LITTLEMISSPINK Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 Right, i really need some help here! i am 24 years old and have been in a relationship for 7 years, he was my first boyfriend and i have grown up with him and done everything with him, only trouble is i think i have fallen out of love with him. I love him but i don't think i am in love with him anymore, he feels more like a brother to me, i absolutely know he is my soul mate, he is my best friend but it feels like that is all he is now, i can't bear for him to touch me intimately anymore as it feels completely wrong! i have felt like this for about a year and have tried to work it out but it seems to be getting worse. we have bought a house together and live together. we have talked about it and he has said it is because we are both under quite a lot of pressure but to be honest i don't think the stress is having an effect on how i feel. he says he is still completely in love with me and i really don't want to hurt him but i can't help but think that if i stayed with him i would be living my life as a compromise. i am scared and don't know what to do because i have no previous experience of this, would i be making the wrong desicion to leave him? how do i know for sure? please help me!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Reality Check Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 I admire your honesty... I can sense the anxiety you now feel. It takes courage to admit what you are admitting, and your not a bad person for feeling the way you feel. Maybe it's the 7 year itch? Maybe you are curious about seeing what else is out there.......... but what if what is out there is not better, but what if it is? About the house....? Well... another reason why people should not shack up together until they are sure. All I can say is you have done the first step... admit that there is a problem, what you need to do is to have a one on one with your heart, mind and soul. Love does not take breaks, or seperates.... and here's more to add pressure... it only happens once. Yes... for some its not real to think this way. But the fact of the matter, is that it really only happens once...... so if you do not feel it now, then it's not the one... or maybe curiosity has gotten the better of you, and maybe you want to explore.... but hey you know what they say about curiosity, right? I don't think I have given you any real advice... maybe more ammo for your thoughts....... but just know that it takes courage to admit what you've admitted... now it takes more courage to do, what you are pondering on doing... exactly what that is? Well.... after your one on one... it will be clearer. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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