks later she's got another bf blows my mind. Two weeks ago she admitted the guy she left me for was to try and fill a void of not having me admitted she missed me and us and loved me very much yet she's got another bf. This girl sucks lol

[beachwrangler]

Thank you all for the advice but yes she is very toxic to me and

NC

is absolutely the only option and has always been. The hardest thing about all this isn't the lying, cheating, playing me, or the rebound relationships it's she is no longer the person I've grown to love. Even before we started dating she had a good head on her shoulders, didn't party all the time, was smart with her money, very independent didn't need a man to make her happy, and would never sleep with somebody

so

easily like she has been after the

BU

. During the relationship she was the same way with a very good head on her shoulders until she turned 21 in July things started to turn. After the

BU

she's blown all the money she had saved up, parties and drinks all the time, sleeps with guys she barely knows, dropped out of her college classes and now seems she has to contantly be in a relationship now. I'

m

not sure if somebody can become co-dependent after a relationship but it seems that is what has happened since we broke up. That to me is the hardest thing to overcome it's like the girl I came to know and love died with our relationship. I will stick to

NC

and continue to heal. Thank you all for the support.

Edited November 21, 2011 by beachwrangler

[california15]

Hang in there. The beginning is the toughest.

[nu464]

She's in the relationship now so it means that she even don't care of you, so you must move on and forget her! You can find better her.

[nyckidd]

Yeah what is up with females these days lol. Thanks guys for the support. Just two relationships in two months my god. She just broke up with the guy she left me for now two weeks later she's got another bf blows my mind. Two weeks ago she admitted the guy she left me for was to try and fill a void of not having me admitted she missed me and us and loved me very much yet she's got another bf. This girl sucks lol

 

I feel the same way about my ex man. Honestly I think she just cant handle being alone, the same probably goes for yours as well. Which is a bad sign for her because you should never NEED someone else in your life to fill a void.

 

The only relationship where a human being needs to depend on another human being is child to parent. Otherwise I think there's just some issues that need to be resolved.

[Chi townD]

Dude, I feel sorry for you when you get the strenght to start dating again. As soon as she gets wind of it. She's gonna go ballistic!!!

[Mcnulty]

Beach...you're last post...I could have wrote that!! You took all my words and thoughts and posted them man!!! So you know you are not alone in your anger, hurt and betrayal...friends....watch them close is my motto from now on.

 

Went for a walk yesterday with a female friend....along the beach, walking back to car with her, no one about...lo and behold, who drives past....my ex!!! WTF!!!! Hope she saw us and is shocked at least...screw her!!

[beachwrangler]

Chi I have the feeling that you are right. She's always taken me for granted and when she truly sees I have moved on with somebody else I think it's gonna hit her like a ton of bricks. It feels good to know I am not alone in this situation. Outside of my love life things are going great. This huge promotion is set in stone and looks like it's gonna happen in the next couple weeks also will be moving in to a nice townhouse in a great part of town sometime in January. New job, new place, new car, just bettering myself in every aspect. I know I will find a girl out there that will appreciate everything I have to offer. But yes Chi when she catches wind and we both know she will somehow of how great things are going for me she will probably as you say go ballistic lol.

[DannyT27]

I'm really struggling that my ex is with someone else all ready... Apparantly He's 10 yrs older and fairly ugly tbh... I just don't knw what she sees in him, Probaly money as she is high maintenance. Weve only been split 1 month and I thk this was already goin on towards the end of our relationship... I'm pretty sure it won't last they don't even look compatible... I'm really hurting becoz when she left I asked her if there was anyone else or had feelings for someone else and she said 'No not at all, And I won't have' Ha what a joke. I want her to feel some of this pain I'm feeling which I always thought happened on both sides as we were together 5 yrs! Thx

[JohnP82]

Sorry man, I know how you feel. My ex appears to be getting cozy with one of the guys she was always too busy hanging out with to spend time with me. Take care and remember we deserve better.

[beachwrangler]

Danny I feel your pain man. I was replaced within hours after our break up. She and this new guy were not compatible at all and I knew they wouldn't last. They dated for over a month and became official for a week and she broke it off. Told me he was just to fill the void of not having me, missed me, missed us, loved me and wanted to desperately make things work with me. Fast forward two weeks later and here she is again in another relationship with another guy she isn't compatible with trust me I know because I am friends with the kid well was lol. It seems this girl is so desperate to find what we had in somebody else. That's fine let her keep looking. Im gonna stand up on my own and deal with the pain head on and heal and move on the right way. I've dealt with a break up the way she is when I was younger and it never works honestly makes things worse because really you are just masking the pain of the BU by jumping in short meaningless relationships. It will hit her like a ton of bricks when she see's that I am truly gone. She took me for granted and I was her doormat so she doesn't know what it truly feels like to not have me.

 

So danny wish her the best if you are in contact with her bow out of her life and let her make her mistakes while you better yourself in every aspect. Screw this other guy you two have 5 years of history together nobody can take that away. She will feel that void of not having you grow larger by the day it may take sometime. If what you had was real she will realize it one day whether that be weeks, months, or years she will and if not then you will have had made yourself better for somebody that wouldn't dare replace you so fast.

[DannyT27]

Thanks beach u definetly right she will realise one day... I believe there already arguing after afew weeks lol, but if she ever comes knocking on my door again she can jog on... Could never trust again. I truely think she's very insecure!!