Author beachwrangler Posted November 22, 2011 Author Share Posted November 22, 2011 Your ex like mine is very insecure and in the end her insecurity killed our relationship. But yes your ex seems desperate to find what you guys had in somebody else but most likely she will be in for a rude awakening when she comes to find out what she threw away was a good thing. It is human nature to take things for granted but true love is hard to come by these days and some people never find it. I know my ex is desperate I mean **** two relationships in a three week period is a little pathetic in my eyes. But dude I would expect her to come crawling back if you treated her right pray she doesn't but more than likely she will. Like you said turn your back and move on to better things we both deserve better than dealing with immature insecure girls. Link to post Share on other sites
wow123 Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Beachwrangler-You said that your ex's insecurity ruined your relationship. I felt the same way about my ex. She also started seeing someone else just 2 days after our breakup further proving her insecurity. Can you describe how her insecurity made you feel and how it ruined your relationship? Did it make you lose interest? I'm struggling to remember how I felt and am putting her on a pedestal. Please let me know here or PM me. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Author beachwrangler Posted November 22, 2011 Author Share Posted November 22, 2011 (edited) Wow, Alright im going to try and make this as short as possible but even then it is still going to be a long post. Yes her insecurities absolutely are the reason for the death of our relationship. She would need constant reassurance that she was gorgeous, that she wasn't fat, etc. I didn't mind letting her know how much I loved her and thought she was beautiful not at all. It started getting worse she started to compare herself to my past ex's who happened to all be blonde while she was burnette. She seriously made herself believe that I was going to leave her for some blonde and decided to break up with me for a day but came back. It got to the point where if I went out with friends she would text me saying your probably just out checking out other girls and told me to **** off. If i went to the gym the same thing. I did watch porn very occasionally especially when she was on her period so like twice a month tops. She started to think she wasn't good enough bc I watched porn and I let her know that she was the only person I would ever have sexual relations with. I let her know I have a high sex drive and that it was tough going a week without sex while she was on her period which it was I love sex lol. It got to the point where I started telling lies of watching porn or going out with the guys bc I was so tired of her constantly accusing me of cheating, or thinking she wasn't good enough it became emotionally draining. I know lying doesn't help anything but it's like either way I couldn't win with her. She hated the fact that I was skinny and in shape bc it made her feel she had to be just as skinny as me or I'd leave her she even joined a gym bc of it I always told her I loved her for how she was. It then became a daily thing of her putting me down. Whether it was calling me stupid, annoying, an *******, a loser, a faggot, you name it. I knew she wasn't happy with herself and I was the closest person to her and I know people tend to take out their emotions on those closest to them. This led me to stop doing all the small things for her like I use to and stopped showing her how much I cared bc it was hard when I was constantly put down. Then that led to her jumping in another guy's bed then leaving me for him the next day. She was the toughest girl I had ever dealt with. She made me feel like I wasn't good enough, a piece of ****, I wasn't happy towards the end maybe at times I was but eventually I started dreading to see her bc I knew the put downs were gonna come. It was so tough bc I loved her so much and honestly still do . I really thought I could change her behavior. But people like this can only change themselves. Like the saying you can't make somebody happy if you aren't happy with yourselves this is a perfect example of that. It's sad really bc this behavior isn't going to change when she is jumping from relationship to relationship like she has been since our BU. She is the only one that can fix her insecurities being in a relationship isn't the answer but she is very immature. I do believe she will realize how good I was to her bc even her parents said i was the most stable relationship she has ever had. It's a sad situation really it is but it has taught me a lesson to never date somebody insecure bc in the end they are not ready for the relationship that I am looking for. Also to set boundaries bc I was her doormat and she absolutely took me for granted and probably still does. I know I deserve better and there are plenty of girls out there that are secure with themselves and don't need a man to make them happy which is absolutely what I am looking for right now not some little girl that has years of growing up to do. Hope this clarifies things Edited November 22, 2011 by beachwrangler Link to post Share on other sites
wow123 Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Thanks for your response. I was also expected to give constant reassurance about love and looks. If I didn't say or do what she was expecting or hoped, she would tell me what I should have one or said. In one word I would describe it as being exhausting. I look back and think I can do it now and be happy. She moved on to another guy in 2 days so I'll never get the chance. Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Alot of you know my story but I gotta chime in on this one. My ex. of 1 year dumped me for her ex. two weeks after I waited on her hand and foot after she had surgery. Then she tells me it wasn't planned, it just happened. Yea right, what a coincidence.I wonder how long it was really going on behind my back. Link to post Share on other sites
ChelseaLS Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Find it amazing how trust and honesty are rare to find now of days and how accepted cheating its. Gross... call me old fashioned, but gross. Link to post Share on other sites
Author beachwrangler Posted November 23, 2011 Author Share Posted November 23, 2011 Wow - I forgot to mention she made me delete all females out of my phone and facebook I did it for her bc I loved her and hoped it would help out her insecurities it didn't of course. She even went through my phone, my phone records, my bank accounts, my email you name it. It's funny how I was the one always being accused of cheating yet in the end she was the one who ended up cheating on me. Chelsea - I couldn't agree more cheating to me is just disgusting in my eyes and showed me my ex has absolutely no respect for me or herself for that matter. I never understood why people cheat. I guess you could say I have morals. Link to post Share on other sites
Author beachwrangler Posted November 24, 2011 Author Share Posted November 24, 2011 It's been a really rough day. Im on day 11 of NC and the memories have flooded in. I miss this girl so damn much. I want to tell her how much I love her but I know it's best that I don't. She lied, cheated, and played me and is in her second relationship since we broke up over a little two months ago. I feel stupid for even still having feelings for her. On top of that my grandma passed away this morning so it's been tough today. Im staying strong and keeping my head up and will not break NC just needed to vent. Happy thanksgiving to all here on LS Link to post Share on other sites
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