beckinator1120 Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 My boyfriend is in the Marines and is leaving in July to be stationed in Japan for a year. We are currently in a long distance relationship - he is in North Carolina and I am in Michigan. We have decided to stay together while he is in Japan. The thing that worries me is that we won't be able to see eachother and talking on the phone is going to get expensive - we will have e-mail and regular mail and have agreed to e-mail as much as we can. I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to keep our relationship strong being so far away from eachother. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 strength comes from within each person. So, depending on how well you know each other go from there. I for example could be in a ldr, even without communication...but I'm a freak and prolly can't find anyone else with that kind of fortitude best I could tell the average "joe" is to email each other in a manner like writing in a journal or diary. Sharing your most intimate of thoughts, daily routines, etc. That way you can remind each other of who you are...you know, the reasons you fell for each other, and not just by simple words like "i love you". Link to post Share on other sites
girliegurl66 Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 i'm in the same situation as you guys. i'm going out with this guy and he's in iraq right now, but he's going to be going back to Germany for 6 months,and then stationed somewhere else in the states for 6 months again, then back to Iraq for 6 months. i know it's going to be really hard, but hope everything goes well. i don't know what to do also. do you think this will work? please give me some advice on this LDR. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 First of all, gather all the information you can. Like the phone. I am su sure that it's not even close to how expensive you think it is. If you intend to speak to him an hour a day, I guarantee you it'll get expensive!!! Then there's internet, the web cams the letters.... please, it's not nearly as difficult as you think it is. My ex and I had a LDR when I came to P. We did not break up because of the distance and those three months were not that bad. Mind you, before leaving we had been together for 4 years and lived together for 2. Anyway, it can be a very tough test. I think the key to succes is to be talking constantly, to keep communicating and to be there for the other person. Worst thing you can do is not care how he's changing. How him being in a foreign culture affects him. Just keep all the channels opened. Otherwise, when he cames back, you'll find him so changed, you won't believe he's the same man you fall inlove with. People change within a year even if they don't change the environment. Try to imagine what being on your own on another continent can do. Good thing is he's got his mates, so he's not completely alone. Keep an eye on your changing too . I hope you (both of you girls) shall have the courage to wait for your men and be there for them. Good luck to you, Curly Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 I see that AIM and the other instant message programs have voice capability. I've never tried them, but wouldn't that be a way around phone bills? Link to post Share on other sites
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