a little lost

[MW3]

Hello everyone, I am new here and need advice from others besides friends.

 

Quick back round on myself. I am a 34 year old professional who is divorced with the 2 greatest kids in the world. My ex and I split very amicably and are still great friends and still spend holidays together, even with her new husband who works for me and who is a great guy and friend. Strange isn't it? I am a very confident person when it comes to business but a little on the shy side when it comes to the ladies. i have been told that I am very handsome, have a great body, am funny as hell, blah, blah, blah but thats just my female friends talking. ( Most of my friends are female which is alright with me )

 

Anyway, there is a married couple who i have been friends with since elementary school. We are all close and our kids play together and everything else.

 

well about 3 months ago they came to my place and wanted to know what i thought about a threesome. This would include my pal, myself and HIS WIFE???...Jesus....I declined and that was that.

 

However they have been hounding me about this and i stand my ground every time. I am just not too comfortable with the idea of sleeping with my friends wife..Call me crazy I guess.

 

I did have a threesome years ago with 2 female friends of mine which was alright but very uncomfortable for me. I am still friends with both of them and we were all single at the time but I still get bugged about it from time to time in a fun way from the 2 of them about my "cute shyness" and such.

 

Well anyway, the couple in question come to my place again and keep talking too me about this and I finally said " I will think about it". Then they give me a sheet of paper that says "RULES OF THE GAME" on it.

I am NOT MAKING THIS UP, RULES? So i read and shake my head then they say they have never done this before and want to try it with someone they know and trust.

 

Oh and this is his wife's idea to "spice up their sex life".

 

A couple days later they just show up to my place and we are having a few drinks, chatting away, no kids around and she asks me again and stupid me I say " well i guess we can try"

 

So this is how it goes down and If I offend anyone I do apologize.

 

we are on my deck and it starts there and moves into my living room, she starts taking of her clothes and my pal does the same but I just freeze. I was a lot more uncomfortable with this than I thought I would be. suddenly she walks right up too me and starts kissing me. I look over at my friend and he has this distraught look on his face so I pushed her away, remembering the "RULES". They start kissing and I don't know what im supposed to do. she gets on her knees and starts doing "Things" to him and starts touching me as well. she unbuckles my pants and I take them off and she starts doing " stuff' too me as well. I start slugging my beer back as fast as i can. they move to the couch and start going at it like dogs, in MY OWN HOUSE.

 

I am just standing there and remember thinking how the hell do i get out of this. I could feel myself getting very hot and flustered like i was burning up and just breathing was getting hard for me. I was extremely nervous and sweating more than normal.

Now this is were it gets weird. I guess its my turn, he pulls out and shes just staring at me. she sits up and pulls me into her but no inside her. I can remember that time literally stopped and everything felt like slow motion to me.

I look over at my buddy and he has this look like someone he loved just died and i remember thinking "what the hell are we doing".

I slowly get up and back up and grab my pants off the floor.

 

Now as I am doing this his wife shoots up, grabs her clothes off the floor and storms out of my patio door giving ME the finger. What the Hell????

 

My pal and I are standing there and he says he thought he was ready for this but clearly he wasn't and thanked me. then I told him I never wanted this which he completely understood and felt terrible about the entire thing.

 

i told him to get her back here so we could hug and laugh about it and drink some more. well she had actually taken the car home and left him with me.

he cabbed it home about an hour later.

 

Well the next day i texted them but never got a response. I called but no answer?

 

haven't talked to them in 8 days now? mutual friends of our came to visit and had told me that she's "pissed at me"? and that he cant see me anymore??? What the Hell?????

 

I have known them for 25 years and I miss them terribly. friends of our know what happened, from them and tell me " let it go", "don't feel bad" "shes over reacting", etc.

 

I do not understand what i did with the exception of looking ridiculous but at the same time I feel like i got guilt ed into something that I had NO DESIRE to do at all.

 

Now there upset with me? What the hell?????

 

Anyone have any idea how I can fix this, fast???

 

sorry about the length of this post, I am just really upset right now.

Edited November 18, 2011 by MW3

[beforedawn]

Sounds like a threesome gone bad. maybe you should just keep on contacting your friend through texts and calls till he answers

not sure why the lady gave you the finger but obviously has some issue with either you or her hubby.

 

yourself into a very sticky situation but you should have knew better

 

thats why we always say to stay away from married couples and the sexual fantasies they like to play

Just not worth the grief- just keep calling or go over there

 

MY 2 CENTS