who says money can by happiniess

[snoopydogg]

I have a situation where I have a wife of 15 years. We are in our upper 40's. Up until 2 years ago our sex life was almost like something you might read about on forum magazine. We enjoyed one on one sessions as well as multi partner wild nights. WE were enjoying our sex life to say the least. Out of no where I I began to have problems with my business and it became a horrible burden on me and zoom!,.,.....at age 49 my sex drive began to dwindle. I began using illicit drugs like an idiot. She did also but not to the degree I did. Understand we are very well to do people in a very affluent neighborhood living the hog. Multi million dollar home, yacht, airplane, the vehicles, the whole bit, in short we were ballers! With the sudden change in business climate the pressure of keeping my wife and kids in accustomed life style was heavy...heavy on my mind. I let my family eat crow in front of all our friends, I mean 500 large a year doesn't cut it and my income was dwindling below even that figure! I was panicking. As I fretted and stressed and the drugs grew a bigger part of the equation my sex drive just stopped. My wife however, who has the body of a 24 year old that men goo goo over was as sexually motivated as ever. I would actually describe her as a sexual predator

 

My wife thoroughly believed I was elsewhere and was livid. We fought about it daily. She would call every number on my cell phone and accuse all the I knew of sleeping with me. She bought Vibes, , even a 1500 to satisfy herself. Then I believe it happened, she had to take a lover. She would remind me daily that she never stopped me. She reassured me over and over. Finally she began in the middle of the day with cell phone off. The it worked into her going on an errand at 9 or 10 and not returning until 4:30 to 5:30 again unreachable by phone. when confronted it was a new story every night. "I fell asleep in my car at 10:PM " drive another mile had to pull over and nap" yea sure , at 10 p.m 7 miles from home and waking up until; 5:00A.M.. extremely defensive when confronted and trying to turn it on me saying "I want to come home and just have you ignore me so I sleep in my car"...... .

 

Her friend has told me to wake the hell up. Yea she is a very very beautiful blond that I neglected for 18 months . I tested her three times (forgive me being such a ) with and all three times positive results. I even went a month to avoid my semen being detected instead of her "secret" lover . The result again a resounding POSITIVE. She has even complained to many of my male friends thta she walks around horny all day becuase I am no tasking care of her, tyat one is the worst hurt of all]. Mt friends have told me she does it in a way that she is letting them know she is available for casual sex. She has cheated on me oin the past with three of my friends but has confessed to onnly two when I was caught having a get even fling. We moved about 10 years ago from a place where her rep was that of being rather loose and yes, she cheated on me then whether she like to admit it or not. She is not very honest in this regard, her moto jokingly is "DENY TILL YOU DIE"",,,She does this In retaliation for whjat she believes I am doing.

 

It's my own stupid fault for being so centered around keeping her in the rich and spoiled , she loves it. I was told she even diddled her masseuse \\ and was told beyond a shadow of a doubt she had a three way without me. (we had plenty together). My is almost perfect. She will never under any any any or circumstance come clean with me and will deny till she dies. That my is where the pain comes in . had to seek elsewhere when I was unable, I had plenty of warning, fine . She still loves me and never leave me a fact. Then how come she will not trust me enough with her feelings and burdens such as this, to share theses things and clear her . She is making her miserable (and me) toting this baggage around, DAMN IT! I can deal with sex for means to an end the lying and make me want to scream. IT is the only thing stopping me from snatching her up like we just met again. I look at her knowing she is lying will kill us. Truthfulness will put me back in her arms again , as I do understand why people cheat and I love her dearly. But I need a wife who Can trust me with whatever cross she is bearing. Not one who goes way out to keep it from me. Why wont she make her life happy again and clear all this up, Why wont she let us move ahead with otherwise wonderful marriage. I already know for a damn fact but I want to hear her tell me, confide in me not her friends! refuses to say it!

[moimeme]

If you're that rich, you should have been able to buy yourself the services of the best physicians. Have you taken care of your issues? Ditched the drugs? As for your wife, why would you want to keep her? She's likely not being truthful because she figures it'll end her days of living high. There are plenty of quality women who would not abandon you in times of trouble.

 

It's not that money doesn't buy happiness; it's that no amount of money can imbue a person with common sense.

[momof5]

Hmm.. what can you say to that? I guess the first thing that I wonder is who is taking care of your children while all of this is going on? The drugs, the sex, the cheating, that all comes last. Have you taken care of the drug issues? The drugs for the both of you. It sounds like you are n love with this woman, or addicted to this woman.

 

The power of the p*ssy is extremely powerful. It's as bad as the power of the penis. I know, I've been there. I found out that I was codependent. Perhaps you are too?

 

Have you stepped back and taken a look at your life and asked yourself what you want for yourself and your family? Are your ready to grow up and take control of your life? You might find out that the life you wanted when you were 10 or even as a naive college graduate is still possible at 40-something.

 

You know, I've experienced both sides of this issue.. I was married with young kids (3 & 4)..and I cheated..the lies..coming home late.. I just wanted out. I got out and I was lucky that it didn't affect my kids like I thought it would. Then came that obsessive love... The all consuming love/lust that I never thought would burn out. I would have done anything for that man (the power of the penis). But he left me when I was 7 months pregnant. Met a girl, loved the drugs, needed to rave. Now I have the other life.. husband bringing home 3 not 5 like you, but he has this internet porn thing going on.

 

I apologize, I've digresses. This is about you! In my humble opinion and drawing on my life experiences.. I think you need to start working on YOU! You are addicted to your energizer bunny wife of yours and to drugs. Get off the both of them. Take care of your kids and grow up!

 

Deal with the responsibilities of real life. You and your wife have set boundaries for your lifestyle and she has crossed them. Is that what you deserve? You're a business man. You're practical. It’s time you and your wife make a new business plan. Get your priorities straight. If we didn't have the cash or the million dollar house (no boat).. guess what, I'd still love him. We'd have each other and our kids and it would all work itself out.

 

You are too valuable to your friends and family to self-destruct. Pull it together man. If you do it with the wife great, but she doesn't have a clue at this point. Look at it through the eyes of your kids.. Would you find this situation acceptable for your children? If your son told you this was his existence you would do everything in your power to extricate him from the situation. Step back and remove yourself from this situation!