dng Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Hello all, So, 16 months after I got bombed, we had a frank "discussion" over email, she said she wanted to come over and talk, fix my heart, I guess get back together. She said that she would have preferred to die than have me leave her, how much she regretted leaving, how sorry she was she hurt me. I asked her what had changed 3 or 4 times before I got an answer. She apologized alot, said she was willing to do anything. She finally said that what had changed is she had time to think things over. I said, BS. I told her all the things I never told her, how hard it was to get over her, what I had to do, how I still think about her all the time. And mostly, about how her leaving me made me so strong that I would prefer to suffer for the rest of my life than to ever give her a chance to ever do that to me again. I told her I thought what she did was disgusting (she got a guy RIGHT after). That's how I feel about it and I own my feelings. All and all, I didnt get much information from her. The feeling I got what that she doesnt really know why she left, she likely left on an impulse and then coped as best as she could, however those methods she used made me lose any respect I ever had for her. So, I said no and go to hell. That is all. Link to post Share on other sites
sleeplessinvancouver Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) Like a BOSS! Well done "dng". Well done for respecting yourself, well done for being a man, well done for healing and moving on with your life. You sir, are a BOSS and an inspiration to broken hearts everywhere. I can only pray I am even half as strong as you are when my slimy ex comes crawling back. Edited November 1, 2011 by sleeplessinvancouver Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Hello all, So, 16 months after I got bombed, we had a frank "discussion" over email, she said she wanted to come over and talk, fix my heart, I guess get back together. She said that she would have preferred to die than have me leave her, how much she regretted leaving, how sorry she was she hurt me. I asked her what had changed 3 or 4 times before I got an answer. She apologized alot, said she was willing to do anything. She finally said that what had changed is she had time to think things over. I said, BS. I told her all the things I never told her, how hard it was to get over her, what I had to do, how I still think about her all the time. And mostly, about how her leaving me made me so strong that I would prefer to suffer for the rest of my life than to ever give her a chance to ever do that to me again. I told her I thought what she did was disgusting (she got a guy RIGHT after). That's how I feel about it and I own my feelings. All and all, I didnt get much information from her. The feeling I got what that she doesnt really know why she left, she likely left on an impulse and then coped as best as she could, however those methods she used made me lose any respect I ever had for her. So, I said no and go to hell. That is all. good for you DNG She knows why she left, she just wont tell you because it would have to have her admitting fault and why she did it. Giving you an apology to cover her guilt is easy. To take responsibility for her own action is impossible. Did you see her wording, it was selfish "She said that she would have preferred to die than have me leave her" It doesnt matter anyways. The past is the past and you sir left it there. Keep going forward like a BOSS!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Good for you dng! These people never admit that they were on the wrong, god forbid. It must've felt so good to reject the rejector. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dng Posted November 1, 2011 Author Share Posted November 1, 2011 Good for you dng! These people never admit that they were on the wrong, god forbid. It must've felt so good to reject the rejector. It didnt feel good at all to hurt her (if it did hurt her, I dont believe anything she says anymore), felt pretty bad. I wish we never went down that way but I feel what I did is what had to be done and so I did it. I unleashed so much anger on her too, anger I had been bottling up for over a year. She seems to either understand why I'm so angry or she really doesnt care that much, its impossible for me to tell. I'm not perfect but I'm pretty alright and whatever problems we were having, she could have talked to me and we could have worked it out, instead she chose to give herself to some other dude and the way I am, whoever it is, I can't get past it, not with our history. Link to post Share on other sites
Popehappycat Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 I mostly lurk, but I had to reply to this one. Good job, and good for you! I'm not a vindictive person either, so I know what you mean about it not feeling too good, but how you feel is how you feel and whatever you said, she probably deserved to hear. Just because you care or cared about a person doesn't trump your personal well being and the importance of your feelings. Again, good on you, sir! :-) Link to post Share on other sites
PositiveNegative Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 **** yes. You are my hero and what you described is exactly what I wish to do to my ex one day. Link to post Share on other sites
fistandantulus Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 **** yes. You are my hero and what you described is exactly what I wish to do to my ex one day. Get in the line dude Link to post Share on other sites
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