confused

[star]

Well im not sure where to start but here goes. I am living with the father of my 2 kids i love him but things i think are not going so well. I have recently met a guy in a chat room and he has fallen in love with me. I am in love with him to but i feel i should stay with my current boyfriend for the sake of the kids. What do i do please help.

[Tony T]

Confused...wow, you were absolutely correct about that!!!

 

Just how do you fall in love with a guy in a chatroom??? This is all in your head, in your imagination. Before you go much further in life, you need to learn more about what love is. And once you do, it takes a hell of a lot more than love to make a successful relationship.

 

This is way too complicated for me to even know where to start...but suffice it to say that until you learn more about love and life, stay with your boyfriend.

 

Later, learn why it is not productive or good for the kids to stay with someone for their sake. Then learn the components of a good relationship (caring, committment, communications, shared goals, shared views about children, shared views about finances, respect for each other's religious views, common interests, open mindedness, forgiveness, loyalty, honesty, sense of humor, etc. etc.) People online are not going to show you their true stuff. You have got to be with them in person.

 

Learn why it takes a whole lot more than love...like some of the things listed above...to make a healthy and successful relationship.

 

Your children will suffer greatly if you don't teach them the meaning of real love and give them a home filled with love, security, discipline, understanding, concern, etc.

 

If you will tell me just how you fell in love with a guy online and vice versa, how you are able to tell, what that feeling is all about, I would really appreciate it.

 

Meanwhile, just sit still and don't make any hasty decisions about your future. Study up!!!

[Deejette]

I have found that the quicker someone tells me they have fallen in love with me, the sooner the relationship turns sour. Love takes time. It is so easy to come across as fun and adorable in a chat room. You don't see what they are like in real life. One friend of mine fell in love with a guy on the internetk, who turned out to be a girl. Another friend sold her house to move in with a guy from the internet. She found out he was an alcoholic and his live-in son was a heroin addict. Meanwhile she had uprooted her life, quit her job, to be with him!

Well im not sure where to start but here goes. I am living with the father of my 2 kids i love him but things i think are not going so well. I have recently met a guy in a chat room and he has fallen in love with me. I am in love with him to but i feel i should stay with my current boyfriend for the sake of the kids. What do i do please help.