Spengles Posted May 22, 2004 Share Posted May 22, 2004 Well, I've posted a bit on this site.. sometimes my posts are a bit happier but they've all concerned this girl that I have known for 4 years. I asked her out a couple of months ago but she "kept me on hold". I knew back then that this was a bad, bad sign but I was foolish enough to continue on. Well, recently she could finally make her decision. A couple of days later, I find out that she likes one of my friends and he likes her back. They both tell me that they don't want to hurt me. But I keep thinking.. if you didn't want to, then why did you stay up til 5 talking to each other every day.. start text messaging each other all the time.. I dont really know what the point of this post is. Maybe, I'm just venting. It makes me feel ill that it's my fault. She'd always been lonely and I always encouraged her to talk to my friends because I thought that they were good people. She'd always say, "no.. you're friends don't like me" and I'd always reassure her. Hahaha. A lot of things make sense now, and I'm disgusted to think what else has been going on. It's just.. such an eye opener. I guess I just wish them the best of luck. 4 years of knowing me.. she doesn't know how she feels. 2 weeks of knowing him, she wants to date. She always says that she's sure to lose me as a boyfriend. Well. She's doing a damn good job of losing me as a friend. Any thoughts? Anybody gone through this? Link to post Share on other sites
Fritz Posted May 22, 2004 Share Posted May 22, 2004 Ahh, nice guy land and captain free therapist! The double whammy. You should have moved on earlier when she "wasn't sure" or whatever. Is this a one sided friendship or does she actually reciprocate as a friend? Regardless, you need to move on romance wise as it was never meant to be. Perhaps once you move past the feelings you have for her you can be friends unless shes the type of "friend" who runs to you for advice/crying shoulder but is mysteriously busy to help/talk to you etc.. Then just move on. As for your buddy, "bros before hoes" but I'd stop hanging around him if he knew how you felt about this girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spengles Posted May 23, 2004 Author Share Posted May 23, 2004 Originally posted by Fritz Ahh, nice guy land and captain free therapist! The double whammy. You should have moved on earlier when she "wasn't sure" or whatever. Is this a one sided friendship or does she actually reciprocate as a friend? Regardless, you need to move on romance wise as it was never meant to be. Perhaps once you move past the feelings you have for her you can be friends unless shes the type of "friend" who runs to you for advice/crying shoulder but is mysteriously busy to help/talk to you etc.. Then just move on. As for your buddy, "bros before hoes" but I'd stop hanging around him if he knew how you felt about this girl. Yeah, she does want me as a friend. I think, at least. After all the pain, it's pretty clear that things were never meant to be. I guess I feel pretty horrible how things have turned out. I never expected things to end like this. It's so frustrating but I guess it can't be helped. I do sometimes think that she takes me for granted since I've always tried to be there for her. He supposedly feels horrible about all that's happened. All he says is that he just wanted friends, and I know he's been lonely but.. it just hurts. Link to post Share on other sites
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