primer Posted October 28, 2011 Share Posted October 28, 2011 I started a similar thread in a different forum before I realized it actually belongs in this one. Sorry. Before you agreed to get married, did your SO make you feel like you were someone "special" to him? He wants to get engaged, but I am still totally independent and on my own. He does not treat me like I am someone special. Maybe he thinks putting a ring on my finger will keep me around a little longer. Am I getting cold feet? Am I the commitment-phobe? I am in my 40s, never married, no kids. Link to post Share on other sites
doushenka Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 If you don't feel like you're any more special to your SO than Jane Schmoe off the street, there's something wrong. If he's just treating you the same way he's always treated you during the relationship, though, and he's always treated you well, I'd take that as a sign that you've both got yourselves together enough to make a marriage work. I'd be wary of a guy who wanted me to give up independence and rely on him. You can still commit to someone and be fond of standing on your own two feet. It's healthy, in fact, because it means you will survive if something goes horribly wrong and you two split up (or he dies, etc.). Link to post Share on other sites
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