Coupedriver Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 This might be the WRONG way to deal with it but it makes sense to me...I COULD NOT sit around and let the b*tch ex take my life away from me.I have seen posts about how people waited for months and even YEARS to date..NO WAY...I can't and even refuse to be like that.All of that time and energy wasted on someone who doesn't even give a sh*t about how your feelings.?I have been hitting Fed-Ex lately as I clean out whats left of my custom Halloween Props I made for years.Been hitting EBAY with tons of ads...and almost everything is gone....well me and the lady who always takes my order have been hitting it off pretty good and what floored me..SHE asked me out last Sunday,she said..NOT A DATE,but lets grab some lunch together.WAY too cool....We went and had lunch and had a great time...hung out for a few hours more and she told me to call her next weekend to see if I wanted to do something.. Now I will admit the feeling's for my EX hit me a few times during lunch but I did NOT let it take away from me having a good time.When we both left I cried pretty hard,thinking about my ex,but still refused to let it bring me so down that it takes days to even see daylight....Not the right thing to do so soon..??!?Who knows when it the right time...We are all different..and I will admit I have been a TOTAL wreck through all of this...( I still am some days..)But I can't let it control my life...Life is passing me by... It felt pretty good having woman sitting across from me for once and NOT crying..( all the time with my counselor..) but I need to get out of this rut of crying for days...sleepless nights...Its like watching your life pass right before your eyes...sit there and do nothing..or get the hell out and have some fun.I dont expect marriage from all of this but it doesn't feel too bad..... Link to post Share on other sites
fistandantulus Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 What if it gets serious? Are you ready to explain your emotional state honestly when the time calls for it? If you don't, you may break her heart. Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 (edited) Coupe, I remember when you came here, how you where struggling. This is one of the first steps in moving forward. I remember how I felt when I realized that others gals where attracted to me, and how I felt when it hit me that my ex does not look at me like that anymore. It is a bit bitter sweet. If you are anything like me you start out dating some nice gals but not really what you are looking for, then as time goes on and your self esteem/mojo begins to increase so will the quality of ladies in your company. But be honest with the ladies as you date them, I have also noticed that most women can relate to the moving on/beginning to date again phase. This is something all us guys should be thankful for, the gals are by far more understanding. Good luck my friend!! Edited November 3, 2011 by coltsfan1 Link to post Share on other sites
TroyNJ Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Coupe, I'm a huge Halloween fan myself and also make props! Hand in there buddy, your doing good...It's been 15 months for me and I still struggle some days. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Coupedriver Posted November 3, 2011 Author Share Posted November 3, 2011 What if it gets serious? Are you ready to explain your emotional state honestly when the time calls for it? If you don't, you may break her heart. Well like I said..I WILL NOT let this pain control my life anymore.I have read several articles about how PAIN and FEAR can ruin your life..your entire life.!!!You can get addicted to it,and yes..it comes from a break up.You let the pain control everything you do...Like my counselor said..."Your mind is your worse enemy during a break up.."! " If you dont learn to move on..you will stuck like that for your whole life"..and I for one,am pretty damn sure I am NOT going to let that happen.There's a beautiful world out there...and I want to enjoy seeing it again.I asked her first and Liz told me.."This is not a date."She thought it would be ok just to hang out....and we did.If it gets to a point of being serious,then I will deal with that if and when that happens.WAY too many people get caught up in all of the stress and strain of a break-up but you have to find a point when you DO have to let go... I HAVE to let go....I sure as hell don't want to....BUT,there's nothing there,I couldn't even think about trusting her if she came back.......She made her choices..now I have to make mine.I can't keep living with that DISTANT hope shes coming back...it draining me...Will I ever forget her..?NO...If she decided to come back,could I take her back..? No..what I said in earlier posts..The trust issues would always bother me.I always told her.."You can't mess with peoples feelings like you do,it will come back to haunt you.."!She has THAT attitude.."Oh well..I will just smile my way out of it...or I just let it roll off of my shoulder " Not with me she won't.Karma is coming for her...and yes,I WILL help it along. Link to post Share on other sites
lymtal1 Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 coupe, we have similar stories. i know it's tough moving on. i am having a hard time doing it as well. but as steven stills said "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with". i know in our situation this might not be wise but if it can get us through some tough times and we can keep it in perspective lets see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
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