lsmitty66 Posted November 18, 2011 Share Posted November 18, 2011 I have always been close with my mom. My now husband and I have been together for many years and just recently got married. There was a little tension between my mom and husband before we got married because of personality differences, but they would be nice to each other for the most part. At the wedding, there was some drama over pictures because we were constantly be pulled away to take pictures and when my mom came to ask us for a few more, he got exasperated, but took the pictures and this exasperation offended my mom. She got very upset that night and the next day. She kept crying and saying she did not know how to act around him. She has vented to me about it a few times, but only because I asked. I'm not sure if this is just familial growing pains because my mom and I have always been close, or if I should be really concerned. I don't want to alienate my mom, but I feel like putting my husband first is going to be a problem in her and my relationship. HELP! So confused.... Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted November 18, 2011 Share Posted November 18, 2011 I have always been close with my mom. My now husband and I have been together for many years and just recently got married. There was a little tension between my mom and husband before we got married because of personality differences, but they would be nice to each other for the most part. At the wedding, there was some drama over pictures because we were constantly be pulled away to take pictures and when my mom came to ask us for a few more, he got exasperated, but took the pictures and this exasperation offended my mom. She got very upset that night and the next day. She kept crying and saying she did not know how to act around him. She has vented to me about it a few times, but only because I asked. I'm not sure if this is just familial growing pains because my mom and I have always been close, or if I should be really concerned. I don't want to alienate my mom, but I feel like putting my husband first is going to be a problem in her and my relationship. HELP! So confused.... Always put your husband first. He is your top priority and the guy you'll be coming home to every night. Other than that, try to act as peacemaker as best you can. But don't let your mother cause trouble between you and your husband. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 18, 2011 Share Posted November 18, 2011 Growing pains. Nothing serious. It will get better with time. Ask your hubby to be extra nice to mom for a while. Things will settle in once your mom sees that 1) you are happy, and 2) hubby is NOT taking you away from her - she needs to see that you and she will still be close. Put hubby first, but respect your mother. It should work out fine. Link to post Share on other sites
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