Is our relationship worth saving?

[olsen]

I am 29 years old. At this point in my life, I am not looking for fun anymore but I want to settle down. My GF and I have been together for 4.8 years already. Here is the story.

 

It all started on a one night stand. I just want her for free sex, then she started going wherever I go, sleeping at my apartment. For some reasons, I didn't ditched her since I was thinking, hey! this is free sex and I kinda like her being around with me! I can't remember what happened next but she became my GF. For the whole 2 yrs, I treated her like crap, numerously cheated on her. I was caught 80% of the time since she always checks my phone and ask on my whereabouts. No matter how much crap I treated her, she still wont break up with me.

 

Now things started to change 2 years ago. I just knew 2 weeks ago that she slept with 2 guys (one night stands). She said that it was her escape on our relationship. And that my "cheating" piled up and she wants to get even with me. She admitted that it wasn't the sex that she was looking but he feeling of being "wanted", even if it's just a one night stand. That she doesnt feel loved and she always know that I wont ask her to marry me. She already accepted that she will become an old maiden.

 

Funny thing is, when she started doing that, I slowly grew feelings on her but I was too proud to admit it. I was devastated when I found out on this. We broke up only for two days and I asked her to come back with me. The only thing that I am so pissed is there were so many girls that I missed out during that time. I passed out almost all of them because I felt guilty already on cheating on her. Plus she always know about my whereabouts, for me, I dont know hers because I never really cared much at that point.

 

We are back together now, but the feeling still haunts me. Based on her actions now, I can see that she is sincere to change and want to make our relationship work. She even agreed not to go out on her friends anymore on weekends. I asked her to do that for me so I would know how sincere she is and willing she is to give this relationship another trust. She is the kind of girl that would give anything for her man. At this point, I don't trust my decision since I am confused. I wanted to give this another shot since I can say to myself that but I'm not sure if thats the right thing to do.

 

 

Will we ever be happy knowing that we cheated on each other? Are there people like this with the same situation and have things worked out pretty well for them? Are we making the right risk and not wasting our time? I asked her about why we should get back together, and this was her best answer so far. "Yes, we are. You never loved me, then the next two years, I started to pull away from you. For the 1st time in our relationship, we are finally in the same page." That melted my heart. I think I'm ready for a commitment but I'm not sure if it would work with us. Any advice would be helpful.

[Professor X]

And what was the point in opening an identical thread?

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t304513/

 

People said what they wanted over that thread.