BeachChair Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 I was celebrating getting my first job with my friends on Friday night. I got really drunk and met a girl. I have a girlfriend of 2 years and love her to bits. With regret I kissed this other girl. Some of my friends later asked me if I cheated with her since we were 'getting quite close' to which I said no. I texted her and asked did I kiss her and she replied 'no definitely not'. I don't want to tell my girlfriend because it would tear her apart but should I? Or should I just leave everything alone and hope that my girlfriend doesn't find out? Link to post Share on other sites
YaOldBuckaroo Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 Hi BeachChair Well if your confident there'll be nobody telling you girlfriend what happened, and that you did nothing bad (like have sexual intercourse with the other girl) than why bother telling her? You were drunk and didn't intend to do whatever "getting quite close" was, so I wouldn't feel guilty, and wouldn't worry either. Max Link to post Share on other sites
ErgoStep Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 Even if you think of it as a one night stand. You're not trying to get attached to this other woman. Just burning off some hormones. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 I would not be cool with my guy doing that to me. I would want him to tell me ASAP. If it were me: I would not talk to him for a while, and make him appreciate and miss me. I would have some time off from the relationship, and , ultimately; if we are two fantastic ppl for each other, and we both have so much fun together, then I would resume things eventually. U should have to learn! Although u didnt mean it, it is slack and lazy, having that little self control! U should have stopped, and told your g./f that, after two years, u felt prone to cheating; not for love, but purely for the physical side. Perhaps discuss a more open relationship; one where u are alloud to go to a brothel, a high class clean one, once every year, just to keep your needs satisfied? Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Telling her would be the honorable thing to do. You hurt her even though she may not know it, and now you have to allow her to forgive you. Its the only way to balance things out. Be up front, tell her you effed up and it was all your fault. It still doesn't make it right, but at least you didn't go home with this person and up in bed. Link to post Share on other sites
ijdk Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Just tell her. It's the only way to be done with it. U will have to earn trust again but it is the right thing to do. It isn't that bad. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I was celebrating getting my first job with my friends on Friday night. I got really drunk and met a girl. I have a girlfriend of 2 years and love her to bits. With regret I kissed this other girl. Some of my friends later asked me if I cheated with her since we were 'getting quite close' to which I said no. I texted her and asked did I kiss her and she replied 'no definitely not'. I don't want to tell my girlfriend because it would tear her apart but should I? Or should I just leave everything alone and hope that my girlfriend doesn't find out? if you don't think your gf deserves the respect of knowing she is with a guy that will and did cheat, then at least stop going out and partying without her. you have proven you can't handle it and aren't mature enough. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Usually cheating is a symptom of something else. exactly. poor character Link to post Share on other sites
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