robf1971 Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 . 99.9% of the time there's someone else. Do not let the holidays, her 'concern' for the kids or anything else stop you from pushing the issue. In or out. Decide now. It takes balls, but balls is what you need when dealing with a wayward wife. Not instinct. You think using caution is wise, you think waiting is the best option. It isn't. Force the issue. It's the best, smartest thing to do. Limbo helps no one. Please listen to this, Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 Firstly, the back and forth from her is because she is probably cheating, and using you as a backup option.. it's called gaslighting, a down mood might be because she had a bad day with her OM. Are you in with a chance of getting your wife back? yes but you need to act like a man not like a scared 13 year old boy (sorry, harsh I know but I want to help) When you first started dating your wife, you were confident, funny, happy, that's why she wanted to be with you. She also knew that if she cheated you'd probably have dropped her like a dirty hankerchief. What does she see now? sad, clingy, unconfident. Also how much self respect are you showing your wife by allowing her to carry on like this? If you can't respect yourself, how can you expect your wife or anyone else to. I'm not trying to hurt you but this was how I used to be, it was harsh good advice like this that snapped me out of it and allowed me to reconcile my marriage. IMO your first step is to find out if an OM is involved, start by keylogging her computer and checking her cell bills. Then you can break up their affair... Link to post Share on other sites
Shane Jimison Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Divorce always makes kids mature before their age. It's exactly for this reason that I suggest all of my clients who have children (I'm a divorce lawyer) seek mediation and help before processing the divorce, while processing the divorce, and after processing the divorce. My profession is divorce lawyer, but I am also a loving husband and loving dad. I try to do all I can to make sure my clients have an amicable separation/divorce and the children's best interest are always a priority Link to post Share on other sites
AudentesFortuna Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Wow. Why is everyone so quick to jump to divorce? This is why there are so many broken homes in the world. People aren't willing to try and work things out, to try every possible route before coming to the conclusion of just saying f@%# it and quitting. What would your grandparents think of this crap?! There are other alternatives besides spending a small fortune to have a marital contract burned into ashes. There's a reason why you got married in the first place, don't forget that (unless you were forced into it!). People don't know how to fight for anything anymore. We've gotten so comfortable with being able to throw family values out of the window at a whim, that no one even remembers what it's like anymore. Has anyone even considered that his wife might have been trying, but was getting nowhere? Maybe she wasn't trying the right approach or something, and just gave up. It get exhausting. I'm not defending either of the two, but I am defending the sanctity of marriage. It still means something to some people, that's why they do it. There's nothing wrong with trying. But if you just give up what you care about most with out even trying to fight for it, you're no better than that pouty little kid who whines all day long 'cause they couldn't get their way. I will give you my ex's contact info and you can pick her brains all you want. I tried and proposed so many options and she didn't give them a single thought. She just wanted a divorce. So I obliged. Life is too short to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
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