nyc12 Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 i took her for granted while we were together, and now that we're broken up I can't help but think how perfect everything was. I wish I had put more effort into things. I wish I married her now. why do I have all these feelings AFTER the breakup. it's so hard to deal with especially thinking now that she was the ONE and I lost her. Link to post Share on other sites
fallenheart Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 I'm feeling it too man. When we were together I knew in the back of my mind that she was not the girl I wanted to spend my life with. After I got it all out and we broke up, I INSTANTLY regretted the decision and wanted her back!! Human nature I guess. But she's not "The One." Cause there's no such thing...it's just an idea fabricated to sell books and movies and products. The truth is, there are hundreds of "The One"s. Thousands even! There are so many girls out there you have no chance of meeting even a tiny fraction of them! The trick is to find one that you think will be good for the long haul, keeping in mind that nobody's perfect. If this girl wasn't a girl you can spend your life with, you better go back out and find another one!! That's what I'm doing!!! Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 its hard, either you talk to her and listen what she's got to say, don't say stuff like "i will change or something like that" just explain that you messed up and never meant to hurt her, dont try to explain yourself to much. or go NC for a while and let her contact you, if she comes back to you, then you know she's still got feelings for you Link to post Share on other sites
Author nyc12 Posted November 16, 2011 Author Share Posted November 16, 2011 this is so incredibly hard. i wish i could go back in time. i had so many chances to fix things and i ignored the warning signs. i knew this was coming. and then once it did - thats when my brain goes into this mode of desperation. its weird. before i wasnt sure if i was still in love with her. now it feels like ive never loved anyone so much. i just want her part of my life again. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Look bud, I've had the same feelings. I've been in the same state as well, blaming yourself for things and trying to make it all out to be your fault. It wasn't, and it isn't. You will learn about yourself from this and you will move on. You may have loved her more than anyone else, but there are others out there who you will love even more. If the both of you were happy in the relationship then it would still be going. She made mistakes as well and your happiness matters as well. Keep busy when you get down like this and remind yourself that you will be happier in the future. "This would, it is a temporary thing, and will fade with time. It was necessary... some things may only be learned from sacrifice." Link to post Share on other sites
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