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I am a single guy and am having trouble when it comes to getting a girlfriend. I am a confident guy who does actually try when I'm out at the bar or parties to talk to girls and get there phone numbers.

 

I always seem to get numbers and it never works out after that. I either get awkward phone conversations or sometimes no answers at all to messages I leave on their voicemail.

 

I recently got a phone number from this girl and I have talked to her a few times on the phone but we haven't yet hung out. She seems to like talking to me but when it comes up to hang out it is like well I don't know what I'm up to tonight.

 

I have been told I'm cute and fun. People see me differently then I see myself. I would describe myself as an average nice guy who likes to have a good time. I have been in some serious relationships where I have been burned badly by in the past, so it gets harder to play the field each time that happens.

 

What am I doing wrong? What can I do differently? What is it girls are truly looking for? Because I seem to not have a clue.

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Well in response to your question about what us girls are looking for. I don't think we are looking for anything in general it just happens if the chemistry is there. Personally based on expereince I do not think that meeting girls in bars or at parties are going to result in anything serious. I know but where else do you go? I am a single woman in the same situation and I always end up in those scenes as well but there is not enough people in them that are seeking what we are. Most women in that enviroment I think are just looking to flirt, hang out, get free drinks or just get the attention but not looking for more.

 

I would not say you are doing anythingwrong because I feel the same way but you know what it will happen when the time is right until then just go have fun and enjoy you while you can. I think that if you put to much pressure on finding someone you won't it just has to happen naturally....

 

I hope that I helped you and trust me hun I know what your going through. feel free to respond to me if you want more advice or just want to talk, we can share the perspectives of male vs female.

 

-Colleen

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  • 2 weeks later...

You should not try to meet girls at the bars. Try going to other functions like charities. There is a better, more sober croud.

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