soomangoo Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. My best friend set me up with her boyfriends best friend. We were each others first everything. We rarely fight, when we do its usually my fault in bringing something stupid up haha. We don't go to school together, we are about 2hrs apart. But anyways we are on a break right now. For about a week. Away at school, I cuddled with a guy friend. I always had this little crush on him, probably cause he is like my bf and is me coping with being away from my bf for so long, I don't know. But he likes me too... So i decided i need to take a break, see what single life is like for a week, but not go around with other guys, just to see how I am without my bf. And well it sucks. I miss him and just want to talk to him now. But I cuddled with my friend before the break...and now once during the break...and i realize cuddling is considered cheating and i feel horrible. I can't believe how stupid I can be. I think i have come to the realization that I want to be with my boyfriend. And I want to tell him about the cuddling...to be honest. Am i just messed up?? Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 I think i have come to the realization that I want to be with my boyfriend. And I want to tell him about the cuddling...to be honest. Am i just messed up?? That should be a forgiveable sin... provided he actually believes that just "cuddling" occurred. I think you are honor bound to tell him if you wish to have any kind of romantic relationship with him moving forward. Take some time before you decide what to do and think about how you would react if he admitted something like this to you. Would you believe him? Would you be angry... distrustful... ect? This will help you know how to bring the subject up. I believe once you two get past this... your relationship will be much stronger. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 Away at school, I cuddled with a guy friend. I always had this little crush on him then you can drop the "friend" title. So i decided i need to take a break, see what single life is like for a week, but not go around with other guys, just to see how I am without my bf. And well it sucks. I miss him and just want to talk to him now. But I cuddled with my friend before the break...and now once during the break...and i realize cuddling is considered cheating and i feel horrible. I can't believe how stupid I can be. Well, I would consider it, at the very least, emotional betrayal, and because you crush on this guy. but are you sure you only cuddled? Somehow since you crushed on him, and he likes you the same way, I can't see that is all you did. But if I take your word on it, I suppose it isn't the worst thing you could have done. I think i have come to the realization that I want to be with my boyfriend. And I want to tell him about the cuddling...to be honest. Then you also need to end the "friendship" with this guy. If I forgave a girl for any kind of cheating, then hanging out with that guy, or any other guy ALONE, would be a dealbreaker. Ask yourself, would you want your bf to be "friends" with a girl he had designs on and cheated on you with in any way? I think the answer would be "no" Link to post Share on other sites
Author soomangoo Posted November 15, 2011 Author Share Posted November 15, 2011 Yeah I know. I told him that our relationship is no more... Link to post Share on other sites
Desensitized Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 OP, I would tell your boyfriend. He might be pissed for a while, but I still think that your relationship is salvageable. Link to post Share on other sites
Mare2 Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I think you need to talk to your boyfriend, and see where his head is at. Maybe you need to take your books and go to him, snuggle with him and study with him. I would not tell him anything about the 'snuggle'. No need to . Don't borrow trouble. Learn from this. Guys DON'T forgive that! Let me tell you young people, this "I must be honest" is crap. Sometimes it is kinder to withhold information that serves no purpose in telling, all it does is cause needless pain for your partner. Just learn from it. Don't do it again, and get over it. You sound like a nice young girl, who feels badly. That shows you have a moral compass. Good for you. Tell him if you feel you need to, but I seriously would think about that. You did not have some wild night of passion, and sex, its sounds more like comfort. Just someone to hold you for a spell. Don't make it more than it was. Take care young lady, I wish you well - oh, and I'm proud for you, as you appear to have a good heart. Good for you. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Yeah I know. I told him that our relationship is no more... thats good. most people in your situation seem to think keeping someone as a friend after being in your situation is just fine and dandy Link to post Share on other sites
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