40 and still haven't started living

[betterdeal]

Have a look at http://www.tda.gov.uk/ which is the government agency set up to recruit more teachers. As you'll have a teaching qualification, I am guessing you can fast-track but check with them. Call their helpline and find out. Also have a look at http://www3.open.ac.uk/study/undergraduate/education/pgce/index.htm - the Open University is a distance learning specialist.

 

You can get a room in a shared house for £300-£600 a month all bills included in most areas outside London (and I'd recommend not living in London, especially as a teacher). Maybe not perfect, but it doesn't have to be permanent and in the words it's the imperfections that make it perfect. Your living costs can be very affordable to start with if you set your mind to it.

 

As for your finances, contact a debt counselling charity and see what advice they have to offer. Managing your money is just another discipline in life, which can be learned and improved. Fundamentally, prioritise in this order: rent, food, energy, work, tax, debt.

[josie54]

I may be single and alone, but at least I'm not your fiancee. He's unknowingly in an awful position.

 

 

Very sweet of you to say.

 

He has a choice in this as well--he could leave. I've let him know I was having trouble, and he chooses to stay. I should make the choice, but he could make a choice as well. It's not all on me.

Edited November 22, 2011 by josie54

[josie54]

I agree. Where there's a will, there's a way. And I definitely have a strong will. I just have to use it for good instead of evil (i.e. stupid financial mistakes amongst other foibles).

 

 

Writergal, I agree with everyone else here that you can be in debt, and pay it off, from anywhere in the world. People move and change jobs/countries all the time, even if they do have debts to pay. So start looking for jobs in the UK--you'll find yourself there in no time.

[stillafool]

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I just feel angry with myself for my past choices and mistakes because that's why I'm single, 40 and miserable now.

 

Why do you think your past choices and mistakes are the reason you are single?

[Eeyore79]

I think sometimes when you're lonely or your current relationship is unsatisfactory, it's tempting to think back to past loves and convince yourself that they were right for you, or that you made a mistake, etc. But it's often just nostalgia and the desire to be living a different life, not necessarily a genuine desire to be with that person. Your ex is married with kids, so it isn't even worth thinking about him - you obviously weren't right for each other, or else you wouldn't have split up.

 

It sounds like you aren't deeply in love with your fiance and you have other life goals which are more important to you than being with him. There's still time for you to meet someone else - a British man, if you so wish. Finish your teaching course and look into moving to the UK, if you think that's what will make you happy.

 

Firstly, I found this: http://www.tda.gov.uk/get-into-teaching/teacher-training-options/overseas-trained-teacher-programme.aspx It looks like if you did teacher training outside the UK, you can still get a teaching job in the UK and do on-the-job training to get the appropriate UK qualification. So you could apply for UK jobs as soon as you finish your studies.

 

Secondly, I found this: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/educationnews/8531718/Schools-get-more-power-to-employ-foreign-teachers.html It looks like the UK is going to start accepting non-UK teaching qualifications as being equivalent to UK qualifications. If this is implemented before you move there, then you probably wouldn't need any additional training, and you could just walk into a job (especially because you're already a UK citizen).