Stilnaught Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 Hey guys and girls, my girlfriend broke up with me, as she no longer had feelings (the butterfly way, and most likely also the love feeling. However, we're both under great college stress, so i don't know how much it is concealed in the situation for her) for me, and felt as if she was both not ready and too young for a relationship. She's not the kind of girl to kiss someone "just because she likes it". She's in fact capable of "blocking" love when she does not feel ready for it, as long as she's not overwhelmed (which i, apparantly, once managed to do). One really has to conquer her heart to get in. Now, our breakup was an endless soap, because she couldn't go on with me, but could not stand losing me. In the end, being together "a bit" did not work out (which any reasonable man could have predicted). We're now single, but i really like her. She gives me the "girl i've always waited for" feeling, and our breakup reasons are little to not at all related to personal issues. We did some stupid things due to being inexperienced, young, ... We were too clingy, and a bit boring, sitting together in her room for evenings. I realise all of these mistakes, and i'm working on both the issues and myself to become an even better man. But i would like to have her by my side again, one day. I'm actually asking the "friend zone escape" question here. We've been together for a long time, we were each others' first big love (and therefore i wish to believe, each others' standard to relationships). We're still very close friends, because we're very deep into each others' mind. She said she'll never find someone who can talk to her like i can, who understands her so well and who's always there for her like i am/was. Which makes me very wanted in her life, but i do not want to end up as her best friend forever ... I ask you guidance, your experiences and your opinions on my quest! Link to post Share on other sites
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norajane Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 I think some time apart is actually your best shot. Give her time to miss you. Don't be so much in her life. Right now, she has you if she wants you and she knows it. Right now, you are there for her whenever she wants. Right now, you are just enabling her to not date you by being around all the time - what is she not getting out of this relationship that SHE wants? She has everything she wants. Date other people. Seriously. It will do you a LOT of good. And might make her realize that you aren't going to sit around forever at her beck and call. Link to post Share on other sites
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