Thieves Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 How do you get over the paranoia about a guy/girl running off with someone else? How do you get that trust back? Can you ever trust anyone fully after your heart's been broken so much? It's not so much that I'm paranoid about how the ex went off with someone else, but it's about when I finally meet someone new. I don't want that to happen. It sounds inevitable, I know, but it's true. I mean, the mere thought of it now is enough to make me feel claustrophobic and a little short of breath. I try so hard sometimes to be optimistic, but the thought of being blindsided like that again is almost enough to make me swear off dating for a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Paranoia is irrational fear. Your fear is rational--just excessive. Professional help and medicine will help if you feel it's taking you over and actually causing the things you fear. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Thieves I am so glad you posted this. I am struggling with exactly the same feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
davesterr Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 getting into a new relationship without holding back on feelings then you just have to trust the person ur with. then again after your first real heartbreak i dont think you can ever fully trust someone else without knowing in the back of your mind. whether to trust is a different question but if your asking how to stop being paranoid about it then theres only one answer. just dont love at all. for me i can only hold back while dating soneone new. i cant risk loving someone with all my heart even if i do find someone. then again il never experiance that true mutual love again either since i wont be the person giving it. maybe its different for you and maybe you can find a way to do it. but unless u fully trust the new person you will always think of it happening again. Link to post Share on other sites
ffw Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Trust & love both goes hand on hand. A person can't fall in love without trusting the other person. It builds up with time. Trust makes a relationship & love is what makes it going. Being true to yourself, to the new person & expecting nothing less from the other side. You can't make yourself suffer your whole life because of your dumb ex. When you wil fall in love again, the doubts you have right now will fade away with time. Link to post Share on other sites
Forever Learning Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 (edited) Trust & love both goes hand on hand. A person can't fall in love without trusting the other person. It builds up with time. Trust makes a relationship & love is what makes it going. Being true to yourself, to the new person & expecting nothing less from the other side. You can't make yourself suffer your whole life because of your dumb ex. When you wil fall in love again, the doubts you have right now will fade away with time. Yes, trust takes time. It's as simple as that. Also, you have to trust in YOURSELF to be able to pick yourself up (and dust yourself off, and start all over again.... ) from things that hurt in life. The more you trust in yourself, the less fear you have. That ability to trust in yourself just takes time and experience. It is a part of what we are meant to learn in life during our time here on Earth. Edited October 29, 2011 by Forever Learning Link to post Share on other sites
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