blugrl Posted May 22, 2004 Share Posted May 22, 2004 Im having trouble with my husband. He is lying to me about looking at porn. We have sex one to 3 times a week. I think he has been doing this behind my back ever since we have been together , 4 years. I can see if he gets bored with only me. I recently found out he made a profile and has been chatting with web cam girls. They are only 18 years old but they look 15 . He is 32. I feel there is something wrong with this. I am sick about it. Can anyone please give me advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 I think that while porn is no big thing (unless your husband is being a jerk about it) being in teen chatrooms, talking to girls and seeing them in webcam is, on the contrary, utterly out of line. Porn pics are just ready-to-use fantasies..... they are basically tools. Girl in chatrooms are real and you can interact with them. Even if he is 'just' chatting and not flirting with them/doing cybersex with them/seeing them naked in webcam (I didn't understand if he is just having frendly chats or X-rated chats from your post), it is absolutely inappropriate. If he is instead doing cyber-sex with them, it is called cheating. Did you discuss this with your husband? How did he react? Only advice I can think of is letting him know that if he goes on with this behaviour he is risking to blow up your marriage. And of course stopping to tolerate this sh*t from him. Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly_Queen Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 Hi, I'm not saying that he is having cybersex with them or talking dirty, whatever you want to call it. However I really don't think that a 32 year old man and teen girls really have anything in common to be discussing friendly. If he's having some sort of problem, I highly doubt they are having discussions about the weather etc. I would do as pyrannaste said and talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Hopefully he will come to his senses and stop. However, I do know from my experience sometimes they will tell you they have stopped when in fact they really haven't. Sometimes when people are caught in something they shouldn't be doing, they rarely stop, they just become better at hiding it. I would keep my eyes open as to what hes doing. Also look for changes in his behavior as well. Sometimes thats a dead give away as to what he may be lying about. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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