spanky Posted May 23, 2004 Share Posted May 23, 2004 I'm just wondering how all of you feel about females calling males after first meeting. My mother always raised me to NEVER call a guy because they'll lose interest quick if it seems as though you are pursuing him. I have been broken up from my b/f for 2 weeks now and I just got to the point where I have realized that we are not gonna be together forever (I fell in love and he broke up with me). So to get my mind off of the situation I've been mingling out to clubs and have met some very cute guys. They have all pursued me and they have all followed through by calling me the next day. Well, one of them is breathtakingly beautiful and he called once to ask me to dinner. Unfortunately, I had to work and he worked all the days that I am off. Well, I've been trying to stand my ground by not calling him but I haven't heard from him for 5 days now. Should I call? I'm afraid to call. I want him to think that I have way better things to do besides call him wondering where he's at! He should call me. I don't know what I should be doing. Need some advice. Thanks! Spanks Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 23, 2004 Share Posted May 23, 2004 Of course you should call him! Surely your mother taught you how to be polite? And it's only polite to return someone's phone call (& you better hurry, he's probably thinking you're not interested). Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted May 23, 2004 Moderators Share Posted May 23, 2004 No WAY should ANY woman call a man...unless she wants to actually get a date with that guy. Judge yourself accordingly, and let us start thinkin' outside our culturally enforced "boxes" ppl. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 23, 2004 Share Posted May 23, 2004 I want him to think that I have way better things to do besides call him wondering where he's at! He should call me Heaven forbid that he get the impression you like him! Funny thing, though; this board is awash in posts from men and boys asking 'do you think she likes me' because they don't want to make a call unless they have some hope of success. You turned him down once already; basic politeness, if nothing else, dictates that it's your turn to call. Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted May 23, 2004 Share Posted May 23, 2004 "Well, I've been trying to stand my ground by not calling him" I don't understand this - what are you standing up for? Your right to be left alone? Your right not to show anyone you are interested in them? Your right to let life pass you be so you can "stand your ground"? Take a chance...live a little...let your heart race and pound in your chest...pick up that phone now!!! ...and best of luck but you'd better come up with a good excuse for waiting so long or he's going to think that there is some reason you didn't call him (another man, not interested, etc.) maybe you can tell him you were having "open heart" surgery! Cheers A.G. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spanky Posted May 24, 2004 Author Share Posted May 24, 2004 Thanks!!! I called the beautiful guy and he was totally stoked. We have a date tomorrow night. So I hope this helps me to become more excited about dating again. I'm still in MUCH pain from my break-up and still feel as though I desperately want him back. Who knows though, maybe this new guy could be 100 X better than the last one. It was so sweet. I called and the first thing he says to me is, "Hello beautiful!" He was so happy & he did say he was gonna call later because apparently, I told him to call me in the beginning of the week so we could set up a date. He was just waiting for the beginning of the week to come. Well, I'll update everyone tomorrow. Thanks! Spanks Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted May 24, 2004 Moderators Share Posted May 24, 2004 [color=red]You go girl! I'm so happy that you made that call. See? Doesn't it feel GREAT now that you've called? You go get 'im tiger! Rawwrrr!!!![/color] Curt Clapping in Background! Link to post Share on other sites
Author spanky Posted May 24, 2004 Author Share Posted May 24, 2004 Yeah, it is very exciting. Oh what to wear, what to wear, what to wear??? Spanky Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 Good for you! My mother told me never to call boys also. I broke that little rule a long time ago. Have fun on your date! Let us know how it goes. -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
MsLandon Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 I am so happy for you!!! Good luck. And yes, please keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
Author spanky Posted May 25, 2004 Author Share Posted May 25, 2004 HELLO everybody!!! The date was awesome. He arrived to pick me up early and he met my 5 year old who was very curious and suspicious. We went to this little Mexican restaurant and had dinner and drinks. He flattered me all evening with complements concerning my life choices and appearance. He was genuinely interested in me rather than himself. Nice change. Last guy talked about himself non-stop during our first date and phone conversations. There is ONE CATCH!!!!! When we arrived at the restaurant, the first couple of people I ran into just happened to be my ex-boyfriend's (of two weeks) Captain and wife. What if they go back and tell that they saw me out with another dude? My ex dumped me, so, he shouldn't care right? I think I still want him back except, this is kind of fun! Why does there always have to be a catch? Thanks for all the advice!! Spanks Link to post Share on other sites
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