thenewguy Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 I am currently dating a girl that has a problem returning calls. We have gone out four times. I am 38 and she is 26. After our second date I had called a couple of times and didn't reach her. I waited a couple of days and called her work. A co-worker took a message and I didn't hear from her for 5 days. She said she didn't want me to think that she wasn't interested in me. She apologized and we made a date for two nights later. The date went well and a few days later I called to ask her out again. I left a message with her mom and didn't hear from her. I called her at work two days later and she accepted a date for the next night. During the date she said that a friend asked her why she didn't return my calls and she told me that she didn't call guys she was interested in. I reminded her that she had called me before and she stated again she didn't want me to think that she wasn't interested. The rest of the date went great and she initiated the goodnight kiss, hugged me and told me she had a great time. Yesterday I called her twice and she wasn't there either time. I was talking to a friend and he said she asked him for my phone number earlier today. I still haven't heard from her. She knows I have called because she has Caller ID. I will not call again. I like her but I think it is disrespectful to not return phone calls and I refuse to let someone disrespect me. Anyone have any insight of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Anonymous 15 Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Originally posted by thenewguy I am currently dating a girl that has a problem returning calls. We have gone out four times. I am 38 and she is 26. After our second date I had called a couple of times and didn't reach her. I waited a couple of days and called her work. A co-worker took a message and I didn't hear from her for 5 days. She said she didn't want me to think that she wasn't interested in me. She apologized and we made a date for two nights later. The date went well and a few days later I called to ask her out again. I left a message with her mom and didn't hear from her. I called her at work two days later and she accepted a date for the next night. During the date she said that a friend asked her why she didn't return my calls and she told me that she didn't call guys she was interested in. I reminded her that she had called me before and she stated again she didn't want me to think that she wasn't interested. The rest of the date went great and she initiated the goodnight kiss, hugged me and told me she had a great time. Yesterday I called her twice and she wasn't there either time. I was talking to a friend and he said she asked him for my phone number earlier today. I still haven't heard from her. She knows I have called because she has Caller ID. I will not call again. I like her but I think it is disrespectful to not return phone calls and I refuse to let someone disrespect me. Anyone have any insight of this. You're doing the right thing by not calling her anymore. She's acting way too childish for a 26 year old (maybe this is something you could expect from a teen but definately not from a grown woman.) It is disrespectful and it's another way of playing games. By not calling her, hopefully she'll learn her lesson and stop being foolish with the next guy that comes along, assuming she's that lucky. As for you, find someone that actually wants to put in a little effort and appreciates you. Peace. Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 looks like you are doing most of the initiating. take a step back. let her initiate too if she wants to be with you. it has to go both ways.... yeah i agree it's rude not to return calls and then saying "i dont want you to think im not interested". next time she says that, tell her she's not showing that she IS interested at all. I cant really tell how 'far along' you two are but a relationship should be about MUTUAL caring, dont you think? good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Just stop calling her. If she was interested she would call you back in a more timely fashion. Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Originally posted by bluechocolate .....she would call you back in a more timely fashion. haha... i like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Some girls appear to think it should be always men to call and that if you call them -even if you return calls- you'll make yourself less interesting in his eyes. There are even (crappy) books like "the Rules" (whose author is currently divorced ) that teach women that kind of sh*t. Link to post Share on other sites
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