Mare2 Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Long story, I had to be out of town for about 1 1/2 years for work, we flew to see each other about every 3 months, I spent this past summer with him as well. So, now I have accepted a job back home. Here is the problem, while I was gone, he seems to have gotten fairly close to a few women whom I despise. We have had a few quarells about them. Since Ive been gone, he has been hanging out at a certain bar, which, when I was home all last summer we NEVER went to, well we did once and the bartender who used to be nice to me, (one of the women we quarelled about) she did not even acknowledge me. Her friend has chased my guy for ever. SHE hangs out there to. So now I am going home and he said THEY will have an issue with me being home? WTF? We have been kind of arguing about this, then to top it off, tonight he casually mentions that he has gone out with them a few times "in a group'. Oh, so? I go out in groups, not one of those guys would care if my BOYFRIEND showed up!! Has he been cheating on me??????? What do I do???? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mare2 Posted November 17, 2011 Author Share Posted November 17, 2011 I think the same thing. I feel like when I go back I am going to have the rug pulled out from under me. I don't want to argue with him, but I am FURIOUS. I have been loyal, I have sent his daughter money as she was struggling, I have always been here for him and his kids! He seems to be skimming by these little stories, as soon as he mentioned that one get together, I said "Oh really?" then suddenly he had to go and take another call. He knew I was very very upset about it, he swears nothing has gone on, and he has been faithful. He knew I was having trouble sleeping over all of this and have been having anxiety attacks, and has been very loving and supportive, but HE is the cause of it! What kind of signs should I be looking for? I have never been in this situation before and am not sure how to handle this. Link to post Share on other sites
BeyondtheClouds Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 I thought this link was interesting. Perhaps this can get a discussion started. http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/harmless-flirting-or-a-trust-issue/2011/11/02/gIQAVHahPN_story.html Are you living with this guy? Do you see each other regularly? Do you get the feeling that a lot of his choices /decisions have been influenced by these women? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mare2 Posted November 19, 2011 Author Share Posted November 19, 2011 No we don't live together, we do see each other almost every night when I'm home, he stays at my house, me at his, 99 percent of the time. I'm going to check out your link Link to post Share on other sites
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