DontWorryBHappy Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 My break up was back in april.. so its been around 7 months. I guess I should be more over it than I am. When he broke up with me I was devastated.. he said he didn't love me anymore because he has serious issues staying connected to people. After a month and a half he asked to try us again, but said he still did not love me. He told me that he probably would be able to love me in the future, but that he only "liked me a lot". I really did love him, so for the period of time that we tried working things out I felt very unstable and anxious about the fact that he didn't love me anymore.. periodically I would cry about it and things of course didn't feel the same. One day I didn't want to stay in limbo and said that we needed to decide if we were going to be together or apart. He was reluctant to make a decision right then but I pushed it. Just when I was about to say that I wanted us to make this work, he jumped in and said we should end it. Since then its been a roller coaster and we don't speak anymore.. so I'm left with myself to think about what happened. Many times I wonder if I could have done things differently. Maybe if I hadn't have been so hard to deal with during the time when we tried to work things out, we might be together.. or maybe if I hadn't pushed him to make a decision about us in that moment then we'd be together... These thoughts haunt me... its very hard for me to let them go. Can anyone relate to this? Link to post Share on other sites
watermelonjuice Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 My break up was back in april.. so its been around 7 months. I guess I should be more over it than I am. When he broke up with me I was devastated.. he said he didn't love me anymore because he has serious issues staying connected to people. After a month and a half he asked to try us again, but said he still did not love me. He told me that he probably would be able to love me in the future, but that he only "liked me a lot". I really did love him, so for the period of time that we tried working things out I felt very unstable and anxious about the fact that he didn't love me anymore.. periodically I would cry about it and things of course didn't feel the same. One day I didn't want to stay in limbo and said that we needed to decide if we were going to be together or apart. He was reluctant to make a decision right then but I pushed it. Just when I was about to say that I wanted us to make this work, he jumped in and said we should end it. Since then its been a roller coaster and we don't speak anymore.. so I'm left with myself to think about what happened. Many times I wonder if I could have done things differently. Maybe if I hadn't have been so hard to deal with during the time when we tried to work things out, we might be together.. or maybe if I hadn't pushed him to make a decision about us in that moment then we'd be together... These thoughts haunt me... its very hard for me to let them go. Can anyone relate to this? I'm sorry you're feeling this way. It hurts. Wanting to know always hurts. I feel for you because I'm in a similar situation. I want to have the last say and I want to know why and what could be. Perhaps what we need is to learn to let go. Link to post Share on other sites
HonestMan Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Honestly who does this guy think he is, He cant be honest with himself you cant expect him to be honest with you You deserve someone more stable and confident- Loving should be easy. Hes more confused then you are. Dont waste anymore time trying to figure him out. What a douche! He has to be honest with himself and you. Play Fair! Goodluck, dont waste another minute on it! Link to post Share on other sites
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