reimeivn Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 half a year after the breakup and i feel really bad about myself. i talked to the ex the other day. he said that i didnt do a single thing to him that is not right. he said some other things. things that supposed to make me happy. things that supposed to make me feel good about myself. but still, i look around and i see every other girl looking really pretty and attractive and i see me looking all ugly and skinny. i didnt feel that way when i just got here now i feel like that everywhere i go. i dont know why. i think about the ex sometimes, especially during the weekend. the ex is partying somewhere i know, and all the girls surround him, and i sit alone in my place, doing homework. sometimes i wonder if my last two years of college is gonna be just like this. almost a semester has gone and i am still sad. Link to post Share on other sites
perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Do you mind sharing some details on what happened? Do you want him back? I know it is hard...It has almost been a year since my ex and I split and I love him more than I did when we were together I regret taking what I had for granted. But I mean it was hard for us since I was going off to college and he is still in high school, it was always something lingering its ugly head at us. We tried getting together again, but it blew up in our faces. Timing just sucks sometimes... Don't think his life is all perfect though. I did the same thing and found out that my ex was actually slipping in school, broke his collar bone, angry all the time, smoking and drinking a lot more, and that his chameleon died and his dog got hit by a car, all after we broke up. He was dating someone else, but that only lasted like a month and he apparently wasn't happy with her at all. He is still like this today, it is kind of sad... But right now, it shouldn't matter what is going on in his life. The more you keep tabs on him, the more you are going to prolong your pain. Try to focus on yourself, believe me, it helps a TON. And know that you are beautiful and amazing and that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Your ex is painting you black, don't listen to him! As if he can talk, he's the one that walked away! Was he perfect? It sounds like he was far from it. My ex also blamed everything on me too. It's just an excuse, so they can feel better and move on easier. Everything they say is BS. Link to post Share on other sites
silvermane187 Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Hey Rei, Don't be too hard on your yourself. It takes longer to get over someone if you're always hearing about them. Half a year isn't that long anyway. You should try to avoid talking to him again. Even if he was nice and trying to make you feel better, seeing/talking to him is only going to make you feel worse. Try to focus on things that get your mind off your ex when you're sitting at home. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Your ex is a complete jerk! Link to post Share on other sites
Rorschach64 Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Rei, I don't know you and I do not believe we really even interacted on this forum before so I hope I do not over step my bounds but.... Stop right there....stop thinking you are anything less than what you are, stop thinking you are ugly, stop thinking being skinny is a bad thing, and you know why I say all this? It is because you attracted your ex and many other men before so you aren't what you say. In regards to what your ex says to you about your performance in the relationship, I ask do you really believe you performed as he says? I am going to say that's probably not the truth so to hell with him, he's just a childish wanker. Let things come naturally to you, regain your composure, and smile! This isn't game over yet, so keep on studying and when you are ready to venture back out to that warm and bright world, take it for all it is worth. Rant over. Have a good night! Link to post Share on other sites
Author reimeivn Posted November 2, 2011 Author Share Posted November 2, 2011 thank you for replying to me. i do not know why but i have been feeling sad for several days. it might be the weather. some stress from school work as this year is a busy year for me. the guy was my first love and he was not nice to me. he tried but still, now i think back i am scared of him. he keeps hanging around and people look at him as he is somebody good and that i deserved to be broken hearted. some of them were my friends still and i think they were not being very sensitive. i start wanting to have a bf. or to just talk to somebody and give a real hug. i still dont find anybody that likes me even as good as the ex did, and he did not even love that much really. i feel sad thinking that because of me, nobody can loves me like other people do to their gf. i think i need to go see a counselor. i dont feel like eating that much anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Rorschach64 Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 (edited) Rei, If your school offers free counseling like mine does I would go for it, I know I did. I plan on going next week since I found out I am not going to the desert. Honestly I think some of those feelings are normal as I still feel similar about feeling depressed randomly because of my break up even close to half a year later. I believe the people that think so ill of you now that you consider friends were not truly your friends, especially in the end. I know how you feel about how you think no one will make you feel all mushy gooey great, but you know what it isn't the truth someone WILL love you and make you feel amazing, please believe me. It will be hard to recognize this or accept it right now but it is the truth. You are beautiful, smart, and a great person. Believe in this truth and love yourself Edited November 2, 2011 by Rorschach64 Link to post Share on other sites
Author reimeivn Posted November 3, 2011 Author Share Posted November 3, 2011 i have always been a bit sensitive to how people feel about me. and yes, maybe the fact that he left me made me feel this bad. i know that he is not the good boyfriend, because everybody else boyfriend is so much more caring, and loving. i do not know why i feel hurt still thinking the guy moved on already and will soon be with somebody else. i think i just love the idea of having a bf, i have always been a loner. my parents were not exactly close to me since i was small. so i mean i was always desperate sort of. Link to post Share on other sites
Rorschach64 Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Well getting the bad news of being broken up with is like being kicked in the gut with machette proceeded by a nice evisceration! Well I am going to dare and ask why do you feel that you sensitive about how people feel about you? So what initally made you want to be with him? There had to be some sort of attraction to him in your noggin' that justified this or was it as you said, you just liked having a boyfriend for having one? I know what you mean about the loner bit, even around my friends I am pretty quiet and reclusive but with my ex-fiancee she made me feel at home and someone I could always talk to about anything and everything. Maybe that's what you feel? Link to post Share on other sites
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