ryneb Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Hi new to the forums first post... I met a woman on OKCupid about a month ago. We have gone on 4 dates one about every week-10daysish. On our last date she told me she is doing the four man plan (4MP), which I had never heard of before then. So I did some research on the 4MP, and now I am wondering if she is going on dates with me because the plan *requires* her to say yes if asked, despite her feelings, or if its because she is actually interested in me. This is aside from the fact that the entire premise of the plan is basically to manipulate me(n) in to trying to outdo each other for her attention. Which pisses me off to no end. Aside from the plan deal, I greatly enjoy her company and being around her. I do feel we have some good chemistry and I would love to get to know more about her. We haven't gotten very physical at all, basically light kissing. Which I am fine with. From my point of view she is certainly worth getting to know more about, but the entire 4MP thing is really causing me to loose respect for her and to find her FAR less attractive. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
rightfield Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Yep. I suggest you try my 2 woman plan (2WP). Date prospective women one at a time (such as the one doing 4MP), evaluating them for suitability for a LTR, if that's what you eventually want. Find another woman who loves/needs sex and enjoy it while you date. Then you won't care if a girl is doing the 4MP or whatever. YOU will be in the driver's seat, and since you'll be getting the sex you need, more women in general will be attracted to you, as discussed elsewhere on this board. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ryneb Posted November 1, 2011 Author Share Posted November 1, 2011 I have done that before, and frankly it just doesn't work for me. Really I just don't feel right doing it, I prefer to focus my attention on one person. And if it doesn't feel right I call it off asap. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 It sounds cheezy. But yeah, my sister basically does it. The only problem I have it with it is TELLING the guys thats your Plan. It is manipulative, sure. But transparent. I think that unless you have had the exclusive talk or unless the person asks if you are dating others...no announcement is needed, wanted, or polite. Tell her. Its no big deal. She clearly is not a pro at operating this way. She made a mistake. Tell her: Hey, you know...I like seeing one person at a time, even when it isnt serious. You dont have to, but I gotta tell you - that whole 4 Man Plan thing...sounds, well, if it sounds good to you , we may not have that much in common. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ryneb Posted November 1, 2011 Author Share Posted November 1, 2011 Good plan think I will go with that, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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