XoAnGeL98OX Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Hey... I've been On and off Again with same guy for about 5 years now! we dated for about 2 years st8 without breaking up.. we had a great relationship.. he was basically my first real b/f. he was the first guy i had ever slept with and i was his first also... we broke up but we contunied to see each other sleep toghter...we would talk everyday but we had not gotten back toghter... we tried a couple times but it didnt work out... his new excuse was that he was young and wanted to experience things with other people.. but that he loved me very much and didnt want to lose me.. so I went along with that for about 1 more year... he dated other girls... and me other guys.... I heard that he had slept with about 8 other girls after me..... nothing to mention me to!.... i really tried getting over him but it was practlliy impossible especially because he would still call me all time and tell me that he loved me that none of those girls meant anything to him like i did!... he later meet this girl named Stacy dated her for about 3 months... they broke up cause she cheated on him and of course he came running back to me..... but i kno now that he has never stopped talking to her.. and right before he left college he was sleeping with me and her at the same time. we later graduated high school and he moved to Tallahassee he was going to Fsu... about 8 hours away from me... it's been a year since then and not much has changed... we still talk just about everyday and i even went up there a couple times to visit Him. at one point we had agreed on trying to do a whole long distance relationship thing.... after about 6 months into that he gave me some speech saying he wasn't going to be able to handle that and that it was to difficult for him! i was Very upset and couldn't believe he was Giving up on us AGAIN!!!.... now it's summer and classes are over he is going to be in town for about 4 months.. Now my best friend is dating his friend and this makes eveything so much harder.. I'm always hearing things about him and how he is seeing Stacey again... this relationship has put me thru so much for the past 5 years.. i've tried not speaking to him at all in many different ocassions but i can't go more then a week without speackin to him... I just don't kno what to do anymore.. he wants us to be friends.... but i dont kno if i could be around him and not want to kiss him, hug him, or even want to have sex with him... and i kno he will go along with w/e because it's not his feeling getting hurt or lead on..... what should i do???? im soo confused??? Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Ok I"ve been in a situation very similar to this one. Just, let it go. You have to. When someone talks about him to you, ask them why they are saying it to you? One time I asked one of my friends if they told me this stuff to hurt me or help me? Because all it was doing was upsetting me and that if they were a TRUE friend, they'd leave it be. They were just trying to help me get over him, by telling me this stuff about him, so I'd give up on the relationship and move on. MAybe that's what your friend is doing. HAve a conversation with your friend, tell her that if she's a true friend, she'll realize how much it hurts to hear about him with his new girl. Also, MAKE yourself go without talking to him. He's hurt you a LOT, girl. It's time to practice some self-love. Link to post Share on other sites
Author XoAnGeL98OX Posted May 21, 2004 Author Share Posted May 21, 2004 Hey ALly! thanks for u reply!... ya i do think ur right... i kno i should really let this go...but it's soo hard!.. he's not dating stacy anymore... but i do no he still speacks to her... me and him hadn't talked for about a good 2 weeks and he called me the other day asking me to please be his friend.. i guess since it was soo hard not to speack to him i agreed to it.. the convoseration started off good "as friend" but about 2 hours later into the covo he was telling me how much he loved me and how he wanted to be with me but that he didn't want me or him to have to deal with leaving eachother at the end of the 4 months when he goes back to school. I want to belive that it but i still think it's dumb and that if he realllllllllllly loved me as he says he does he would be with me and stop being Stuborn... i kno i can't be his friend... it's to difficult for me... he even told his best firend which told my best friend that he was only going to be calling me once a week! i was little upset about that but i figured he was trying to do that soo my feelings wouldnt be hurt, or simply because he wnated to make it clear to me he wnated to be friends?.. i don't kno.... thou he hasn't gone thru with it.. he has called me once a day everyday for the 4 days.. to simply say HI.. or goodnight!.... like i said before i kno i should let it go it seems it's for the best. but it's soo hard to let go of someone that i love soo much Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 22, 2004 Share Posted May 22, 2004 OMG! What's happening here? XO Angel wake up. He's toying with you and having a ball game. So what if he calls you 5 times a day dutifully when he's not a loyal partner and only comes back to you when some other chick somewhere has wiped her feet on his back. You should have dumped him a long time ago..... he spells trouble and nothing else. You think he's the best guy in the world? think again sweetie. NOT! Love? He doesn't look like he knows what that means and you are being used. You are hurting yourself more than he's hurting you by still hanging around. It's high time you either put your feet firmly down and ask him to be committed to a relationship with you or to go to whichever chickie that pleases his fancy and leave you to move on with your life. First loves are the hardest to forget, but some time 5 years down the road you will look back and wonder and maybe even laugh. Come on gurl! If he was serious with you, when on breaks he would be thinking hard, not getting a$$ elsewhere. You deserve a real man, not this wishy-washy-i-know-XOAngel-will-take-me-back-every-time-guy. That's manipulative and sick and you are allowing him???? That's like purposely stealing something from the 7-eleven and expecting god to understand later because he's so forgiving and full of love..... Taking advantage and taking things for granted... that's what it's called. he's not sincere with you. Run XO Angel, RUN!!!!!!! (sorry to sound so mad but i am when i hear about men like him, jerks!) Link to post Share on other sites
Author XoAnGeL98OX Posted May 24, 2004 Author Share Posted May 24, 2004 Wow! that was seroius!..... i needed that thou..... i wish i would've read it before yesterday..... i spent the whole entire day with him yesterday... i even had sex with him ... being friends with an ex is defaintly IMPOSSIBLE!...... now im really confused! ... This is the hardest thing i have ever had to do..... i tried the whole all or nothin thing out a month ago... he said he wanted to be with me. but because he lives in tally doesnt want the whole long distance thing.... i eneded up being friends with him again.,, and yesterday realized I CAN"T BE HIS FRIEND! Im begginging to think im never going to get over this...! Link to post Share on other sites
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