am i losing credibility and being senseless??

[abhi]

me and my husband are planning to buy a home..he found a townhome at a very reasonable price with only 1.5 bathroom..i told him I want a home with a min of 2 baths..so that I will have my bathroom and privacy...he is like..we hardly get any guests and its okay to buy one bath..when I told him that I am a girl..i prefer two baths so that I can be free with all my stuff..periods..undergarments..dressing up after bath..he just dosen't understand what has being a girl to do with it and he got pissed and started telling I am losing credibility by saying such things..and he won't value whatever I say in the future..i just can't understand...am I being senseless and foolish for this?am I losing my credibility?when in fact we are getting 2 full bath townhome/condos 2-3 blocks away for almost the same price..now he pissed off..put the blame on me that I am creating an issue over a bathroom..and he is not speaking to me...i don't know how can I make him understand without him getting pissed off...seriously people please tell me am I being senseless and losing it?

[make me believe]

I am a female and I don't understand the big deal about having your own bathroom, or what "being a girl" has to do with it. Are you going to be throwing your underwear around and leaving used tampons everywhere or something?? I can't imagine starting a huge fight about this. Sure, it's ok to prefer having your own bathroom, but is it really THAT big of a deal? If it is for you then I think your husband should try to understand & compromise...but you may be over reacting. It sounds like he's probably gotten very attached to this house that he wants to buy and is now mad that you're "ruining it" for him. Being in such a huge fight and not speaking to each other over this seems disproportionate to the actual issue, though.

[Lucky_One]

Two bathrooms is much preferable to 1.5 for resale value.

 

Check out this link, and then go through it and see if it helps justify looking at the other place you found. If you can show him something practical that is financially savvy, he might be more willing to listen to your thoughts.

 

http://www.protect.com/buying-a-home-with-resale-value/

 

I know that you aren't really sure about children, but a second bathroom would be VERY nice if you were to become pregnant. And if someone comes to stay with you, a second bath is wonderful to have.

 

Some cultures are funnier about privacy issues; so this could be more important to you, than it would be to other people.

[ErgoStep]

It's common for spouses to share the only bathroom in the house. Or the master bathroom. I think you're making a big deal out of nothing.

 

If you want to delay the purchase decision, an option is to rent a one bathroom apartment for 6mo and see what it feels like. It will probably be fine.

[scaredandalone1223]

I'm responding to this as a REALTOR. Get 2 bathrooms!!! If resale, at any point, is a concern you want at least 2 baths. Homes with 1 or even 1.5 baths are very hard to sell. Homes with less than 2 baths are referred to as 'functionally obsolete'. They are extremely hard to sell to anyone other than a bachelor or newlyweds and usually even newlyweds won't buy them because most females feel exactly the same way as the poster. Behind the kitchen, the master bath is the biggest thing most people take onto account when purchasing a home. Have your husband speak with a few REALTORS in your area and they will back up what I'm telling you. Your home is most likely the biggest investment you will make so make sure to make it a wise one.

[MissBee]

me and my husband are planning to buy a home..he found a townhome at a very reasonable price with only 1.5 bathroom..i told him I want a home with a min of 2 baths..so that I will have my bathroom and privacy...he is like..we hardly get any guests and its okay to buy one bath..when I told him that I am a girl..i prefer two baths so that I can be free with all my stuff..periods..undergarments..dressing up after bath..he just dosen't understand what has being a girl to do with it and he got pissed and started telling I am losing credibility by saying such things..and he won't value whatever I say in the future..i just can't understand...am I being senseless and foolish for this?am I losing my credibility?when in fact we are getting 2 full bath townhome/condos 2-3 blocks away for almost the same price..now he pissed off..put the blame on me that I am creating an issue over a bathroom..and he is not speaking to me...i don't know how can I make him understand without him getting pissed off...seriously people please tell me am I being senseless and losing it?

 

I don't get what he means by your'e losing credibility? Credibility what kind of credibility??? That makes no sense in this context.

 

I could understand him saying you're being picky, petty or annoying (not that I think this)...but credibility? He's the one over reacting frankly.

 

Anyway, I don't think this issue should be that serious. You shouldn't feel like you're losing your mind because you want two bathrooms...it's silly...and he shouldn't be acting like this. Maybe you guys need to work on your communication. How long have you been married? This issue isn't about bathrooms frankly...both of your responses show that you don't communicate well or seem to know and understand each other very well at all.

[reboot]

While I agree with your husband that you can't expect to have the privacy of a single person after you're married, I think you're both being silly. If you can get two baths for almost the same price as 1.5, you do that. But you do it because of the resale value, not because you're a girl and don't want your husband to know you poop.