AmericanHoney Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 It seems like ever since Saturday my world has been crashing around me. I am not trying to be dramatic but I am really sad and I cannot even turn to my BF because he has been a real twit lately and barely says to words to me and my friends are so involved in their own worlds that they do not care. I have been having some trouble at work and having financial troubles and the added stress about my friends and bf isn't helping I do not know what to do no one seems to care. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 I can relate. Do you have a friend you can talk to, or a family member? If not, LS always has an open ear. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted November 2, 2011 Author Share Posted November 2, 2011 (edited) No there isn't anyone to talk to like I said my friends are all involved with their lives right now and I cannot burden them with my problems and the one person I want to talk to my BF isn't saying one word to me which is making matters even worse. We sort of had a falling out last night:sick: We went out I bought him dinner and then we got into a fight and now he isn't speaking to me even though I treated him like a king. I am hurt and said because it took alot of my money to buy him dinner and he just brushes it off like it's no big deal and doesn't want to talk to me and now I am sad. The fight was even stupid we went back to my place and he started drinking and I said you know what happens when you drink ( he gets drunk and acts stupid) and he said whatever you aren't my baby-sitter and I said I care about you and he said I do not need a mother thanks I have one and said forget it I am going to leave where I can drink in peace! I called him later on that evening and said sorry and he said don't fret about it and usually he calls me when he gets home from work and I tried texting him and he didn't respond which is weird since he usually does and then I called him and it went straight to VM so now I am said and depressed thinking just because I care about him he is acting like a real jerk! Edited November 2, 2011 by AmericanHoney Link to post Share on other sites
elfling Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 (edited) He is either immature or turning into an alcoholic. If he cares about impressing you he would not want to act stupid in front of you. Maybe buying him dinnner reinforced the "you'r acting like my mom" thing. He has some issues and they are his problem not yours. You can probably do better than him. For alcoholics ther #1 relationship is to alcohol not people. Edited November 2, 2011 by elfling Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted November 2, 2011 Author Share Posted November 2, 2011 (edited) The argument was about I told him not to drink too much because he gets obnoxious and loud and I wasn't trying to act like his mother or a baby-sitter and normally he drinks responsible but last night he kept pounding them back because one time he started screaming so loudly and acting obnoxious the neighbors called and complained. It didn't happen at work sorry I should of been clearer last night I said sorry and he said don't fret about it and usually he calls me when he gets home from work which would be today and I tried texting him and he didn't text back and when I tried to call him it went straight to VM which meant he ignored my call. I am so upset because I care about him so much:( I only offered to buy dinner because it was Halloween and he usually buys dinner but last night I said my treat and that is the thanks I get a cold shoulder. It is almost like I do not even exist today when normally he is blowing up my phone. Edited November 2, 2011 by AmericanHoney Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted November 2, 2011 Author Share Posted November 2, 2011 I guess he does have issues and I want so bad to be there and I just want him to open up to me but he never does and when I try and help he just pushes me away and acts like a giant d-bag and doesn't talk to me. I just feel like saying to him whatever you want to do let me know I am tired of this. Link to post Share on other sites
rightkindofblues Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 Don't feel like that nobody cares! I know it seems that way, but that's not always the case. There will always be someone there for you, and I know you just don't want to bother your friends with your problems right now. So try not to feel like you're alone! I know it's hard! As for your boyfriend, try to let him cool off for a while? Has this happened more than once? Even though he isn't talking to you, just text him, message him online, just let him know that you care a lot about him, give him time and space to think. My boyfriend is similar ... he doesn't like it when I try telling him what he's like, and we end up fighting over that because he makes things seem like I'm controlling him, telling him what he thinks and what he can/can't or should/shouldn't do. I've always had problems with him acting like this towards me every time we fight, but he eventually comes around. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 Your boyfriend is being a jerk. He would be there for you, otherwise. Have you considered relationship counseling? Link to post Share on other sites
elfling Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 Does he get drunk a lot? If it's alcoholism then he will hurt your feelings again because the alcohol controls him. I dated an alcoholic once and got out of the relationship when I realized he was an alcoholic. Some people are willing to tolerate alcoholics but I'm not. Read up about alcoholism and see if he fits the description. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted November 2, 2011 Author Share Posted November 2, 2011 (edited) No he doesn't get drunk alot thank god but like I said when he does he becomes obnoxious. He has gotten pouty before and not talked to me but that hasn't happened since the summer and we have actually had some good times he has been so kind and considerate but that one night he turned into a monster saying I was like his mother and when I later asked if everything was good and he said no everything is just kosher but he hasn't talked to me since he then . He normally texts me something funny but like I said it is like I am invisible and I'd talk to him but I don't want seem needy by asking him is everything okay? I should let him cool off right and let him talk to me if he wants to right? I worry about him alot and wonder if he is getting drunk but I do not want to act like his mother worrying about him. Edited November 2, 2011 by AmericanHoney Link to post Share on other sites
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